PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS
QUARTER 2 – LESSON 1
At the end of the lesson,
you should be able to:
• Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships,
including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions;
• Compose a quote or saying expressing your ways of
showing attraction, love and commitment; and
• Demonstrate acceptable expression of attraction towards
your relationship circles.
Write T if the statement is TRUE, if it is
FALSE, write F.
1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in
relationships.
2. To love someone, we must love our self-first.
3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather
than judging them helps us build and maintain relationships.
4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us
having good health.
5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the
feeling behind our words, more likely than not, our relationship is
doing good.
Write T if the statement is TRUE, if it is
FALSE, write F.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a
loved one has hurt us.
7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.
8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships.
9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain
good relationships.
10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a
problem in relationships.
You have explored in the previous lesson how emotions can be both a positive and
negative one and how you express or hide them can have an effect on your
dealings with people.
Below are some emojis with its description/meaning (Column A). Match the emojis
to its appropriate emotions/ feelings in Column B. Write only the letter of your
choice in your activity notebook.
Activity 1: Copy the table below in your activity notebook,
then, identify an actual situation / happening in your life
wherein you felt the emotions/feelings mentioned.
Activity 2: Pick the word/term from the box which best
applies to the pictures displayed below.
Attraction Relationships Love Commitment
Personal relationships
BASIC DEFINITIONS
1. Relationship - a relation between people; a state of
connectedness between people (especially an emotional
connection)

2. Personal relationships - relationships between people,

especially those between friends, lovers and family.

3. Love - strong affection for another arising out of kinship

or personalities.
- attraction based on sexual desire: affection and
tenderness felt by lovers
- affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common
interests.
BASIC DEFINITIONS
4. Commitment - the act of binding yourself (intellectually
or emotionally) to a course of action

5. Attraction - attractive quality; magnetic charm;

fascination; allurement; enticement
- a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices

6. Responsibility - a form of trustworthiness; the trait of

being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy
and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice,
and social support. In our model there are three kinds of personal
relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of
the Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by
birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household." But
many people have family they don't live with or to whom they are not
bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across cultures as well as
throughout your own lifetime.
Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is
often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and
emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need.
Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network researchers and
authors of the book Connected, find that the average person has about six
close ties—though some have more, and many have only one or none.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed
between two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and
romantic love. We usually experience this kind of relationship with only one
person at a time.
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
ARE IMPORTANT
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-
being. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships
contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Conversely, the
health risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are
comparable to the risks associated with cigarette smoking, blood
pressure, and obesity.
WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE
IMPORTANT
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
• Live longer. A review of 148 studies found that people with strong social relationships
are 50% less likely to die prematurely.
• Deal with stress. The support offered by a caring friend can provide a buffer against the
effects of stress.
• Be healthier. According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college students
who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a common cold when
exposed to the virus.
• Feel richer. A survey by the National Bureau of Economic Research of 5,000 people found
that doubling your group of friends has the same effect on your wellbeing as a 50%
increase in income!
On the other hand, low social support is linked to several health
consequences, such as:
• Depression. Loneliness has long been commonly associated with
depression, and now research is backing this correlation up: a 2012 study of
breast cancer patients found that those with fewer satisfying social
connections experienced higher levels of depression, pain, and fatigue.

• Decreased immune function. The authors of the same study also found a
correlation between loneliness and immune system dysregulation, meaning
that a lack of social connections can increase your chances of becoming sick.

• Higher blood pressure. University of Chicago researchers who studied a

group of 229 adults over five years found that loneliness could predict higher
blood pressure even years later, indicating that the effects of isolation have
long-lasting consequences.
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night
stands, internet relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs
and financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around
your gender, or your partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly
for whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress,
long-term illness, mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems
with the children, infertility and many more
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse:
THE most serious relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many
other issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the
princess /knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that
matter to you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or
friends
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided. lack of responsibility for chores and
tasks. It is not always women who complain about this relationship problem!
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness:
feeling the relationship is one-sided is a big one!
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change
in relationship dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one
partner or both
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the
children
24. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it
cannot be changed
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems
after the birth your baby.
 According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard
Schwartz, social alienation is an inevitable result of
contemporary society's preoccupation with materialism and
frantic "busy-ness." Their decades of research support the idea
that a lack of relationships can cause multiple problems with
physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The research is clear
and devastating: isolation is fatal.
 10 WAYS TO EXPRESS LOVE
Here are 10 ways to express love to your special someone, your friends, family,
children. By expressing love, we bring ourselves joy knowing that love is not just
a Valentine’s Day moment, but an ongoing, free-flowing experience that enriches
our lives.

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their presence in your life.
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3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a date if you must, in
your own home or at a quiet little neighborhood place, for coffee or a
drink and just listen to each other’s thoughts.

4. Keep anger at bay. During stressful times think of this image. If

an ember flies from a fireplace onto your rug, it will burn a hole.
Flick it off immediately and the rug is safe.
5. Be thoughtfully generous with gifts. Remember what is special
about a person in your life and buy gifts that are unique to them.

6. Order fortune cookies. Find ones with love sayings. You

might also intersperse with gratitude sayings.
7. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or someone you care
about, “What can I do for you today that will make your life easier and
less stressful?” Then do it.

8. Write a note. Here’s a simple start: “I am so grateful that you are

in my life. I love you for a million reasons. Here are the top three.”

9. Make time. Arrange to be together for events that bring you

both pleasure.

10. Be forgiving. We all have quirks. When one surfaces that

makes you want to scream, either gently say something or switch
to the positive-quality channel.
In the book, Around the Year with Emmet Fox: A Book of
Daily Readings, Fox challenges us to make this
commitment by saying:

“I have chosen the path of Love. My own

heart is to be my workshop, my laboratory,
my great enterprise, and love is to be my
contribution to humanity.”
Activity 3: Write a saying or quote in your activity notebook
which expresses your ways of showing attraction, love and
commitment. Here’s a sample:

“I think for any relationship to

be successful there needs to
be loving communication,
appreciation, and
understanding.” Miranda Kerr
PORTFOLIO 1: On your Personal Relationships:
Discuss about the different relationships you have.
Why do you think these relationships are important?
Write a one-page reflection paper about these ideas.
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 Activity 4: Relationship Goals
1. Write your expectations for your current or future
relationship goals.
2. It could be in the form of a song, a quote, a hugot
or pick up line
Q&A
THANK
YOU