Personal
Relationships
Quarter 2 – Module 1
1. What do you understand
by this word?
2. Have you ever felt and
experience this word?
3. Give examples and
instances based on your
experiences?
1. Relationship
- a relation between people; a state of
connectedness between people (especially an
emotional connection)
2. Personal relationships
- relationships between people, especially those
between friends, lovers and family.
Relationships are not static;
they are continually evolving, and
to fully enjoy and benefit from
them we need skills, information,
inspiration, practice, and social
support.
Three kinds of personal
relationships
*Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in
any discussion of relationships, but this varies greatly from
person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines family
as "two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household." But many people have family they don't live
with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the
roles of family vary across cultures as well as throughout
your own lifetime.
*Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a
close tie between two people that is
often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests,
proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends can turn to each other in
times of need. Nicholas Christakis
and James Fowler, find that the
average person has about six close
ties—though some have more, and
many have only one or none.
*Partnerships
Romantic partnerships,
including marriage, are
close relationships
formed between two
people that are built
upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic
love. We usually
experience this kind of
relationship with only
one person at a time.
3. Love
- strong affection for
another arising out of
kinship or personalities.
- attraction based on
sexual desire: affection
and tenderness felt by
lovers
- affection based on
admiration,
benevolence, or common
interests.
4. Commitment
- the act of binding
yourself (intellectually or
emotionally) to a course
of action
5. Attraction
- attractive quality;
magnetic charm;
fascination; allurement;
enticement
- a person or thing that
draws, attracts, allures, or
entices
6. Responsibility
- a form of
trustworthiness; the trait
of being answerable to
someone for something or
being responsible for
one’s conduct
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
ARE IMPORTANT
Healthy relationships are a vital component of
health and well-being. There is compelling evidence that
strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and
happy life.
• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that
people with strong social relationships are 50% less
likely to die prematurely.
• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring
friend can provide a buffer against the effects of
stress.
• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist
Sheldon Cohen, college students who reported having
strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to the virus.
• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of
Economic Research of 5,000 people found that
doubling your group of friends has the same effect on
your wellbeing as a 50% increase in income!
On the other hand, low social support is linked to several
health consequences, such as:
• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly
associated with depression, and now research is
backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of breast
cancer patients found that those with fewer
satisfying social connections experienced higher
levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.
• Decreased immune function. The authors of the
same study also found a correlation between loneliness
and immune system dysregulation, meaning that a lack
of social connections can increase your chances of
becoming sick.
• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago
researchers who studied a group of 229 adults over five
years found that loneliness could predict higher blood
pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of
isolation have long-lasting consequences.
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating.
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including
questions around your gender, or your partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have
‘changed’ significantly for whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first
place!
12. Lack of responsibility
13Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner /
spouse is the princess / knight and not seeing the 'real'
human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the
relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your
relationships with family or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility
for chores and tasks.
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration /
attentiveness
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that
lead to a change in relationship dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues
suffered by one partner or both
23. Significant differences in opinion
24. Long-term stress
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or
significant problems after the birth of your baby.
10 WAYS TO EXPRESS LOVE
1. Express gratitude. Tell someone how much you
appreciate their presence in your life.
2. Send flowers. Do it for no reason other than to say,
“Thank you for being you.”
3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a
date if you must, in your own home or at a quiet little
neighborhood place, for coffee or a drink and just listen
to each other’s thoughts.
4. Keep anger at bay. During stressful times think
of this image. If an ember flies from a fireplace onto
your rug, it will burn a hole. Flick it off immediately
and the rug is safe.
5. Be thoughtfully generous with gifts.
Remember what is special about a person in your life
and buy gifts that are unique to them.
6. Order fortune cookies. Find ones with love
sayings. You might also intersperse with gratitude
sayings.
7. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or
someone you care about, “What can I do for you today
that will make your life easier and less stressful?” Then do
it.
8. Write a note. Here’s a simple start: “I am so grateful
that you are in my life. I love you for a million reasons.
Here are the top three.”
9. Make time. Arrange to be together for events that
bring you both pleasure.
10. Be forgiving. We all have quirks. When one surfaces
that makes you want to scream, either gently say
something or switch to the positive-quality channel.
ACTIVITY
A Love Letter To Your Special One In Your Life
Materials Needed: Short Bond Paper, Coloring
Materials
Directions: In your bond paper make a Love Letter to
your Parents, Friend/s or Special Someone, make it
colorful and sweet