Self-management
Sequence
NSTP - WEEK 3
GLENN MICHAEL V. PASCUA
INSTRUCTOR
Life is not a matter of luck
or fortune. If we leave our
Self-management
lives up to chance,
chances are, we will fall.
Success in self-
Sequence
management is always the
result of something else,
something that leads up to
it. Most of what seems to
(Helmstetter & Shad, 2000) happen to you, happens
because of you-something
you created, directed,
influenced, or allowed to
happen.
The Five Steps Behavior
That Control feelings
Attitudes
Our Success Beliefs
Programming
or Failure
BEHAVIOR
The step that most directly controls our success or failure
is our behavior-what we do or do not do. Behavior means
our actions. Each moment of each day will determine
whether or not we will be successful that moment or that
day in everything that we do.
FEELINGS
Every action we take is first filtered through our feelings.
How we feel about something will always determine or
affect what we do and how we do it. If we feel good or
positive about something. we will behave more positively
about it. Our feelings will directly influence our actions.
Our feelings are created, controlled, determined, or
influenced by our attitudes.
ATTITUDES
Our attitudes are the perspective from which we view life.
Some people seem to have a good attitude about most
things. Some seem to have a bad attitude about
everything. But when we look closer, we will find that
most of us have a combination of attitudes-some are
good; some are not so good.
Our attitudes play a very important part in helping us
become successful. Good attitudes are created, controlled,
or influenced entirely by our beliefs.
BELIEFS
What we believe about anything will determine our
attitudes about it, create our feelings, direct our actions,
influence us to do well or poorly, and lead us to succeed
or fail. The belief that we have about anything is so
powerful that it can even make something appear to be
something different than what it really ia! Belief does not
require that something be the way we see it to be. It only
requires us to believe that it is. Belief does not require
something to be true. It only requires us to believe that it
is true!
PROGRAMMING
We believe that we are programmed to believe. Our
conditioning from the day we were born has created,
reinforced, and nearly permanently cemented most of
what we believe about ourselves and what we believe
about most of what goes on around us. Whether the
programming was right or wrong, true or false, the result
of it is what we believe. It is our programming that sets
up our beliefs, and the chain reaction follows. What we
believe dictates our attitudes, affects our behavior, and
determines our success or failure, thus:
PROGRAMMING
a. programming creates beliefs;
b. beliefs create attitudes;
c. attitudes create feelings;
d. feelings determine actions; and
e. actions create results.
There are five levels of
self-talk.
LEVELS OF SELF-TALK Level I: The Level of
Negative Acceptance
Level II: The Level of
What is Self-Talk? Recognition and Need to
Change
Self-talk is a way to override our past negative
programming by erasing or replacing it with Level III: The Level of
conscious, positive, new directions. It is a Decision to Change
practical way to live our lives by active intent
Level IV: The Level of the
rather than by passive acceptance. Better You
Self-talk gives each of us a way to change what Level V: The Level of
we would like to change, even if we have not Universal Affirmation
been able to do so in the past.
Level I: The Level of Negative
Acceptance
("I can't...")
The level of negative acceptance is the lowest, least beneficial, and
the most harmful level of self-talk. It is a self-talk by which you
say something bad or negative about yourself, and you accept it. It
is characterized by words, "I can't..." or "if only I could...." It is our
way of telling ourselves to hesitate, question our capabilities, and
accept less than we know we could have done, had we only given
ourselves a chance.
Level II: The Level of Recognition
and Need to Change
("I need to... I should...")
This level is beguiling. On the surface, it looks as though it should
work for us. But instead, it works against us. At this level, we are
telling ourselves and others that we need to change. It is
characterized by words such as "I need to..." or "I ought to..." or "I
should..."
Level III: The Level of Decision to
Change
("I never... I no longer...")
The first level of self-talk that works for us instead of against us.
At this level, we recognize the need to change, but also we make
the decision to do something about it-and we state the decision in
the "present tense"-as though the change has already taken place.
It is characterized by the words, "I never..." or "I no longer..."
Level IV: The Level of the Better You
("I am...")
This is the most effective kind of self-talk we can ever use. This
has been used the least, but is needed the most. It is at this level
that we are painting a completed new picture of ourselves, the
way we really wanted to be, handing it to our subconscious, and
saying, "This is the me I want you to create!" It is characterized by
the words, "I am..." It is the positive self-talk. It replaces helpless
"cannot" with vibrant "Yes, I can!" It excites, demands, and pushes
us forward.
Level V: The Level of Universal
Affirmation
("It is...")
This level of self-talk has been spoken for thousands of years. It is
as old as the ancient religions which inspired it. It is the self-talk
of "Oneness" with God. This level speaks of a unity of spirit, a
divine and timeless cosmic affinity which transcends all worldly
things and gives meaning to our being. This is the self-talk for
seekers, still living among mankind, but anxious to find a greater
reward. It is characterized by the words, "It is..." It sounds like this:
"I am one of the universe and it is one with me. I am fit, within it,
and exist as a shining spark in a firmament of divine goodness."
HUMAN PERSON AND
VALUES DEVELOPMENT
THE HUMAN PERSON
The human person is the subject of education:
he/she is a human person learning and being
taught. The human person is also the object of
education: he/she is at the center of the curriculum
and the entire program
He/she is multidimensional: a distinction between
the person as well and the person in community.
The human person is an individual, a self-conscious
being of incalculable value in himself/herself. His/
her physical, intellectual, moral, spiritual,
socieconomic, and political well-being is recognized
by the state.
THE IMPORTANCE REALITIES OF THE
HUMAN PERSON
1. The Self-image
a. Self-image refers to a person's understanding of himself/ herself.
b. It is responsible in influencing people's way of living. The
formation of self-image is derived from two sources: others and the
experiences of the self.
c. There are three kinds of self-image:
Negative self-image- delves on limitations and differences
rather than assets
Overrated self-image-stresses the positive traits
Realistic self-image-based on the real self
2. The Others
These are persons or groups that one considers as important and are
thus given the right to influence oneself.
3. The Being
a. It is the mainspring or a motivating force in the human person.
b. It is the wellspring, a fountainhead of one's identity, one's
essential course of action, and one's essential bonds.
c. There are seven approaches to get in touch with the Being:
Approach by way of the self-image
Approach by way of important choices;
Approach by way of action;
Approach by way of what is "natural" and stressless;
Approach by way of people who had the greatest impact on
the person;
Approach by way of people who had the greatest impact on
the person;
2. The Others
These are persons or groups that one considers as important and are
thus given the right to influence oneself.
3. The Being
a. It is the mainspring or a motivating force in the human person.
b. It is the wellspring, a fountainhead of one's identity, one's
essential course of action, and one's essential bonds.
c. There are seven approaches to get in touch with the Being:
Approach by way of the self-image
Approach by way of important choices;
Approach by way of action;
Approach by way of what is "natural" and stressless;
Approach by way of people who had the greatest impact on
the person;
Approach to self through severve trials; and
Approach by way of deep and not yet fulfilled aspiration
4. The "I"
The "I" has three (3) different aspects-the intellect, the freedom, and
the will.
5. The Sensibility and the body
These are the important realities of the human person.
thank you!