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Iden=fying Shared Values

Objec0ve

To strengthen your rela=onship by iden=fying values you share with your partner.

You Should Know

You and your partner each bring your own values to the rela=onship: the principles, goals, and
beliefs that shape choices, ac=ons, decisions, and mo=va=ons. The way you communicate about
values impacts your rela=onship and your future. You might not discuss conflic=ng values un=l a
situa=on makes it necessary (for instance, discussing paren=ng values when a baby arrives).
In successful rela=onships, partners determine that their conflic=ng values are acceptable or
tolerable and are worth the effort. They communicate in ways that are respectul and
suppor=ve of each other’s values while focusing on what is best for their rela=onship. They
encourage each other to reach individual goals, instead of trying to change your partner.
What to Do

Make a copy of this worksheet for each partner. Aier you have both completed it, share your
responses without judging or cri=cizing.
Using the following list, determine which values are most important to you. As you review the
list, consider these ques=ons:
• What really mabers to you?

• What sort of person do you want to be?

• What personal strengths and quali=es do you want to develop?

Rate each value based on its importance: E= extremely important, I = important, and N = not
important.
_____ Acceptance/self-acceptance _____ Asser=veness

_____ Authen=city _____ Coopera=on and collabora=on

_____ Caring, compassion, and kindness _____ Family

_____ Contribu=on and generosity _____ Furthering my educa=on

_____ Courage _____ Crea=vity

_____ Curiosity and discovery _____ Dedica=on and commitment

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_____ Excitement and adventure _____ Fairness and jus=ce

_____ Faith and spirituality _____ Flexibility

_____ Freedom and independence _____ Friendship/belonging

_____ Forgiveness _____ Fun and pleasure

_____ Gra=tude and apprecia=on _____ Health (physical and mental)

_____ Honesty/trust _____ Love/romance

_____ Mindfulness _____ Order and structure

_____ Persistence and resilience _____ Personal growth and development

_____ Career/professional development _____ Recrea=on and leisure

_____ Respect/self-respect _____ Responsibility

_____ Safety and protec=on _____ Sensuality and sexuality

_____ Suppor=veness _____ Wealth

_____ Success/achievement _____ Adventure/travel

_____ Balance _____ Community involvement

_____ Joy/happiness _____ Humor/laughter

_____ Leadership _____ Peace/harmony

_____ Popularity/recogni=on/status _____ Reputa=on

_____ Stability/security _____ Other: _______________________

What are your three most important values?

1. ____________________________________________________________________________

2. ____________________________________________________________________________

3. ____________________________________________________________________________

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Compare your answers. Which values do you and your partner share?

______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

Did this exercise help you communicate your values and goals to each other? Explain.

______________________________________________________________________________
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Which values do you and your partner agree are the most important for a happy and healthy
rela=onship?
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

Of your conflic=ng values, which are you willing to support, tolerate, and respect? Explain.

______________________________________________________________________________
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What are some ways you can you support your partner’s different values and goals, while
remaining true to your own?
______________________________________________________________________________
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Did either of you iden=fy values that the other finds unacceptable or intolerable? Explain.

______________________________________________________________________________
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Reflec0ons on This Exercise

What did you learn from this exercise?

______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

How helpful was this exercise? _____

(1 = not very helpful, 5 = moderately helpful, 10 = extremely helpful)

What else can you do to make progress in this area?

______________________________________________________________________________
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Common questions

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By reflecting on shared value exercises, couples might gain insights into their individual strengths and areas needing growth, and understand how these fit into their relationship narrative. They can identify which shared values can be leveraged for mutual development, fostering a supportive atmosphere where both partners feel valued and understood. Additionally, recognizing different values can highlight the importance of personal growth within the relationship framework .

Couples may face challenges such as misunderstandings, resentment, or compromise fatigue when their values conflict. To address these conflicts, partners must engage in respectful and supportive communication, focusing on what benefits the relationship. They can support each other's goals, remain true to their own values, and determine if conflicting values are acceptable or need to be re-evaluated for the relationship to continue to thrive .

Strategies couples can use to align their goals include setting joint objectives that encompass elements of both partners' values, prioritizing values that enhance the relationship, and engaging in regular discussions to reassess and adapt their goals as their relationship develops. These strategies require open communication, compromise, and a genuine commitment to supporting each other's growth without undermining personal values .

Identifying values helps partners make more informed decisions about the future of their relationship by clarifying individual and shared priorities, thus reducing ambiguity. When values are clearly understood and communicated, partners can predict potential conflicts and address them proactively, allowing for a more strategic and harmonious planning of the future, whether it involves career choices, family planning, or lifestyle changes .

Identifying shared values can alter a couple's perspectives by enhancing their awareness of what is truly important in their relationship. This exercise encourages reflection and discussion, which can lead to a deeper understanding of one another's priorities and aspirations. As partners recognize values they share and what they can support or tolerate, they may gain new insights into their compatibility and areas that need work .

Identifying shared values contributes to a successful relationship by creating a foundation for mutual understanding and respect. When partners communicate their values, they can align their goals and establish a path that supports both individuals and the relationship as a whole. This process involves discussing conflicting values and determining whether they can be tolerated or supported, which in turn helps in making informed decisions about the relationship's future .

It is important for couples to discuss their values before making significant life decisions because values shape choices, actions, and motivations. Understanding each other's values helps prevent conflicts and ensures that decisions are made with mutual understanding. When partners know what really matters to each other, they can make decisions that are more likely to lead to a harmonious and supportive relationship .

A couple's willingness to tolerate conflicting values heavily influences the success of their relationship as it demonstrates flexibility and an understanding attitude. Tolerance allows partners to accept and support values that are different from their own without trying to alter the core beliefs of the other. This acceptance fosters a cooperative and supportive environment, which is essential for a sustainable and healthy relationship .

Communication plays a crucial role in navigating conflicting values by facilitating a respectful and supportive dialogue. Effective communication allows partners to express their values clearly, understand each other's perspectives, and collaboratively find ways to accommodate both sets of values. It also helps in determining which values are crucial and which can be compromised for the sake of the relationship .

Partners can support each other's individual goals by encouraging pursuits that align with their own values and by finding common ground where both partner's intentions intersect. They should communicate openly about the importance of each other's goals, actively listen, and provide encouragement and resources when appropriate, all while maintaining boundaries that protect their personal values .

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