Personal
Development
LESSON 10
BUILDING AND MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS
LEGARDA Q. SOBRAVILLA FIRST SEMESTER
Instructor I, CED-Laboratory School SCHOOL YEAR 2022-2023
Objectives
At the end of the lesson, learners will be
able to:
• identify ways to become responsible
in a relationship; and
• explore characteristics of healthy and
unhealthy relationships.
Lectures
Why learning about
relationships is important?
• Relationships are necessary to live a healthy life, but there is no
perfect relationship. Relationships, from acquaintances to romances,
have the potential to enrich our lives that could lead to the fulfillment
and enjoyment of our life. Every relationship can be stressful at times,
which is one of the challenges in having such. A healthy relationship
should bring more happiness than stress into your life. (University of
Washington 2014).
• Determining if you are in a healthy or unhealthy relationship is
essential for achieving healthy living. Sometimes, we are not aware
CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY AND
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
• Proper communication • Sympathy
• Arguing • Honesty
• Respect • Kindness
• Manipulation • Constant lies
• Force to do something • Cheating
• Stressful • Caring
• Emotional abused • Supportive
• Empathy • Trustworthy
KEEPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships
you make in your youth will be a particular part of your life and teach you some of the
most important lessons about who you are. Indeed, good relationships take time and
energy to develop. All relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this
is especially important when you decide to date, someone. (Karen Lawson, 2016)
In a healthy relationship, both partners:
• are treating each other with kindness and respect;
• are honest with each other;
• like to spend time together;
• take an interest in things that are important to each other;
• respect one another’s emotional, physical, and sexual limits;
• can speak honestly about their feelings.
SIGNS OF UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships should not be abusive
• Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while dating
partners must care for each other, it’s just as crucial that
you take care of yourself! About 10% of high school
students say they have suffered violence from someone
they date. This includes physical abuse, where someone
causes physical pain or injury to another person. This can
involve hitting, slapping, or kicking (Karen Lawson 2016).
• Sexual abuse is also a type of violence involving unwanted
sexual advances. It can include everything from
unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse. But
abuse doesn’t always mean that someone hits or hurts
your body (Karen Lawson 2016).
• Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-esteem or
causes shame. This includes saying things that hurt your
feelings, make you feel that you aren’t worthwhile, or
trying to control whom you see or where you go (Karen
Lawson 2016).
• Remember, you deserve healthy, happy relationships.
Abuse of any type is never okay.
Relationships should always be open for healthy communication
• Relationships should always be open for healthy communication. Talking
openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying, especially when you
both talk about each other's physical, emotional, mental, and sexual health
needs. You can't expect a partner to know what you want and need unless
you tell them. The simple fact is that none of us is a mind reader--so it's
essential to be open about your needs and expectations. It is necessary to
communicate openly about sex and sexual health (Karen Lawson 2016).
• The decision to enter into a sexual relationship is entirely up to you, and you
always have the right to say "no" at any time to anything that you don't feel
comfortable with. Remember, there are many ways to express love without
sex. If you decide to become sexually active, there are things about which
you need to communicate (Karen Lawson 2016).
BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP
• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs
from your partner's
• The right to have your feelings and experiences
acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
How to develop patience,
honesty, kindness, and
respect by Karen Lawson
Patience
• Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others
will disappointingly respond to us. When this occurs, it is necessary to
communicate our disappointment and give the other person space. Be
willing to provide the person with some time to reflect, indicating that you
are ready to talk when they are ready. Suppose the person is never
prepared to discuss the situation. In that case, you may need professional
help to resolve the issue or ask yourself whether or not you want to
continue the relationship (Karen Lawson 2016).
Honesty
• Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To build
honesty in a relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly and
expect the other person to do the same. Over time, this builds trust (Karen
Lawson 2016).
Kindness
• Kindness is fundamental to maintaining healthy
relationships. It would help if you considered others'
feelings, and other people need to be considerate of
yours. Be kind when you communicate. Kindness will
nurture your relationships. Note that being kind does not
necessarily mean being nice (Karen Lawson 2016).
Respect
• Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you
don't respect another person, it will harm all of your
interactions. Think of a time when you encountered
someone who didn't respect you. How did it feel? What
are some ways that you show respect to others? (Karen
Lawson 201
Direction: Choose one activity below that you want to do. Write it on a clean
sheet of paper that will be submitted together with this module.
a. Write a poem regarding healthy relationships. Your poem should have at
least four stanzas containing four lines for each stanza.
b. Write an essay about healthy and unhealthy relationship. Your essay must
be in five paragraphs that contains four sentences each.
c. Draw in a separate sheet of paper showing how you will establish healthy
relationship with others.
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Attention:
• Lesson 10: Social Relationships in Middle
and Late Adolescence activity has been
posted in your google classroom.
• Please be guided accordingly.
References:
• Department of Education Region III- Learning Resources
Management Section (DepEd Region III LRMS)
• Personal Development K-12 Compliant, Dr. Mrylendra A.
Penetrante