Sex Before Marriage

It is very common nowadays for a couple of fiancés to sleep together to test their relationship.
Should we get married or not?

Is this way of acting in the world correct? Are there people who have been living together for 10 or 15 years and

seems to be working (this is what they say).

Let's look at some reasons that show us that this way of thinking about the world is against the
God's plans for our complete happiness in marriage:

1. Why Will Sex Before Marriage Not Make Us Know True Love?

When we are out of the center of God's will, what we are planning for our
life cannot go right. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3 the Bible tells us:

For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that you abstain from prostitution;

God does not approve of sex outside of marriage.

A man may even say he is liberal, that he sees nothing wrong with premarital sex, but,
deep in his soul, he prefers to marry that pure girl, obedient to the Word of
God is what one keeps for her husband who will know her on the wedding night.

Many of these liberal grooms, when they get what they want from the bride, start to think that she already
Did she have sex with any ex-boyfriends? What proves otherwise?

Girl, try to reach your husband with your head held high, without having anything to be ashamed of, faithful not only

to him but mainly to the Lord who was the creator of sex which is beautiful and pure within the
marriage.

2. Why Does Sex Before Marriage Distance Us from God's Perfect Plan?

We should not see sex as a mere momentary pleasure, or as a physical act, but as the
union between two people into one. It is such an intimate act that we can say that part of you stays.

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with him and part of him stays with you.

If you have ever had sexual relations with another, then when you get married you will not be able to give to your spouse.

husband, or vice versa, 100% of you because part of you has already stayed with another. God made you.
to be unique and exclusively for her husband. This is His plan.

3. How Do I See Myself After Having Sexual Relations Before Getting Married?

In 1Cor 7:8,9, the Bible tells us that it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Still in 1Cor 7:32, it
tells us that the body is not for prostitution, but for the Lord. The Word of God calls it
fornication to pre-marital sex.

Both men and especially women devalue themselves if they have sex before marriage.
Living together before getting married brings about countless problems. The situation
it becomes tense. An atmosphere of insecurity and distrust arises, pressures appear in
relationship, self-devaluation and what is worse... in the eyes of God, they fornicated.

4. How Do I Feel After Having Sexual Relations Before Getting Married?

We have to admit that the 'feeling of guilt' that often lives inside us is due to the
fact that we are sinners, miserable, and do not follow the biblical advice of our God
Saint who always wants the best for us.

In the book 'Frank Answers to Honest Questions' by Jaime Kemp, a young man says the following: 'I am
believer in Jesus, son of a pastor and president of the Youth Union of my church. This is also
one of the causes of the tremendous feeling of guilt from which I cannot free myself. All this
the anguish is due to an event that occurred almost a year and a half ago.

For a few months, he had sexual relations with the wife of the choir conductor of our church. It was
a bitter experience. The feeling of guilt became unbearable and made us end it.
that illicit bond. The consequences, however, have been terrible. I lost my peace, the joy in serving
God is the audacity to bear witness to Jesus. I have even started to feel doubts about my
salvation. Please, help me!” This example is not actually about a fact that happened.

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between two grooms but between a young man and a married woman.

But what we want to focus on here is the feeling of guilt that arises when we are outside of the
God's will, when we are in sin. But thanks to our God who loves us and
forgives us if we confess our sins and show genuine repentance (see 1John
1:9).

5. What Happens Fatalistically After Sexual Relations Before Marriage?

A Big Disappointment...

Usually, it is more the woman who dreams of one day being alone with the person she "loves" and
to give oneself body and soul thinking that there will be very pleasurable moments. But, with the question:
"For you, was the sexual experience pleasant, unpleasant, or disappointing?"
A survey conducted at a clinic for single mothers reached the following conclusion:
50% said it was a disappointment;
30% said it was unpleasant and upsetting;
20% responded that it was pleasant.
In 1 Thessalonians 4:4,5 it tells us: "That each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor; Not

in the passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God.

What Risks Do You Take If You Have Sexual Relations Before Marriage?

Sex before marriage is risky from various aspects: venereal diseases, AIDS...

Venereal diseases can cause serious infections, blindness, and even death. AIDS, after
a lot of suffering causes death. And the worst part is that it can be transmitted to children in the same way.
effects. See what can happen to you: "Marta, a young believer, was engaged to Tiago,
president of the youth of a highly regarded church, with a strong doctrine and enviable fellowship.

Because of the 'love' that existed between them and the affections, which became bolder each time,
they decided to sleep together and forgot what God's will was regarding two people
single women. And everything went more or less like this:

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MARTA slept with TIAGO who had slept with HELENA and with MARIA who had slept with
JOSÉ who had slept with 5 prostitutes (two of them had AIDS). Because of a night of love.
and pleasure with the believing groom (she was certain that there was no danger), Marta contracted the
AIDS virus.

7. Sexual Life Before Marriage?

Can Your Life Completely Change After Having Sexual Relations Before Marriage?

When visiting a home for single mothers, we can see the despair reflected on each face. They are young.
they do not know how to face the future; they do not know if one day they will know true love and if
They will build a home.

The young believer should place her dating in the hands of the Lord. When she starts to think that it is
lady of all, who knows what she is doing is, then, that the enemy of our souls begins to
act. And that's where she starts to do what she shouldn't and suddenly may find out that she is pregnant.

Unwanted Pregnancy...

Pregnancy can happen to anyone, and that person could even be you. And,
when this happens, you can bring within you a little child that has been there since the 28th day of
fertilization has the heart already beating. On the 30th day, almost all the organs have already started to

function. Even before you find out that you are pregnant, your baby is already a person and if you
thinking about aborting you will be killing your child. Psalm 139:13-16 says: "For you possessed my reins;"
you covered me in my mother's womb.

I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are the
your works, and my soul knows it very well. My bones were not hidden from you when in the
I was made hidden, and woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my body still
report; and in your book all these things were written; which were formed in continuation,
when not even one of them had existed yet.

When pregnancy is discovered, problems begin to arise: shame, financial unpreparedness.

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Even knowing that God forgives us, we should avoid such troubles.

8. Futuros Problemas

Do We Imagine the Size of the Problems That May Arise If We Have Sexual Relations
Before the Wedding?

Never be sure that the boy you 'love' and who says he 'loves' you will marry you.
when he finds out that you are pregnant. The man, even the liberal one, prefers to marry the
girl who kept her virginity for him. Most of the time, a man wants to be the first.

Deus foi, é e será sempre o mesmo. Para Deus não existem frases como: “Agora é tudo
different...!”, “In the past, that’s how people thought!”, “Now everything is natural, we have to…
know well so we don't take a wrong step!

Look at the big problem you got yourself into: You find out that you are expecting a child from your fiancé and he

he says: 'Isn't this baby someone else's?' or 'No, I don't want to marry you, because I don't'
I love!
And how about your parents?
How to face them?
And what about the church?

How to face her?

9. The Incompatibility in Marriage

Does incompatibility in marriage arise when we do not accept God's plan in

How we deceive ourselves into thinking we know what love is! Many times, we give ourselves to
body and soul to our groom and we think that what we are doing is a demonstration of love

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true. Pure deception!!! What is happening between the two is just a sexual attraction.

True love is the one from 1 Corinthians 13 which says that love is patient, is kind, does not envy...
is the one who faces diapers and dirty dishes, uncombed hair, a baby crying for an entire (s)
nights, financial difficulties, illnesses... and yet the two still love each other and move on
together facing good and bad moments that arise in their lives.

When you get married and see that you are having an unhappy marriage is when you then discover that
What you feel (and probably he does too) was just a sexual attraction.

10. Marriage, Sex Life, and Happiness...

Will Your Marriage and Happiness Be Threatened If You Maintain Sexual Relations
Before the Marriage?

In the book "Love, Dating & Marriage" by George B. Eager, he says that "sex before marriage
sow the seed of doubt and distrust.

Some couples who engaged in sexual relations before marriage apparently are doing well but
there are feelings of distrust, rejection in the heart of the husband, or the wife, or both.
resentment, etc.

Others, even when married, continue to seek true love, maintaining extramarital relationships.
conjugates. They are always looking for new experiences.

Conclusion

Let's take a look at some verses that show us what God really thinks about marriage:

I Corinthians 6:18 - Flee from prostitution - Every sin that a man commits is outside the body; but
What is prostituted sins against one's own body.

Hebrews 13:14 - For here we have no permanent city, but we seek the future one.

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I Corinthians 6:9-10 - Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? 10 Do not be deceived:

neither the immoral, nor the idolaters, nor the adulterers, nor the effeminate, nor the sodomites, nor
thieves, neither the greedy, nor the drunkards, nor the slanderers, nor the robbers will inherit
the kingdom of God.

In the same way that God condemns fornication, He forgives us if we come to Him repentant.
Let's look at the verses:

1 John 1:7-9 - But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another.
others, and the blood of Jesus Christ, His Son, cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say that we do not
if we confess our sins,
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

John 6:37 - All that the Father gives me will come to me; and whoever comes to me I will never cast out.
I will throw it away.