Understanding Self-Love and Its Impact
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Unfortunately, one of the most common evils in our lives is
insecurities, low self-esteem. Without respect for oneself, living a fulfilling life,
satisfactory, it becomes an impossible mountain to climb. What happens if not
Do I have self-love? Let's see it in this article.
Self-love is the relationship we have with ourselves. It is to know oneself and
accepting ourselves as we are. It does not imply that we think we are perfect, but rather that
we can also recognize ourselves in imperfections without ceasing to value ourselves.
Self-love is being aware that something is hurting you and not wanting that.
for you, to take care of yourself and prioritize yourself.
Self-love and self-esteem
Having self-esteem and self-worth is closely related, but it is not exactly the same.
same. Self-esteem is nourished by the value we give to all dimensions of
our life. Self-love goes a step further: it is the unconditional acceptance of
Our being does not depend on who we are or what we do. Loving you frees.
In none of the cases will we be talking about feeling superior to others, to the
opposite. When your self-esteem and self-love are good, you don't need
comparing yourself to others, you are happy with who you are and what you have and you do not validate yourself
through the difficulties or successes of others.
Why don't I have self-love?
Our way of relating to others and to ourselves is not innate, we have learned it.
acquired throughout our life, especially during childhood and
Adolescence. We learn to love and to be loved through our figures.
references.
These are some of the situations that can devalue your self-esteem:
That in your family environment your caregivers had little love
own way of treating you crossed by a
low self-concept.
That you suffer mistreatment from these people. Whether it is due to
physical violence, psychological, absenteeism, coldness... You grew up feeling
that you were not valued and that you were not important to the people anymore
important to you.
Not wanting you makes it so that, over time, increasingly complicated habits are reinforced.
to undo
Talking badly to you, invalidating you. You only criticize yourself, but you are much more:
you have virtues, passions, memories, and a future to discover.
Believe everything they say about you. You measure your worth through the
opinions of others without questioning them. Revalue yourself, observe yourself,
Know yourself and you will gain confidence in yourself.
Resignation and bad habits and insecurities gain ground.
You demand too much of yourself. This is not the best you can do either.
Yes. There is always more and better that can be done, one never reaches the point where
you value and recognize how far you have come. If you don't love yourself, if you don't
If you have self-love, you will never be enough for yourself.
What happens if I don't have self-love is that I feel more insecure, alone, with
fear, shame, and constant guilt. This state of vulnerability exposes
to more abuse, because the person believes they have the right to be respected and
valued.
Benefits of loving yourself
People with self-love tend to have more well-being, self-esteem, and happiness.
They are not afraid to express their emotions and connect with their bonds. They enjoy
of better emotional stability and dare to venture and succeed. They give their best.
that they have without it becoming a demand and without an internal voice that
she fears and threatens herself with failure.
If you don't have self-love, you will never be enough for yourself.
Their priority is to grow as individuals and take care of their health (mental and physical).
allowing themselves to do everything they enjoy. They accept their imperfections,
They manage their emotions well, take responsibility, and can set boundaries.
Self-love and relationships
There is a belief that says 'if you don't love yourself, who will love you?' It's true that if
you have a trust issue this will affect your relationship with yourself and with others
besides, a person can be loved even when they do not love themselves
wants at that moment. Many times others can see in you what you do not see.
We do not start a relationship with all our problems solved. If focused properly,
a couple is an opportunity for growth and evolution as a team. What happens
By not having self-love, we tend to depend on our partner and it’s more
It's easy for us to fall into a relationship where we are not valued and are hurt.
Remember that you are your better half, self-love is the origin of everything you
love.
How to harvest my self-love
The benefits of achieving self-love sound good, right? It takes
time to learn how to have good self-esteem and hug yourself with affection, and perhaps
it is necessary to go to therapy and let yourself be accompanied by a professional. Of all
Here are some tips for you to start on your path.
Let yourself be cared for
Having self-love is not always being self-sufficient; it also involves knowing how to ask.
help and let yourself be cared for. Also, see how your loved ones show you their
support and warmth will be very beneficial for reflecting and being aware of who you are
important for the people who matter to you.
Reorganize your priorities
This implies two fundamental aspects:
Repeat to yourself that your well-being is paramount. You cannot leave yourself behind.
your list of priorities or all your obligations will take precedence over
you.
Observe in your surroundings those situations or people who are
taking a lot of energy from you and destroying your self-love. Value
unchanging and distancing yourself from those sources of discomfort.
Adapt your demands
Sometimes expecting the impossible from ourselves makes it easier to attack each other if we
Things don't go as we planned.
Set goals that you can achieve to feel that you are making progress. Do it at your own pace,
Applauding your progress. Take advantage of these achievements to talk with you in a way
constructive and optimistic.
Get to know yourself
Don't stop listening to yourself or looking for who you are, what your virtues are and
debilidades. ¿De qué punto partías? ¿Qué estás mejorando? ¿Qué te preocupa?
Perhaps until now you have been criticizing yourself and seeing some aspect of yourself as negative.
Try to analyze it, maybe you see as an imperfection something in you that could be
a skill? Your being is filled with characteristics and precious ones that you can
explore. Turn around what happens to you when you lack self-love. Live new
experiences and see how wonderful you are.