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Understanding Personal Relationships

Personal relationships are closely associated with an individual and provide happiness. How we form attachments as infants, such as secure, avoidant, or anxious-ambivalent, affects our relationships. Attraction develops through factors like proximity, similarity, and physical attractiveness. Love involves stages of lust, attraction, and attachment driven by hormones and neurotransmitters. Intimacy, commitment, passion, and liking contribute to relationships. Maintaining commitment requires investment, avoiding temptation, and meeting responsibilities.

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Understanding Personal Relationships

Personal relationships are closely associated with an individual and provide happiness. How we form attachments as infants, such as secure, avoidant, or anxious-ambivalent, affects our relationships. Attraction develops through factors like proximity, similarity, and physical attractiveness. Love involves stages of lust, attraction, and attachment driven by hormones and neurotransmitters. Intimacy, commitment, passion, and liking contribute to relationships. Maintaining commitment requires investment, avoiding temptation, and meeting responsibilities.

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Personal Relationship

What is Personal Relationship?

 Personal relationship is the type of relationship which is closely


associated with a person and which can only have meaning to this
person.
 “A healthy relationship with friends is a source of lifetime
happiness.”
 Researchers have found that relationships are essential to one’s
happiness, while absences of close relationships can produce a
profound negative effect on an individual.
How are Attachments Developed?

 Secure Attachment – when primary caregiver is most of the time


present and available and when all the emotional needs of an infant
are met.
 Avoidant Attachment – when primary caregiver is cold and
detached, and even unresponsive to a child’s needs.
 Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment – when the primary caregivers is
not consistent in terms of presence and in meeting a child’s
emotional needs.
What Drives Attraction?

 Attraction is the first stage in a continuum of stages that lead to


intimacy and commitment.
 Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in New Jersey, proposed that
there are three stages of falling in love:
1. Lust – is driven by the sex hormones.
2. Attraction – defined as the lovestruck phase. It involves
neurotransmitters in the brain such as dopamine, norepinephrine and
serotonin.
3. Attachment – when the couple in love decided to continue with the
relationship. Special hormones are secreted during this stage,
Oxytocin and Vasopressin.
 The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories and research
results related to attraction and liking. These are:
 Transference Effect – people in the past, or bad experiences
 Propinquity Effect – sense of familiarity
 Similarity
 Reciprocity
 Physical Attractiveness
 Personality Characteristics and Traits
Love and Intimacy

 Intimacy – a lovely moment when someone understands and


validates us.
 “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or
perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the
mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
 Commitment – an act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where
the values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior
and thinking.
 Passion – the intense state of being that drives and consumes a
person to pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.
Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
Liking

Intimacy
Consummate
Love

Infatuation Empty Love


Fatuous
Love
Commitment: Saying Yes and Meaning It

 Three variables related to commitment:


1. Accumulation of all rewards of the relationship
2. Temptation of alternative partners
3. Investments made by the couple in the relationship
 Behaviors married couples may do that can predict a divorce or
separation:
1. Criticism – constantly finding fault in the partner
2. Denial of the existence of conflict
3. Contempt – when someone looks down on the partner as inferior
 Responsibilities in a Relationship:
1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person.
2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not do.
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial.
4. Respect the other party or parties involved.
5. Be ready to provide support when needed.

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