Humility in Conflict Resolution
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Conflict Resolution
PREREQUISITES FOR THE
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Wouldn't it be surprising for everyone?
we understand that there is a biblical passage
that when violated brings all kinds of confusion
among people?
The truth is that when couples have
problems in the relationship are certain that by
One of them in the couple has issues.
also with this biblical text.
This passage does not specifically apply to
marriage but it fits him perfectly.
I urge you therefore, I, the prisoner in the Lord,
that you may walk worthy of the calling to which
you have been called,
with all humility and meekness, with
long-suffering, bearing with one another
others in love,
diligently striving to preserve
the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace;
Efésios 4:1-3
Let's pay attention to the last sentence of verse 3, the command that Apostle Paul gives us:
esforçando-vos diligentemente por preservar a unidade do Espírito no vínculo da
peace.
So we need to be direct about something:
We must diligently seek peace with others.
people, not only with Christians but also
with non-Christians.
if possible, as much as it depends on you,
make peace with all men;
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
So what precedes all this are four virtues.
essential that the apostle Paul places in this
text.
You could say that you already have these four virtues.
implanted in your life?
Yes, you are a great conflict resolver.
None of us is capable of fulfilling these pre-
requirements by ourselves as they do not come into being
I know, they are indeed virtues granted to those who have been of
fato regenerado. Mas todos os verdadeiros cristãos
they can commit to learning how to walk
according to these virtues, so that every day
let's be more prepared to resolve conflicts of
the form of God and thereby glorify him.
PRE-REQUISITE ONE:
HUMILITY
I urge you, then, I, the prisoner in the Lord, to walk in a manner
worthy of the calling to which you were called,
with all humility
Ephesians 4:1,2
The first requirement is humility.
What is the virtue then that prevents all conflict even before
let's start?
But pride is the first characteristic that hinders every good person.
beginning of a relationship, and blocks our ability to
resolve conflicts with other people.
Pride only brings conflicts, but those who
Those who accept advice are wise.
Proverbs 13:10
There are several manifestations of pride, which is the opposite of humility and
that we are born with it. See if you recognize some of them in your life.
Reluctance to admit when I am wrong.
2. Resorting to defensiveness, shifting blame, justifying or remaining
irritating when I am legitimately disapproved by another
person.
3. Becoming impatient or upset when challenged in
conversations - especially when challenged in
public.
4. Hypersensitivity to correction.
5. When wronged, he is not willing to forgive the
offender who did not show submission or
regret
6. Difficulty in being satisfied with others
What is pride?
Pride is a deeply rooted sin that is
self-preservation is therefore harder to kill and root out than the
other sins. It hinders your own discovery... Does not allow
that the sinner sees his sin when he is reproved; neither
allows him to confess it if he sees him, nor... to hate himself
and renounce it... Until when does the sinner recognize all the evidence
of pride in others, he does not see it in himself. When he feels
who is disregarding the reprimand, and knows that this is a sign of
pride in other people, yet the sinner does not acknowledge it
in himself. If you try to cure him of this or any other flaw,
you will feel like you are dealing with a wasp or a
viper; even when the sinner spits the poison of pride; this
poison is part of its nature and, therefore, it does not feel that it is
prejudicial or poisonous...” — For most people, pride is
so indistinguishable that they defend it when we speak against it
Richard Baxter.
Stuart Scott:
When someone is proud, they are self-centered.
This is a way to worship oneself. A proud person believes that
is, from which comes or in which is the source of what is good, right and
worthy of praise.
He also believes that he is (or should be), by himself, the
doer of anything worthwhile that must be done,
certamente, ser o benfeitor de todas as coisas.
In essence, he believes that all things must happen from
of him, through him and for him. The proud one is competitive in relation
to others and, especially, in relation to God. The proud wants
to be on top.
The proud seeks to take God out of His place.
This phrase certainly describes the arrogant.
The sin of pride is the AIDS of the soul.
Almost like a waterfall, the HIV-AIDS virus blinds the eyes of the system.
immune system of its victim preventing it from seeing these bodily enemies that
threaten your life.
Pride not only blinds us so that we do not see it, but it also blinds us to
all the other sins hidden in the depths of our heart and of the
our life. It makes us hate correction and reprimand, hides our
the sin of us justifies our sin, rationalizes our sin and prevents that
we regret him.
Pride is an epidemic evil. It is everywhere and manifests itself in many ways.
ways.
As much as we hate to admit it, we all have pride - everyone, without exception. The
The question is not: "Am I proud?" but rather: "Where is he? How much of it do I
Do I have? We all have the tendency to think a lot about ourselves and the
respect for ourselves
Pride is the root of all sin and evil, so the truth is this: pride has
to die in you, or nothing from Heaven can live in you” Andrew Murray
Notice the terms that Solomon uses to describe the people whose
Pride does not allow them to accept reproach or instruction.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise it.
wisdom and teaching.
Proverbs 1:7
Do not rebuke the scorner, lest he hate you; rebuke the wise
wise, and he will love you.
Proverbs 9:8
Who loves discipline loves knowledge, but what annoys the...
Reprimand is stupid. Proverbs 12:1
The path to life belongs to those who keep the teaching, but whoever abandons it
reprimand goes wrong.
Proverbs 10:17
Humility, on the other hand, makes people realize that by
the cause of the effects of sin in the mind we do not know everything; each one
of us is completely capable of discerning wrong, judging wrong, and understanding wrong and
to communicate poorly.
But more than that, God did not give any of us all wisdom.
A humble person recognizes and appreciates the fact that God has blessed the
others with gifts, skills, and information through which we can
to learn.
The humble person who is a great sinner is not only capable of
to do what is wrong, but also to be blind to sin
for which it is being confronted.
The humble person can be grateful for the blessing of counsel, both for the
correction received as much by the one who corrects it.
Pride and lack of forgiveness
Jaime and Beto pg 31
A humble believer recognizes the enormity of their own debt.
of sin that Christ forgave, and by comparison, considers it minimal
any offense that he has to forgive, he promptly grants
forgiveness to those who ask for it sincerely.
Be quick to forgive and ask for forgiveness. The humble person...
ready to forgive, because she knows how much she has been forgiven.
She has no problem apologizing, because she desires herself.
peacemaker (Colossians 3:12-14).
A humble believer minimizes the sin or weakness of others in
comparison with yours. A humble person thinks about theirs.
own sins more often than in the sins of
others (Matthew 7:3-4).
Richard Baxter:
Humble and pious men correctly amplify their
sins in the light of the greatness and excellence of God to whom
they offend; in the same way, the proud man increases each
small mistake made against him; every word said against him and
any alleged omission or negligence in relation to it, in
reason for the high regard he has for himself.
The proud person has a mindset centered on the 'self'.
the mindset of a gentleman, instead of the mindset of a
it's having the focus turned towards the "self" and towards your
satisfaction; it is a quest for self-recognition, self-
exaltation and a desire to control and use all things
for your own benefit.
In what way does our desire to be valued too much by
others can affect our ability to resolve conflicts
successfully?
1. Can you try to respond defensively (blame
alguém ou outra coisa, justificar nosso pecado, ou
to get mad
2. It may tempt us to exaggerate (lie about it)
our virtues and minimize our flaws
3. Can you try to show partiality in a conflict?
to favor the opinion of a person (that one)
what we wish for recognition) about the other
What is the difference between pride and humility?
Pride is the illusion that our achievements are primarily the
result of our own deeds ( What do you have that I do not have
received? 1 Co 4.7) Every good gift comes from God, the humble
recognize this truth James 1:17.
Pride is to consider ourselves above and beyond the condition
the proportion that God has designated for us. On the other hand, humility
and we consider ourselves in a sober manner, according to the
the measure that God has assigned to us. Rom 12:3
3. Pride is the desire to be considered by others above and beyond the
condition and proportion that God has designated for us. (Diotrephes 3 John
On the other hand, humility is the desire that others do not see us
consider above and beyond the condition and proportion that designated the
we. II Cor 12:6
Pride is the desire to exalt ourselves above and beyond the
condition and the proportion that God designated to us. On the other hand
humility is contentment with the condition and the proportion that God
assigned us.
Conclusion
Humility vs Pride
in conflict resolution