Module 3
Challenges of
Parenting
Session 1
My Roles as a
Parent
What is
Parenting?
• Parenting is raising children
• Parenting takes time,
attention, patience, strength
and most specially love
Parenting
Skills
• Parenting skills means a
parent's competencies in
providing physical care,
protection, supervision and
psychological support
appropriate to a child's age
and state of development.
Parenting
Skills
• Parenting skills are necessary
to help meet the children's 3
basic needs:
1. Physical needs
2. Emotional needs
3. Intellectual needs
Key
Learning
•
Points
A total caretaker - this is during your
child's infancy and toddler years.
You have to meet all his/her needs
• Teacher - as your child grow older,
you explain things, answer
questions, share joys and wonders of
the world
Key
Learning
•
Points
Counselor - guide them through
good and bad times; give love,
support, understanding and
direction; be sensitive to your child's
feelings and needs ; listen to his/her
frustrations and help when problems
arise
Appropriate behaviors to
guide your children
• Always discipline with love
• teach social skills like good manners,
sharing, listening and respecting
others
• encourage independence and
exploration
• deal with frustration by talking and
not physical violence.
• Always talk to your children. Take
time to explain. Be objective and
calm when your child learns to
argue.
Session 2
Filipino Laws on
Parenting
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
CHILD AND YOUTH WELFARE CODE (PD 603)
Parental Duties and Responsibilities
1. ARTICLE 46
• affection, companionship and
understanding
• mkral guidance, self-discipline and
religious instruction
• supervision-activities and recreation
• inculcate positive values
• stimulate interest in civic affairs
• Set a good example
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
2. ARTICLE 59
• conceals or abandons the child with
intent to make such child lose his civil
status
• sells or abandons the child to another
person for valuable consideration
• Neglects the child by not giving him/her
the education which the family station in
life and financial conditions permits
• fails or refuses to enroll the child as
required by article 72
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
• causes, abets, permits the truancy of the
child from the school where he is
enrolled
• Improperly exploits the child by using
him for purposes of begging and other
which are inimical to his interest and
welfare
• inflicts cruel and unusual punishment
upon the child causes or encourages the
child to lead an immoral or dissolute life
• permits the child to possess or carry
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
3. ARTICLE 6
• Pagbibigay ng parusa sa mga magulang
dalawa hanggang anim na buwan sa
magaan na kaso.
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
FAMILY CODE
EFFECTS OF PATERNAL AUTHORITY UPON
THE PERSONS OF THE CHILDREN
1. ARTICLE 220
• To keep them in their company, to
support, to educate and instruct them by
right precept and good example
• To give them love and affection, advice
and counsel
• to provide them with moral and spiritual
guidance
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
• To enhance/protect, preserve and
maintain their physical and mental health
• To furnish them with good wholesome
educational materials
• to represent them in all matters affecting
their interest
• to impose discipline as may be required
PHILIPPINE LAWS ON PARENTAL DUTIES
AND RESPONSIBILITIES
2. ARTICLE 221
• Parents and other persons exercising
parental authority shall be liable in the
civil court for the injuries and damages
caused by the acts or omissions of their
un-emanticipated children living in their
company or under their parental
authority.
SYNTH
ESIS
Parenting is a great challenging
task. It requires a thorough
knowledge of parental duties and
responsibilities for parents to
determine the extent of what
they can do and improve upon.
SYNTH
ESIS
Just remember a very important
key when performing your duties
as parents, always PRAISE and
RESPECT your children
Session 3
Parenting
Styles
Guiding
Questions
1. What do I usually do when my
child misbehaved?
[Link] do I express my anger
every time they misbehaved?
3. How do I teached discipline
when they misbehaved?
MAJOR
PARENTING
1. PERMISSIVE
STYLES - INDULGENT
• Your child can manipulate you
because you always follow the
desires and whims of your child
• You easily carried away when
your child cries, you feel angry
and depressed if he/she rebels
MAJOR
PARENTING
• Your
STYLES child usually becomes
impulsive and aggressive, low in
self-reliance and in achievement
orientation, quick to anger and
domineering.
MAJOR
PARENTING
2. Authoritative
STYLES
• You are domineering
• all your words and rules must be
followed without complaint by
your children
• you don't listen to their words
and feelings
MAJOR
PARENTING
STYLES
• Obedience is of prime importance
to you
• Your child usually becomes
fearful, moody, unhappy, passive,
hostile, withdrawn and irritable
MAJOR
PARENTING
3. DEMOCRATIC
STYLES
• you practice open communication
with your children
• you don't easily get mad at their
behavior
• you try to find meaning and
reasons in the acts and ways of
your child
MAJOR
PARENTING
• You listen to their opinions and
STYLES
feelings
• you discuss rules and conduct
what should be observed inside
the house
• your child usually become
friendly, self- reliant, self-
controlled, cooperative and
MAJOR
PARENTING
STYLES
4. NEGLECTFUL
• You perceive your children to
be of secondary importance in
your life
• you don't give so much care
and concern to the children
MAJOR
PARENTING
• you
STYLES usually entrust the needs
and problems of the children to
themselves, or to other members
of the house
• You don't give so much time and
attention
MAJOR
PARENTING
• You
STYLES have trained your children to
give time and attention to
material things or prize, career,
friends, hobbies, vices and other
interest.
• Your child usually tends to have
poor social and cognitive skills.
MAJOR
PARENTING
• They
STYLES are emotionally immature,
easily influenced by othere and
have very low achievement
orientation
• Your experiences in your own
family, your values and beliefs,
affect your parenting competence
SYNTH
ESIS
• There is no exact parenting style
appropriate for every child.
However, your knowledge about
your child and your kind of
relationship with him or her can
help you determine an
appropriate parenting style.
Session 4
Strengthening Husband -
Wife Relationship Through
Gender - Sensitive
Key
Learning
• Women
Points are burdened with
multiple duties and
responsibilities once they
become a wife and a mother
• Even the working wife is faces
with care giving for the children
and husband as well as
Key
Learning
• Our
Points culture seems to dictate that the
men take care of earning an income
while the duties and responsibilities
pertaining to the household and
children are left to the women
• There is clearly an inequality of
distribution of duties and
responsibilities between husband and
Key
Learning
• Husband
Points and wife should be both
gender sensitive. They should be
aware of each other's skills and
capabilities.
• They should recognize and share
the duties and responsibilities
according to interest, ability and
Key
Learning
• Gender
Points sensitivity can be achieved
if both partners are respectful,
cooperative and supportive of each
other
• Gender sensitivity can be taught to
our children by distributing the
workload according to interest,
ability and competence and not
Synth
esis
• The best way to maintain a stable
and harmonious relationship
between husband and wife can
be achieved through open and
cordial communication.
Synth
esis
• Husband and wife should be
sensitive to each other's natural
characteristics and need to avoid
friction and conflict in dealing
with each other.
Session 5
STRENGTHENING
PARENT-CHILD
RELATIONSHIP
Building/Strengthening your
relationship with your child
• Acceptance - accept your child as
they are.
• Respect your children - this will
lay the foundation for the
children to acquire self-respect if
the parent is friendly, kind and
avoids the use of discouraging
Building/Strengthening your
relationship with your child
• Setting realistic expectations to
our children - provide clear
activities /roles for each child in
the family to perform and expect
them to keep their task on
regular basis.
Building/Strengthening your
relationship with your child
• Provide continuous
encouragement by focusing on
your children's assets and
strengths and on their
accomplishments, big or small
Building/Strengthening your
relationship with your child
• Communicating effectively to
your child - treat them un a most
friendly way. They need someone
to listen to their inner thoughts
and feelings.
Building/Strengthening your
relationship with your child
• Becoming an effective listener
through reflective listening
• Put aside time for your child
• Play with your child
• Promote your child's independence
by giving your child the freedom to
explore the world as appropriate for
their age
SYNTH
ESIS
• Parents need to know their children
very well and children likewise need
to know their parents.
• Only through immersing and
spending time together talking ,
going out, playing, working, and
solving problems and concerns can
intimacy be enhanced between
parents and children.
Session 6
How to Raise
Children with High
Spiritual Values
Key
learning
•points
High spirituality can be
characterized by strong family
bond and healthy relationships
• spititual power makes the family
more trustful and hopeful in
pursuing challenges and facing
obstacles
Key
learning
• High spirituality gives cleare
points
vision of life and meanings
• High spirituality gives
sympathetic understanding to
the weaknesses and
imperfections of others
• spirituality should be taught to
the children at a very early age
Key
learning
• Talk and read to children about
points
God and His love and creations
• Always answer and explain as
plainly and honestly a child's
questions about spirituality
• practice what you preach
Thank You