Discovering Relationship Patterns
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ScribdTranslationsPractical Exercises
of Self-Exploration
ASTRAL WOMAN
Patterns In Relationship
The purpose of this exercise is to help you discover the theme of your relationship patterns.
This exercise helps to develop self-knowledge and draw attention to the
ways to adjust, set healthy boundaries and align with your truth.
Relationship patterns are common threads that intertwine from one relationship to another.
Everyone has a pattern in their relationships and in their life in general.
This is not always a problem, but when the pattern makes one or both feel
less appreciated, abandoned, or not enough or too much, then it is worth it
watch it. First, the pattern must be highlighted so that it breaks, since this exercise you
will help to start the process. Breaking patterns is a key ingredient for self-
acceptance and a deeper self-awareness.
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Step 1: Exploring our early exposure to the
relationships, sex, and love:
Write the following questions in your notebook.
If you didn't grow up with your parents, use the closest adult figures who helped raise you.
1. What was your parents' relationship like? (Were they together, married, divorced, never together?)
2. How did they get along? (Were there fights, passive aggression, loving and open communication, suffocation,
jealousy, traps, openness, honesty, secret, etc.
3. How did your father behave with your mother? (or neutral same-sex/gender parents).
4. How did your mother behave with her father?
5. Did you ever see your parents engaging in making love, physical affection, words of
affirmation?
6. What were your first thoughts, ideas, or beliefs about marriage or how it
I thought it was a relationship?
7. What were your first thoughts, ideas, or beliefs about sex? Did your parents...
Did they talk about sex? What did they tell you?
8. Did your parents talk to you about love, connection, and relationships? What did they tell you?
9. How did you feel about the boys, the men, or the masculine energy when you were little?
(Sure, unsure, scared, excited, uncomfortable, at ease?)
10. How did you feel about girls, women, or feminine energy when you were young?
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Step 2: Exploring the history of your relationship
Start with your first significant romantic relationship and move towards your last relationship, or the one you are in.
currently.
How did the relationship begin?
2. How long did the relationship last?
3. What were some common emotional themes in the relationship?
4. What were the feelings you felt most frequently within the relationship? What about
What used to be your conflicts?
5. What was your partner's emotional landscape? Were they loving, evasive, anxious, aggressive,
jealous, attentive, etc.
6. How did the relationship end?
Step 3: Discovering the theme of your personal relationship pattern
This is the final phase where we gather all the collected information. To see the patterns and central themes in your
relationships. Take notes on the patterns you noticed.
1. What were the emotional themes?
2. Do you tend to date a certain 'type' of person, or maybe two 'types'?
3. Did the relationships have similar problems or end in a similar way?
Take notes on all the central topics that you have discovered through this exploration.
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