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SECRET AND POWERFUL SCRIPTS FOR MODELING

@mycounselor
Some of the best opening texts are those that truly
allow you to show more of yourself, while the
invites to do the same.
Remember, two of the main things that create connection are:
They are starting to see more of you.
They are opening up more to you.

WHAT SONG ARE YOU LISTENING TO ON REPEAT RIGHT NOW?

Music is a deeply personal thing. There is intimacy in it.

When we get into someone's car and they start the engine, we hear the
music they were listening to before we entered. Many times, this
The revelation will embarrass them - as if we had just
see them briefly in their bathrobe. And, of course, when they
they share a song with us, we can send them one of ours
in exchange. It's a fun icebreaker when you compare songs.
Asking someone about a song they are listening to is light and fun.
on the surface, but it gives us an insight into their current mood and can tell us
a lot about what you are feeling without asking the same old questions
tired of everyone asking. We can hear their heart.
and the tastes, and most people get excited when sharing a
music that you love. It can even become a continuous ritual of music exchange
every day.
 There are many ways to adapt this text, for example:

Comparison of the song:

What song are you listening to on repeat right now?

Let's see if our taste matches...

Turning this into a fun challenge:

What song are you listening to on repeat right now?

I'll send you what I'm listening to, let's see which is better...

Transforming into a complement:

What song are you listening to on repeat now?

I feel that you have a good taste in music...

Have a conversation:

Hi! I hope you are having the best day...

Any song suggestions to liven things up here?

I like how this last one is full of energy, positivity, and

specificity. It's more than 'How is your day going?' You are
giving them something specific to do while he recognizes the
the fact that it is a bit random.

Asking for music (or book) suggestions is flattering because you

you chose to ask them instead of anyone else.

Even if this compliment is

more subtle than the previous text, you are still telling them
which values their taste, which is one of the greatest compliments
what you can do.

It's 9 PM and I'm on my third bowl of

açai (or any other strange thing).
What strange things did YOU do this week?
 It's fun to show a little of your quirky side. What
playful eccentricities you could bring to the table that would show a
a little more about your personality and vulnerability? All this is part of
making it three-dimensional in their eyes.

When you affirm something like this about yourself and then ask them the question,
you are also inviting them to be brave enough to
show your vulnerability in exchange. When they feel 'seen' and
accepted in their strangest moments, they will develop a
deeper connection with you.

Note: The jovial nature of this message is emphasized by

"YOU" in uppercase. It's what it says: "I just revealed something ridiculous
about me, so now it's your turn.

I just made a Lasagna (or any other dish)

Amazing, too bad you aren't here to eat with me...

Send a photo of the 'Lasagna' or any other dish you made.

This shares a piece of your day. It interrupts the messages.
of text with a photo that takes them home with you.
The additional praise of saying that it's a shame they are not.
there to share the meal is a good way to make it
flirtatious. At the same time, it is also a compliment to oneself:
it's a shame for them not to be nearby to share
the tacos with you.

Feel free to substitute the lasagna with your favorite dish.

or anything you are doing and would like to
share with them.
 TEXTS THAT UPDATE THE PLATFORM
The goal of this immersion is not to make you send more.
random text messages. It's to provide text messages
more effective and take her to more meetings and more time spent
talking on the phone or in person.

THE PLATFORM UPDATE

This term refers to the update to a more intimate form.

of communication. It's an update when you go from speaking
in an app to exchange numbers and send messages
text. It is an update when you switch from messages
from text to speak on the phone, or from speaking on the phone to
a video call. You can use the following texts
to do exactly that:

Hey beautiful, I'm going for a run...

Do you want to be my virtual walking friend?

You may not be with someone in person, but that

does not mean that I cannot invite you to participate
of an activity. In fact, what
I like that it almost turns it into a meeting.
from a distance, instead of just a random phone call. It is necessary
a little more investment for someone really
to commit to a schedule for
talk to you, instead of just calling whenever I want.

THE TEXT:

Hey, what are you doing?

YOU ANSWER:

Hey, making dinner. Video call later? I'll bring the ice cream.
(put an emoji that you like to use)
 This can be used regardless of the activity you
What he's doing. I love that he updates a text message to
a video call. Or, if you prefer to make a call,
Just say, 'Shall we talk on the phone later?'

In fact, it's a good combination because you are simultaneously

showing them that you can't drop what you are doing now to
to speak, while confidently communicating that one wishes
talk to them on the phone later. If they initially think
that are being dismissed, this thought will be dissipated
upon seeing that you wish to talk to them on the phone.

Note: Remember that phone or video calls

they will always create more connection than text messages,
therefore, you should take advantage of the moments when you can
upgrade your exchange this way.

SEND AUDIO WHENEVER YOU WANT

CLOSER WITH YOUR GUY
 VOICE MESSAGES ARE VERY UNDERRATED.

In a certain sense, they are - in themselves - a platform update.

You are updating to a text-only voice on the screen. And the voice is powerful.

This means that they can hear tone, cadence, your accent, laughter
nervous, stuttering, small human details that you yourself
You may be ashamed, but for them it is the colors that give them life.

You jump from the phone and enter their ear, literally kidnapping one.
two of their senses. And if it is in the early stages and they are
sending text messages to other people, you will have a
natural advantage in sending a voice message, because other people
they are probably not doing this. Others will simply be
two-dimensional - text on a screen. You, on the other hand, are showing yourself
in three dimensions, and that is where its power lies.

Are you also using this to update for a phone call?

suggesting that they call you later, but with no pressure
If you're around later.

While we are talking about being three-dimensional, consider different

voice note versions that break patterns that will spark the imagination of
Someone works in powerful ways. Maybe you record one in the morning.
I give, when your voice is hoarse, what can make them think of
what it would be like to wake up beside you... or a whispered sensual message
when you need to speak softly so that no one nearby hears what you
is saying... or maybe even one that you record a little without
breath in the middle of a workout, letting you know that you will send a message
of text when finished.
All of this will bring you to life in different contexts in a way that
it would be virtually impossible by text.

So are you going to call me tonight or what?

(put an emoji of a girl with a question or someone thoughtful).

We don't spend enough time in life asking for what we want.

Or, in this case, telling people what we want. I spent years
answering questions like: 'How do I get them to call me?'
and "How we stopped texting and actually
Did we talk on the phone?
 We don't spend enough time in life asking for what we want.
Or, in that case, telling people what we want. I spent years
responding to questions like: "How do I get them to call me?"
and "How we stopped texting and really
Did we talk on the phone?

This type of message is a response to these questions. Instead of staying

obsessed with some indirect way to make someone pick up the phone
call you, send a fun and assertive message, putting the
the ball is in his field.

Sure, that's not something you would normally send to someone with
who you only exchanged a handful of messages - unless you
it was really going for a casual and straightforward intention, and
there are certainly some people bold enough to do this.
There are two more organic ways to use this message:

You have been flirting via text messages for several days, but
none of you made the move to call the other, or even
suggest this. It serves as an appealing way to start the call -
while still making it the person who truly cares.

Talking on the phone is something you have done, but you haven't done it for a few days.
and I would like to do it again.
 Texts that provide the quantity
certain vulnerability

My friends will ask me why I get embarrassed...

This is a wonderfully seductive message you can send.

if they send a compliment by text. The knowledge that they can
making you blush and having this impact on you will leave them
even more attracted to you. It will also likely make you
they want to send more compliments to you.

There is also something bold in the idea that there were other people in the room.
with you when you felt embarrassed - it’s a fun feeling of
to be able to make someone stay like this in a scenario they are in
trying to hide this.
 I just watched a sad movie. I need a hug.

Basically, you can enter any scary event/movie that

to wish in this text. The lovely part is that you decided to tell him that
I needed some affection after watching. It's not just flirty, it's
cute and will likely awaken someone's protective instinct. This makes them
wanting to be there to give him a hug, even if they can't - a
barrier that then creates desire. They can have fun sending messages.
a text for you talking about how they want to be there for you.

I keep smiling when I think about talking to you later.

No explanation needed; this is just a really simple message.

adorable. Sometimes we need to let go of sarcasm, dry humor, the
an ironic tone and simply being direct and warm humans who
express your feelings. This shows that you are confident enough
to be one of those people - while making them feel
well.

Hey beautiful, I hope you are having an amazing week.

Although it is a very simple text, it does a lot. Imagine sending this

on a Tuesday or Wednesday in the middle of the workday. You are doing three
things with this message:

• MAKING A COMPLEMENT. By telling them that they are beautiful (or

pretty) and simply showing that you were thinking of them, you did
a compliment that will likely stay in your thoughts for the rest
of the day.
• DEMONSTRATION OF KINDNESS. This is purely a message
altruist wishing you a great week. It's not about you; it's all about
them.
• SHOWING CONFIDENCE. By not attaching a question mark to this
text, you are showing that you don't need an answer. You are not
asking for attention. Are you confident enough to simply give a
a little attention before proceeding with your day.
 THE POINT OF HAPPINESS

This text is an example of The Bliss Point, about which I talk in my

more in-depth programs. The Bliss Point is a term from the industry
nutritional used by manufacturers to determine the exact amount of
salt, sugar or fat that will enhance the flavor (the amount that keeps it
wanting more).
There is also a point of happiness in communicating with a romantic interest.
an ideal combination of sweet and salty, proactive and challenging, provocative and
praiseworthy, that keeps them wanting more of you.
There are many examples of The Bliss Point in action in this guide.

The last text demonstrates The Bliss Point, showing a beautiful

combination of being proactive (for being warm and sweet in showing up for a
moment of the day) and not being needy (for allowing it to simply be
about that moment and not ask a question that would make them feel that
they should return the favor). See how many Bliss Point messages you
realizes while we go through this program.

I miss your face... it can be hard to keep

the focus when I see you on a video call later...

The idea that you find it difficult to stay focused while talking to them is sexy. Everyone
we want to have that impact on someone. Now they will become even more
excited about the video chat.

It is also fun when you miss someone to be specific.

about what you miss. Tell them that you miss the face.
it adds a little more color, that's why it is more effective than
just to say 'I miss you'. Not that there is anything wrong in saying
to someone you miss - it's just fun to mix things up.
You can also say: 'I miss your smile' or 'I miss your'
smell... or what you really miss.

YOU:
You are so annoying

THEY:
Why?
 YOU:
Because you are one of the main people who is
making it so difficult to stay at home now

This was a counterintuitive message I told people to

send while missing someone alone. But it works for
any situation if you just change a few details. For example,
can you change the last line to say:

Because you are making it very difficult to focus on this

work I need to finish to go home.

The first part of the message is great because it is unexpected, and the
Intrigue makes someone want to find out why you are.
annoyed with this person. The second part of the message works.
because it follows what seems to be a salty beginning with a sweet ending
(The Bliss Point).

Remember, the idea that you are upset about this

a person is kidnapping your thoughts is the reason why this
The message creates tension. If you just said:

I keep thinking about you,

message. One is playful and fun, while the other is simply
sweet. On the days you want to be sweet, that's fine, but some days it's
great to stir things up and create a little tension.
 TEXT THAT GIVES A MEETING
It's not your job to make all the moves. But you can make it clear —
both directly and indirectly — that I would like to go out with someone,
depending on how subtle you would like to be.

I want to do this / go here / try this

Maybe you found something on Instagram - a restaurant

interesting, a beautiful street, an exhibition. Send them a photo
with this simple message.

Clearly stating what you like and what you would like to do makes
much easier for them to say: 'Let's go!'
 At a glance, I am.

This is a simple message you can send to anyone

moment to get someone's attention. You can interpret
this message literally - like when you are looking at
a breathtaking sunset, an impressive landscape
urban or anything beautiful in nature.

Or you can be more ironic and send a picture of a dessert.

delicious that you are eating in bed while watching a
program that both love. (This does not mean that you need to be
in the photo; I am not talking about a sexy or suggestive message here,
unless you want to).

If you send this message while you are somewhere,

It will be a good way to set up a meeting. When they
send a message back, you can always say:

It would be fun to do something like this with you someday.

This then acts as a direct prompt for them to prepare something,

while they still keep the ball in their court. You expressed your
desire to see them, but did not directly invite them for a meeting.
They can still be proactive and "make the move".
This is a good place to take a break to clarify some principles
about emojis. This may seem like an exaggeration or too demanding, but not
as much as thought in light of one of the most universal complaints about
text messages: the incorrect reading of tone.

Sure, sometimes an ambiguous tone can work in your favor. If you are
saying something dry, witty and expressionless, nothing kills sharpness more.
quickly than an emoji. The emoji is for a text message the
that the exclamation point is to write on the page.

Do you care how your tone may have been interpreted that way?
Wrong, what could have denied him a meeting?

In books and articles, we have time to contextualize our tone.

In a way, this is an excuse.

The emoji, therefore, should be approached in the same way as the period.
exclamation: used where it gives context to something that can probably be
interpreted incorrectly or included simply to amplify the
Message in a pleasant way. Following these rules should help us.
to avoid excessive use of emojis. In the case of the text I showed
In the previous pages, the tone changes accordingly: 'It would be fun'
do something like this with you someday!

The exclamation point here makes it more energetic, but also more
casual and less serious. Just say: 'It would be fun to do something like this'
with you someday" seems more direct. The simple statement makes it
seem more sincere and, therefore, carry more meaning and intention with them.

This is good or bad, depending on what you wish to convey. Putting the
an exclamation point certainly makes it just another disposable comment,
where you just want to test the waters.

It would be fun to do something like this with you at some point - it makes
shyer and flirtatious.. *
It would be fun to do something like this with you someday.
with wide eyes (literally) and innocently excited,
and therefore, more vulnerable. You are not trying to be funny.
here - just genuine about your desire to see them.

This message can be adapted in other ways

to request a response:

EXAMPLE 1

From where I am

Why aren't you here too??

Saying 'Why aren't you here too??' obviously makes her

more affectionate and seductive than the first more timid message
on their own, making it 2-3 on the proximity scale. The
the subtext is: 'I want you here.' But it's not literal, because you don't them
invited in advance, which makes it a low-risk message
if you want to flirt with someone without the risk of rejection, since
there is nothing real for them to say 'no'.
 EXAMPLE 2

From where I am standing

Come!

This time, let's say you send them a message from a bar.
legal coverage. This version is a fun and versatile variation.
of the message. It's cute and seductive because you are ordering that
they come, knowing very well that it is almost certain that it is late
too much for them to accept the offer.

EXAMPLE 3

From where I am looking...

 You should be here..

This raises the level again. It's a bit strong for a level 2,
but with someone with whom you already have a deeper connection,
the implication that there is something 'wrong' for not being present
and that the correct order of things would be that they were there, it is very
genuine and sweet. A timely moment of desire, not ironic, for
Someone can be very powerful. Not everything needs to be intelligent.
Reality comes at a price these days.

Texts that guarantee you another meeting

One could say that if someone doesn't automatically invite you to another
he "simply isn't that interested". Possibly.
Perhaps even likely. But one thing that this theory does not take into account is
that sometimes someone is not interested until they see that you have standards and are not
the type of person who keeps waiting.

Fitzgerald put it perfectly:

You will find another.

God! Banish the thought. Why don't you tell me that
If the girl was worth it, she would have waited for you.

No, sir, the girl who is truly worth it doesn't wait for anyone.

- F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise

GRACIOUS IMPATIENCE

Paradoxically, some people need to see us 'not expecting'

or at least, becoming gracefully impatient to wake up
for our value. Some, of course, will wake up too late, but that
it's their problem, not ours. These texts, therefore, demonstrate
Gracious Impatience, so that, in the worst case scenario, someone
realizes that your absence is running out and, at best,
they start to see us as someone they should make a
movement or risk losing completely.
 You established a connection with someone, sent a long
text message, perhaps even made some phone calls, and
still without date.
Maybe he texts you every day saying:
Hi! How is your week? It's polite, it's sweet, but it doesn't seem to lead
to nothing. It's time to be a little bolder. Next time he
start a text conversation, wait until some messages
Let’s meet after the kind gestures have been exchanged and a good dynamic established.
reestablished - and send him this message:

So, sir, are you going to invite me out or can I wait

a text message "how is your week" every week
for the rest of my life?

The 'So, sir' makes you sound delightfully authoritative and stern.
a way "let's get to the point". You then go straight to the
Point: "Are you going to invite me out?" while at the same time, communicating
in unequivocal terms that he sends you a nice text each
the week will not keep you engaged.

The humor comes with 'for the rest of my life,' which is intentional
too dramatic. But this humor serves an important purpose
to satisfy the standard that you just served to him, making him another
example of our Bliss Point technique.

YOU - TEXT 1:
It's been so long since I saw your face

HE:
Sorry, I am very busy!

YOU - TEXT 2:
I'm not sure if I remember what you look like...
I think I remember you being handsome

YOU - TEXT 3 (IMMEDIATELY AFTER TEXT 2):

I can't be sure though
 I know there may be a bit of sarcasm here, but there is a
time is a place. What I like is the casual rejection of everything that
he says in his answer. In fact, his answer hardly
it matters, because what makes it bold is its lack of importance
by his response, and you continue with your reflection on
having forgotten what he is like (despite the compliment you give for being handsome).

A fun variation of this can be used if he sends a message.

for you first. Unlike a message that I will give you later
forward in this guide for when someone sends a message to you
after disappearing for weeks, you don't need to wait for him
"disappear" before sending this. It only needs to have been a minute since.
that you were on a date. The joke is that you forgot what he looks like.
because you haven't seen him in person recently (in this sense, it can also)
to be a good way to update for a video call if everything
What you have been doing is sending text messages.

HE SENDS YOU
Hey! How are you? What are you doing?

YOU:
Sorry, who is it?

HE:
Guess?

YOU:
High face? Dark hair?

ELE:
lol

YOU:
My memory is starting to fade...
I don't think I've seen your face in at least a year.
AT LEAST.

This last message serves to emphasize the obvious hyperbole of not being
I saw him a year ago, when they probably saw him a few weeks ago.
 Sure, this can serve as bait for him to set up a meeting. ('Let's
Change that! What are you going to do this weekend?

This is obviously the best scenario. It is also possible that he becomes very
beyond that sending a selfie as a way to 'compensate' for the fact that
you haven't seen his face lately. Now, we know that not
Getting a photo of him isn't the problem, so you won't stay too long.
excited with a photo, or tell him how handsome he is, or ignore him
subtext that you just let know that this relationship only
the text is running out.

Instead, you can use this as a moment to map out a

line in the sand. Of course, this implies that you are in a situation where it is
really possible to see in the short term (you are not on the other side of
world or in the middle of a pandemic - wow, it's crazy to be able to
make this reference and make it universally identifiable.

Example: He sends a selfie in response to your message

about not seeing his face.

YOU - TEXT 1:
It's not quite what I had in mind.

YOU - TEXT 2 (IMMEDIATELY AFTER TEXT 1):

Let me know when you have some time and want to meet us.
My thumbs are getting tired from all this
text messages and not seeing each other.

Why not put all the text in one message?

You may be wondering why I sometimes split the messages.
instead of just grouping them in the same text. This happens because it has
a different effect. It mimics the way a real conversation
it happens - you had one thought and now you are having another
thought. It also allows a message to arrive and have
impact on someone before delivering the next. A comedian does not
count all the lines of a joke at the same time. It's the construction,
the intense pauses and the intermediate moments that create the
impact of the joke.
 Texts that build your story

Building your story is an incredibly powerful tool in

relationships. Human beings invest in stories. That is why
that whenever you can reinforce the fact that you both have a
history together, you are infusing what you have most valuable.

Consider the moment when someone sees an attractive person in

Instagram or a dating app. They can be beautiful,
sensual, seductive... but there is no story there. They do not have
a story to tell with this person; it's just an attraction
superficial. That is why your greatest asset with a person is the
the story that you created together — and the story that you will create
together in the future — because this cannot be easily replaced.

Remember, when we realize that we have a story with someone.

and not just a superficial attraction, it is more likely that
let's continue investing in this story.

Let's look at some ways to build your story together.

Making reference to shared memories

Whenever you refer to a past memory that

shared, this reinforces your story.

I was just thinking about when we took that trip, or lived.

that moment. One of my favorite moments with you.

Here you are highlighting a special moment you shared,

reinforcing the fact that you both have a history - not just the
What do you feel today at this moment. It is a callback.

THE CALL BACK

The callbacks will appear at different points in this guide as

a way to increase connection and have fun through text.
 THE TEXTS OF THE MOMENT
I miss feeling your scent on my skin.

The scent is a powerful part of attraction. It is also one of the ways

faster at evoking memories and emotions. Therefore, talking about feeling
the absence of someone's scent is an intimate reference.

Moreover, even the fact that you have a favorite shirt of theirs is a
signal of history together - it is a reminder that the connection you
it is not new, but rather a story that has been built over time.

Showing things you know about them and their life

How is your mother? Has she already had that surgery on her leg?

And what about your dog, Jack??!

How is your shoulder?

Ask someone about their family, or something you know they are familiar with.
they are fighting, or things that you know they do not tell
everyone - maybe something they told you once at a moment
vulnerable. These are all the things about which someone who has just
to know you cannot ask, because someone new does not have
"history" with them. These details are a great asset because they
are a symbol of your history - the moments you went through, the
the connection you built and the extensive and deep conversations that
you had. Asking about these details also shows a level
deeper care. Your interest is not superficial,
because you genuinely care about their well-being and
with the well-being of those they love.

Pointing to the future experiences you will have together.

You can also use the future to build your story by highlighting
what is yet to come. You do this by pointing to what you are building
or waiting in the future.
 What will be our first meal when
Finally we meet?

This is great for long-distance scenarios where you met each other
online, but has not yet had the chance to meet in person. This
allows both of you to have fun imagining something you will do together in the
future. This takes you from just talking about the present.

What will our first meeting be like when

Finally, we meet?

This has the same effect as the message above, allowing you to
Scene about the meeting that will happen. You two can have fun.
describing the ideal 'date day' they wish to have together.
It's an opportunity to invest in what is to come.

If you have been dating someone for a while,

just adjust these messages:

What trip would you love to take together? What is one of

things you would love to do if we could do anything?

If you have been dating someone for a while,

just adapt these messages:
 What trip would you love to take together? What is one of the
things you would love to do if we could do anything?

Obviously, this is something you can ask if you are or are not
intercity. This makes the conversation fun and a fantasy about the future.
But it is particularly effective if you have to stay away.
to the other now, perhaps because one of you is on a trip
of work or visiting family. Talk about the future when you feel
longing is a great way to keep building your
history together.

It's a way of saying: 'I know we are separated now, but

see what is to come! See what we have ahead!

A relationship can transcend mood swings and the

challenges of the present moment, reducing the zoom to show the
the beauty of the story greater than the one that is being told.

If you tell someone:

OK, so where are we going to fly at the first chance we get?

... is a way for us to dream together. Imagining an escape to

some island or romantic city is something that will create a lot of emotion
among you. You can even have fun sending each other links
for cities, accommodations, and food.

Or look at places on the phone together later that day.

In this way, it becomes not just a fantasy for the future,
another activity in the present.

Studies have shown that when it comes to vacations, the pleasure that
the benefits people gain from planning a trip can be even greater than
than the trip itself. You can apply this psychology to your life
romantic. Create a fantasy scenario of something that you would like.
to do together in the future can be a fun and without
commitment to create these emotions even before getting there.
I say 'low commitment' because you don't need to
take this very seriously.
Studies have shown that when it comes to vacations, the pleasure that the
the benefits people gain from planning a trip can be even greater than the
your own journey. You can apply this psychology to your love life.
Create a fantasy scenario of something you would like to do.
together in the future can be a fun and casual way
to create these emotions even before arriving there. I say 'low
commitment because you don't need to take this too seriously.

You don't need to book flights or rush. Just have fun.

imagining. It doesn't matter if it doesn't happen - the point is the connection
what you get when you imagine together. If you really hold back something
May you both expect, this is a wonderful bonus.

Reminding them of the strength of their history

It's crazy how much we're going through this makes me

to realize more and more how the two of us are greater than
anything that appears in our path. I love you

This can be used for any type of fight that you

are facing together.

The beautiful feeling you are conveying is that you both are
greater than any obstacle they may face. It is powerful
because it creates a mindset of us against the world in both of you.
It strengthens and unites you against a common enemy: whatever it is
is separating you or making life difficult now. This makes you
an unstoppable team.

Counting the days until we are together. You and I.

This is another positive message in the face of adversity - but the

the last three words are the most beautiful part.

You and me.

This, like the previous message, reinforces the idea that you
they have a history together. You are on a journey. And not
Regardless of what happens, the constant and unshakeable part of this
the story is you two.
 Playful flirting texts
You are not funny

Send this message when someone is provoking you and you

want to "pretend" to be angry. If you were saying this in person,
I would be making a fake pout or playfully hitting them. It's fun.
provoking someone from whom we are receiving a flirt. As long as the
provocation (from both sides) should be done affectionately and not focused
in something harmful, this is a great message to make the interaction
more fun.

I hate you

This is designed for the same type of scenario as the previous message.
It can even be sent as a complement to the previous message if they
we will continue to provoke after you say: 'You are not funny'.

It's all a matter of context. 'I hate you and we all know it'
That's it. The fascinating thing about language is that there's something about 'I hate you.'
that, in this context, something is very different more from the fun than
I like you.

It's like you're really saying: "You are me

provoking about something that I really don't care about being
provoked, but I will use this as an opportunity to make
pout and pretend that I am annoyed because you will find out my act
lovely fofo and will make you want to come and hug me (and also
I provoke even more), but also beneath all of that, I you
I find it funny, and you being funny and joking with me is making me
making me like you even more than I already do.
I hate you.

Stop it, Maoli!

 OK, why is my name there? Well, because I am doing a
There is something fun and sexy about using someone's last name.
The names of people stand out for them. Like Dale Carnegie.
The name of a person is for that person, the sound most
Sweet and important in any language.

The interesting thing is that many of us end up stopping using the

first name one another when we got close and ended up
using a nickname or simply 'babe' or 'baby'. In this
meaning, even using the first name in a relationship
the next one could be an unexpected flirt.

But someone's last name is even more unexpected. The part

this message is not important - you can stop this
use the surname in whichever way you want.

You are so silly, [Last Name]!

What works in this is that it is a pattern break.

THE BREAKING OF PATTERN

A pattern break occurs whenever you send a message

of text, says or does something that breaks the pattern of the normal dynamic
between you two. You can break the pattern of a discussion
walking and passionately kissing your partner. You can
breaking the pattern of a fun conversation by telling them: 'I feel
So much, I know it's off topic, but you look so beautiful right now.

It's about using the unexpected. The element of surprise. Taking someone to
off the road in a delightfully unexpected way.
 Texts that create sexual tension
Showing our sexuality is important, especially for maintaining
the fire lit when we are apart.

But showing our sexuality does not mean being classified as X.

Pornography sites all over the web make a living by being categorized
as pornographic, but that is not the key ingredient for you
show your sexuality. This does not mean that there is something wrong
with that. I'm not a puritan when it comes to sexting or sex.
phone. If you are having fun with someone you feel
comfortable - and the most important thing, when it comes to anything
what you have in writing or in the form of an image needs to be
someone you trust - so go ahead.

Just remember that sexuality is both — and sometimes even

more - about what you do not say than about what you do say. In
instead of always spelling things out, using the power of allusion is one of
its best tools.

Did you just buy a new outfit? Do you feel beautiful in it?
this outfit? Show it to them. By saying 'Yes or no?' in this message
Simple, you are asking for their opinion about you in an outfit.
what you already know looks good, but it's a good excuse to show
to them how you stay cute without really having to say: 'Check out
look how beautiful I am in this dress!
 What are you doing?

I had some meetings all day. I would like everyone to

they would leave this room so that we could have it just for the two of us.

There is something sexy about bringing an image of your professional life to

your romantic interactions with someone. Your work is not a
world they visit. It is separate from them - even mysterious. You will
there to play a different role and show a different side
of your personality.

Being on a work video call, but saying that you want

let everyone leave so that you can have a room just for yourself,
It seems like a taboo. They may not know the people at their workplace,
but there is something sexy about knowing that they are seeing a different side of
you of all the colleagues and bosses you are dealing with
so professionally now while you secretly flirt via text.

I was thinking about when you opened the car door.

for me last night. That was so hot.

This message can vary from 2 to 5, depending on the type of thing to which
you are referring to. In the example I gave, it's a 2-3. It's the kind of thing that
you can say the next day after a second date. This text is great
for the versatility, as you don ’t even need to be wearing something that is really
sexual as an example. If they were chivalrous enough to open
the car door for you, at night, you could have smiled warmly
That's very cute. Thank you.

But if the next day you remember this, and that moment was really
exciting, so this message is a wonderful way to introduce
a little bit of sexuality. You are no longer saying it was 'sweet' or
"good" - you are telling them it was warm, which carries a
different sensation. If you want to modify the intensity of sexuality,
Instead of saying 'That was so hot', write 'That was very attractive'.

Note: Many people continuously end up in relationships

platonics simply because they never take the leap of language
platonic to the language of desire. The text from the previous page is
an example of how to avoid this trap. Just don't exaggerate. Neither
everything must be 'hot', just as not everything must be 'sweet'.
The key is to show that you can move between the two when
the occasion is suitable.
 PLATONIC VS. LANGUAGE OF DESIRE

There is a language that shows how you are a nice person,

warm and lovely, and these words can be very meaningful for
create a connection. And there is the language that creates desire in another person.

Knowing the difference between the two is essential for both

Flirting in order to create sexual tension.

platonic Desire

You look handsome/beautiful You are fire

missing you I am wishing for you
You seem well you seem really good
I would like you to do this again Okay, you have to stop...
You are very funny you are the problem
I am/you kiss well I/you kiss dangerously well
 I could go on. There are many examples of the differences between the
Platonic language and that of desire. The above examples should help to
guide her. There is a different feeling when you read them. When you
watch movies or TV - or even when someone talks to you - have fun
realizing the moment when the language of desire was injected into
conversation.

OK, you have to stop

This is a very versatile text that can be used in many situations

different. First, we are using the word 'stop' here ironically
in a playful context. I hope it doesn't need to be stated that, when
here in a serious tone in very real physical contexts, "stop" is a word
what it means or what it says. Therefore, we should never use that word of
joking when the reality is that we are talking seriously and we do not have
desire to continue.

But in a text that is obviously ironic – or even personally – when

with a smile and a wink, "You have to stop" can be a
an intensely funny and sexy phrase. This is true both in the sense
directly sexual as in the most absurd sense.
Here is a scenario that illustrates both:

Scenario A

They send you a photo in which they are wearing a

suit/tight pants/sexy clothes in general.

OK, you have to stop

You can't send me your photos like that...

It causes sensations in me.

This duplicates the tone of the last message. Saying 'you cannot' (again,
in a FUN context - please don't get me wrong here) it is a
immediate provocation for someone to continue.
 When they hear you say that you basically don't have permission to
send more photos like this, it's exactly what they will want to do.
In fact, they will probably want to do this even more - and if
have more fun doing this - than if you said: "Please send me
more photos like this.

Why? Because it turns it into a playful game. That's why language

It matters. You could literally be saying the same thing, but one kind
of language will make someone want to do something more, and another will make him
shrug your shoulders, drop the toy, and go do something else.

... does things with me

ambiguous and sexy. You will leave them thinking: 'What does it do? Tell me!'

Scenario B

You ask what he is doing and he says

who is cleaning the kitchen.

YOU SAY:

Stop . . .

You can't tell me things like that

You...

Cleaning the kitchen...

Makes me imagine certain things...

In this case, I am playing with the cadence by not sending all of these.
messages like a single message, but instead, they arrive
in rapid succession so that each new one appears on the screen - leading you to
wait for the next message through the use of "

It's a way of saying: don't leave the phone; I haven't finished. Also
clearly reveals that you are using sexuality in a way
playful and slightly absurd, explaining what he just said
what are you doing, followed by 'it does things for me'.
 People become very literal with their sexuality. The goal
it's not about becoming a character like Angelina Jolie exuding
sexuality. It is to show that you have a sexual side, even
when using sexuality in conjunction with something that is not typically
sexual. In fact, when something is not directly sexual, like cleaning
the kitchen, this gives you more freedom to be directly sexual. It is
like a free pass to show this side of oneself without
no real "danger".

Have fun with these three powerful pieces of the language of desire,
in a direct or absurd context:

OK, you have to stop

You can't tell me / say / do / send me things like that

Do things for me...

Take a picture of something that reminds you of a sexual moment or sexual experience.
you were together. It could be a chair in your house, a piece of clothing that
did you use on a specific night or just an item that keeps a
an emotional reminder for both of you. Send the photo along with the text
below. It is a way to instantly induce a state in them,
taking them back there as well.

Hmm... what could this be reminding me of right now?

This is another form of Callback, like the ones we talked about earlier.
Except that it is not a callback to a shared joke
it's a callback to a shared sexual memory.
 Another example would be:

I can no longer watch this movie the same way.

This achieves the same thing as the previous text. If you had fun during
the movie, this is a great way to create a sexual moment through text. And
the true beauty of this is that you didn’t say anything explicitly sexual.
You just directed their attention to that memory and are
allowing their minds to do the work for you.

You can always add a little to this message,

dividing it into two parts:

TEXT 1:
I can't watch this movie the same way now...

TEXT 2:
My mind goes to places...

This section of the sofa only arouses me now. It's a problem.

 First, tell them to look at a part of the sofa (or any
place of the house/car/wherever it may be) now evokes a memory
of you two, and the memory turns you on, it's hot. Just like
tell them that "it's a problem". I cannot emphasize it enough
like these little moments - where you playfully suggest
that there is something annoying/frustrating/uncontrollable about something that you
you are feeling - can turn a complimentary message into a
fun and playful. Suddenly, it feels like a game. This gives them
permission to provoke. It gives them a kind of playful power.
(obviously not real) about you.

And, like many of these sexual messages, it actually doesn't require

sexting. It only requires you to point their minds in a
determine a direction and let it do all the work for you.

I can't stop thinking about the other night.

This simple message acts as a callback for a

experience that you had together recently. Of course, if you do not
you can adapt it to a specific memory:

I keep thinking about that time we were in your car,

coming back from the restaurant...

You can always keep track of this with:

I can't wait to do this with you again

Or let's say that you have never met in person, but

they had some sexual moments together over the phone or through
text message. Perhaps you were discussing the things that
can't wait to do when they are finally together.
Could you say:

I keep thinking about our conversation the other night

 This text can be sent when you are making reference to
a sexy conversation that you two had recently.
Remember, any sexual tone you create through text can lead to
to a more sexually explicit conversation. It is likely that someone
Send a text message asking for details: 'Tell me what you '
are you imagining" or "Tell me what you would like to do with me.

Once again, I have absolutely no interest in saying

not to have sex. That's up to you. If you like someone,
is having fun with this person and believes that their intentions
they are good, go crazy.

But remember: there are ways to avoid it, if you want.

For example, when they ask you what you are imagining
specifically you can say:

I am imagining things that I can't type.

or

You will have to use YOUR imagination for this part.

But I am having fun in my own way.

Sure, this is the version where you choose not to say anything. You always
you can take an intermediate stance and give in a little. For example:

I'm definitely not going to type everything that is going through my

head now. But I may or may not be thinking of you bending me
about the sink in my kitchen

This has a bit of everything. It says that you will not elaborate beyond that.
what you can always confirm in your next message if he
try to ask - but provide him with enough details to make his
mind shoot.

The emoji added at the end suggests that you have already said too much and
add a playful touch to it.

I may have dreamed of you last night.

What was that?
I can't say... but I've never seen this side of you before.
 This message escapes with murder. Are you able to direct the
tell them about a sexy dream you had, without really telling them
nothing other than the fact that they clearly did some things
indescribable in dreams. It’s another great way to talk about sex without
actually talk about sex.

Whatever you are doing right now, you are in the wrong place

It is completely possible to send a photo of yourself that arouses the

someone's imagination without sending a nude.

In the example from the previous page, you are in the shower, sending this
message along with a photo only of your legs in the water — or
even just of your feet! The goal is not to send a nude, but to give a
they have a view of where you are so they can think of you
in that sexy environment. This doesn't have to be in the shower - you could
easily be on a lounge chair outside and do the
same movement.

Scenario

He sends you a picture of himself (possibly hanging out with friends)

or with the family) and you send the following texts:

YOU - TEXT 1:
This seems so much fun!

YOU - TEXT 2 (IMMEDIATELY AFTER TEXT 1):

Also...

YOU - TEXT 3 (IMMEDIATELY AFTER TEXT 2):

Your arms in this photo...

Wait for his response...

ELE:
What? hahaha

YOU:
Just enjoying the view
 The last message could even be adapted to:
Nothing . . . just enjoying the view

I like this message because you recognize his text from a

sweet way before delivering the late reflection that you cannot
not to mention that his arms look sexy in the photo. Obviously,
you can change this to fit anything about him / the photo.
For example:

Also..
You in that suit...
Your smile in this photo...
Your hair in this photo...
Your body in this photo ...
Your eyes in this photo...

Scenario

They send you a picture in which they are dressed.

You seem really fucking good. Wow

This is a simple and straightforward message, many people do not

they send messages like this - they are very shy, trying
hold back too much. Sending messages like this every day can
being a little too much (or not - it just depends on your dynamics). But
a direct and timely message, showing that you are surprised
with their appearance at that moment, it can be powerful.

I intentionally used 'Caralho' here because it adds punch. You

you may not like to curse - if you do, don't use it. Just consider if 'you
"It seems very good" has the same effect. The well-placed swear word here says
there is something significant about how they look good in this photo. Therefore,
Keep it for when you really want it.

The 'wow' at the end just completes this effect. They, for a moment,
they stopped you in your tracks.
 Texts for when they try to stay
very quickly sexual
There may be times when you need to slow someone down.
sexually. This means setting boundaries and sometimes expectations.
Here are some options for when you want to communicate the fact
that, although one likes someone, still does not feel comfortable in 'going there'.

Scenario A

They become very sexual very quickly.

This is a bit fast for me, even though I think you're a hottie.

This is a great text for when someone is trying to be very sexual.

with you in a stage of the relationship where you do not
feel comfortable enough to do it.

This message is another example of The Bliss Point. It communicates

that's a bit fast for me
time to give a compliment - 'even though I think you are very handsome'
- and, as an additional bonus, shows that this does not come from a place
of you being a puritan without sexuality. You can even add the
this message if you are enjoying the tension that was building
up to that point:

This is a bit fast for me, even though I think you're very handsome.
Taking advantage of the preliminaries

This last part may refer to the sexual play that you
they were having before it became more sexual than you.
felt comfortable.

Warning: I'm not saying that you should use this very sweet text and
praising someone who is being sexual in an unpleasant way or
disrespectful. This should be a big red flag warning for
you move on - not complimenting the guy. This text is not for
to pacify someone's bad behavior; it is more about pushing
kindly a guy you like - who happens to have a rhythm a
a little different from yours - in the right direction.
 And even so, if he continues to persist against his wishes.
polite, you can be much firmer or move on. It is because of
this is the reason I did not include this message as a level text
1, because if they jump to something explicitly sexual in the first
If they send you a message, why worry?

Here is another useful text to have in your pocket when someone

tries to get very sexual very quickly:

I think you mistook me for a future version of myself that was

in many other meetings with you.

I love this message because it makes two things clear when it is sent:

I'm not saying this because I'm a little saint. In fact, I am

A woman who likes, what would you know if you invested more time.
and energy in me.

It's too early for me to get involved in my own sexual dynamics that
you are trying to establish.
 Scenario B

They invite you, but you are not ready to go to their house.

THEY:

Do you want to come watch a movie at my house on Friday?

YOU:

Hmm, it might be a bit early for me to do that.

For which you should be grateful.
I am a dangerously good affectionate.

"Netflix" has become a ubiquitous term in dating.

motive. The ease of simply inviting someone to watch
a movie on the couch, among other things, is always a temptation.

There's nothing wrong with that, of course, but if you feel that you still haven't
reached this level of comfort with someone, the above response is great
way to divert while still applying the Happiness Point technique
mentioned earlier in the program.

Saying 'maybe it's a little early for me to do this' is a good way to

communicate that it is not a difficult 'no' - it is just a 'not yet'.
the implication is that they will have to invest more to reach this point with
you. But, by suggesting that they should be 'grateful' because you are a '
dangerously" (notice the language of desire) good affectionate, you are
giving them something to think about.

There is something sexy in the insinuation that your affection is so powerful that it can
suck them - in a way they are not prepared for.

You can also adapt this language for:

What is luck to you, because I

I am dangerously good at being affectionate.
 Messages like these work because, by affirming their limits in
At the beginning, you allow yourself to be more playful and sexy at the end. You have already outlined.
the line at this point.

Your house can be a problem. I think you can

you have to take me on a date this week, sir

This is a great text to send when someone is trying to make you

Come on, but don't you feel that they invested enough for you to do that.
I also made this relevant to level 4, because it can also
to work in scenarios where you have already slept with someone, but feel that
this person is not investing enough continuously so that
you keep sleeping with him.

I love this message for its frankness. You are not trying
passively find excuses to avoid going to his house for a
meeting. You are showing confidence by saying exactly why the
his place is forbidden now, but there is also a touch of playfulness in it
the word "problem". Can you ensure that this fun is received if
you use one or two emojis:

Your house may be a problem. / I think you might have to

take me on a date this week, sir

The word "problem" is also a word of desire. The problem is

funny. The problem is sexy. Messages like these work because, when
establish your limits at the beginning, you allow yourself to be more playful and
sexy in the end. You have already drawn the line at this point.

And that's also why - if this is true for you - that you are not
happening this week. Therefore, even if you are rejecting
his 'homecoming' now, are you still feeding the
his imagination of what could have been, while also saying
to him that the only realistic way to move forward is for him to take her
to a real meeting.
 Texts for When Someone Reappears
This is a very common scenario. You build a connection with someone and
has a lot of fun, only to be disappointed when they move away.

It may not all happen in an instant, like in the case of someone

completely "ghost" of you. Perhaps instead, you realize that
their messages are getting shorter and the time between them is getting
longer, until entire weeks pass by without really hearing about
of this person. No one says anything, nor gives a name to what is happening,
but an unrecognized distance begins to occur. When you speak for
brief moments, there does not seem to be any real depth. It is almost
as if they were just trying to see if you are still there, but
they are not interested in building any momentum.
You find yourself pursuing the connection you had with them, which
it seemed so real that day, week or incredible month that you
they shared together when the attraction, chemistry, and/or connection seemed
grow without effort.

When they arrive, even if it's just with a superficial message,

there is an instinctive, impulsive, and emotional punch in the stomach that rises through
your body, initially transforming into a wave of hope and
possibility that floods your heart, then continuing to travel in
direction to the head, where your brain overanalyzes how to respond.

This excessive analysis usually takes the form of waiting:

try to build the ideal message that will make them strive harder -
something that conveys self-respect but does not inadvertently reveal everything
the resentment, longing - and if you are honest with yourself, hurt -
that tormented you since the last time you spoke.

As in any of the texts in this guide, there is no perfect message.

Just a series of words coming together to echo a very truth
deeper and more universal attraction and connection.
 Understanding the principle is fundamental. Seeing an example from the text is
necessary to learn. After having both, you can create anything
message you wish, as long as it follows the principle.

Here is a message you can send in this scenario. Let's assume

that you two were close, but communication almost died. So, from
nothing, they send a sweet text message saying 'I miss you'
I wish I could see you.

Hey you. I hope you're doing well. I'll be very honest, okay?
When you send me a message like this, I don't have
certainty about what to say. I don't feel that we have been so close for some time.
time and these messages (with or without reason) sound like a request
of attention

Let's look at the principles behind this message:

Hey you. I hope you are well.

This is a way to show that what follows is not said with anger.
or passive aggression, but with a kind heart and good intentions.

It had been a while since I felt so close.

This line is another example of The Bliss Point. On one hand, you are
showing that they feel something good is happening with them. But the
the operative word is taken. They let that feeling age,
and the consequence is that you don't feel so close for some time.
time. This is not objectively saying that you are no longer
next; it's just expressing how you feel. Someone may argue
with you, whether your statement is objectively true or not, but it is
much harder for them to deny their feelings about something.
 These messages (with or without reason) appear
as a request for attention

This is undoubtedly the turning point of the message. You are

pointing out in unequivocal terms the appearance of this. It is obviously the
part that has more potential to put the other person on the defensive, and
that is why it is expressed in the language of "right or wrong" and "appearance".

This allows for it to be another 'feeling' and 'perception' that you have, in
instead of trying to make it objectively true.

You are allowing for the fact that you might be wrong about this, while
pointing to your side that their messages are appearing as a
attempt to attract attention. Therefore, whether true or not, if they
They want more from you, this is a perception they will have to correct.
with your actions (like investing more).

Note that, although there is a real vulnerability in this message -

In the end, vulnerability is needed to be honest - it sustains.
a kind of emotional neutrality. By sending this, you are
showing that you are in control of your emotions in this situation,
even if they register a tone of disappointment in the message.

It is also extremely sincere, but it is not lacking warmth.

In other courses and mentoring sessions, I talk about this, in this case:

Be honest about what was lost, while . . .

Leave the door open for things to get better but…
Be clear about what would be necessary to truly be better
(as they build real proximity and momentum instead of these)
sporadic messages).

Isn't it amazing how much can be communicated with such few words?
That's why, although the texts often seem trivial due to
nature (and they can sometimes be), the potential of words should not
to be banalized in no context, text or other.
Language is language, whether an inscription on the wall of a cave,
message in a bottle, a handwritten letter or a text. They are
simply a means to an end... to understand and be understood.

And of course, there is nothing in this text that wouldn't work just as well if you
faced the truth.

Texts for when you want

formalize the relationship

YOU
I was just thinking, when these guys call me
to leave, I don't know what to say.

THEY:
Is someone calling you to go out?

YOU:
That wasn't really the point, and it wouldn't even matter if they did.
they had. But I know that I like you and I don't want to disrespect what
we'll see if this goes anywhere

This should be a personal conversation, but I am providing a text.

to illustrate psychology. This does not mean that these texts cannot
to be used to start a personal conversation about consolidation
your relationship if it is still ambiguous.

If you know you'll talk to them later, this text can be a

way to start the conversation. But, to be clear, I still believe that the
words in these messages would be better conveyed by phone or
in person - although, as happens with all communications, this
demand more courage. Obviously, you can use someone else's invitation
how the impetus to send this message or make it hypothetical: 'If
if someone invited me out today, I wouldn't know what to say to
this person.

The implication is the same: I won't be in the market forever, so it is

Better for you to decide what this means to you or risk losing me.
Nothing activates someone's desire switches more than the idea of something.
(or someone) leaving. However, I am not in favor of using this psychology of
childish or cruel form. Here we are not doing either.
simply being real.

Furthermore, you are following with genuine warmth, affection for

that you two have and the desire to protect it. The way they receive
this information will now reveal how much they value what you have
together and if they really intend to take them somewhere.

As I mentioned, it is better to have conversations about commitment in person,

for obvious reasons. Still, many people find it stressful to discuss
such important (and emotionally charged) topics face to face, without time
to compose your thoughts into a text.

Some Final Considerations

Someone could be forgiven for thinking that the person who created this
the program loves to send text messages or considers this extremely
important. I do not. I love communication. More precisely, I adore a
effective communication. Nothing gives me more joy than delivering well a
idea in one of my videos, or in a speech on stage, or in a
a program like this. Communicating my thoughts, feelings, and ideas is
more than a personal love of mine — it is the work of my life.

But it must be something we are all focused on. Our ability to

communicating our value, our standards, and our ideas will determine strength
of our relationships.

Since we spend so much time exchanging text messages, it seemed

appropriate not only to use texts with much more force to reach the
desired results, but also to use them as a practical vehicle for
communicate much greater lessons about attraction
and communication at a universal level.

Sending text messages was my Trojan horse. My goal was to leave

you, my student, with the feeling that, through this program, you
acquired a much deeper understanding than ever imagined and
that can help you in all your communications in life and in love.
In this, I hope I have succeeded.
 If I have helped you this far, the next step is to get to know my method.
7 Secrets to catch the right guy, where you will learn to create
attraction, demonstrating your worth, setting boundaries and expectations
and navigate difficult conversations.

It is based on what you learned in this program and expands on that.

ideas for many other situations in which you inevitably
it will be found during dating and relationships.

Once armed with these tools, you will have them forever.
The moment, the conversation, and even the man can change, but the
words will never go out of style. You will have the gift of communication
what you will give to yourself and to everyone you meet - and
will never stop giving.

Thank you for the time you devoted to this program. It was a
pleasure to create it for you. And I hope we meet many times
other ways to learn and grow with each other.

Guilherme Maoli

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