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SUCCESS Now let’s reframe them in a positive

➔​ “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ●​ I am a nonsmoker
goal” ●​ I am fit and healthy
●​ I am at my ideal weight
●​ Progressive means that success is a journey, not a ●​ I can cover my bills
destination. We never arrive. After we reach one goal,
we go on to the next and the next and the next. An ideal goal should be expressed in the positive, be time
●​ Realization means it is an experience. Outside forces bound and specific.
cannot make me feel successful. I have to feel it within
myself. It is internal, not external. FACTORS RESPONSIBLE FOR SUCCESS:
●​ Worthy refers to our value system. Which way are we
heading? Positive or negative? Worthiness determines 1.​ Desire:
the quality of the journey. That is what gives meaning -​ The motivation to success comes from the burning
and fulfillment. Success without fulfillment is empty. desire to achieve a purpose.
●​ Goals are important because they give us a sense of -​ A burning desire is the starting point of all
direction. accomplishment.

Goal Setting: 2.​ Commitment:

-​ Most People don't know how to set goals. Some set -​ Integrity and wisdom are the two pillars on which to
goals that are too general. These are, in reality, build and keep commitments.
fantasies common to everyone. Goals, on the other
hand, are clear, written, specific, and measurable. 3.​ Responsibility:
➔​ A duty which becomes a desire will ultimately become
Some goals are called away from goals. These are usually a delight. (George Gritter)
framed in the negative. -​ People with character accept responsibilities. They
make decisions and determine their own destiny in life.
Here are a few examples.
●​ I don’t want to smoke anymore 4.​ Hard Work:
●​ I don’t want to be unfit -​ Success is not something that you run into by accident.
●​ I don’t want to be overweight It takes a lot of preparation and character.
●​ I don’t want to be broke ➔​ Henry Ford said, "The harder you work, the luckier you
get."

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5.​ Character: ●​ It breeds loyalty from both your subordinates and your
-​ Character is the sum total of a person's values, beliefs superiors.
and personality. ●​ It generates cooperation.
-​ It is reflected in our behavior, in our actions.
8.​ The Power of Persistence
6.​ Positive Believing ➔​ Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
POSITIVE BELIEVING VS POSITIVE THINKING (Calvin Coolidge)
●​ POSITIVE THINKING -​ Persistence means commitment and determination.
-​ is better than negative thinking and it will help us use -​ There is pleasure in endurance. Commitment and
our abilities to the fullest. persistence is a decision.
●​ POSITIVE BELIEVING
-​ is a lot more than positive thinking. It is having a HURDLES IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS
reason to believe that positive thinking will work.
-​ Positive believing is an attitude of confidence that 1.​ Lack of Information:
comes with preparation. -​ Information can have one of two effects.
-​ Having a positive attitude without making the effort is -​ With too much you can be overwhelmed, and can stop
nothing more than having a wishful dream. you from making a decision or taking the next steps.
-​ With too little information you are not able to put things
7.​ Give More Than You Get into perspective, or look at the bigger picture.
-​ It is easy to succeed today. We have no competition. If There are several ways to obtain new information.
you want to get ahead in life, go the extra mile. ➢​ Research, planned reading, listening to CD’s, DVD’s on
-​ Act of being generous and selfless a specific topic or networking with individuals who have
-​ Indicate a feeling of imbalance or being taken the knowledge to share with you.
advantage of.
2.​ Lack of Skill:
The advantages of doing more than you get paid for are: -​ In order to move forwards you may have to pick up
●​ You make yourself more valuable, regardless of what skills along the way. This need not be an enormous
you do and where you work. challenge.
●​ It gives you more confidence. Other alternatives such as
●​ People start looking at you as a leader. ➢​ online study, planned reading, shadowing a colleague
●​ Others start trusting you. in the workplace, or seeking advice from a friend can
●​ Superiors start respecting you. also help you obtain the skills you need.

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3.​ Limiting beliefs: 7.​ Time:

-​ These are set in our subconscious at an early age. -​ If we approach our use of time without any structure we
-​ Sometimes these beliefs can hold you back and limit may just leap from one thing to another in no particular
your ability to achieve your goals. order.

4.​ Well being: 8.​ Money:

-​ Despite your best efforts, there may be times when you -​ Money is a common reason for not pursuing your goal.
are simply not able to pursue your goals. Usually it is the lack of money that stops you.
-​ A sudden illness or injury can put set you back. When
this happens you need to be realistic. 9.​ Fear:
-​ Beating yourself up will not help, nor simply giving up. -​ State or condition of not achieving a desirable or
Take a little time to re assess your goal and consider intended objective.
what your options are now.
FAILURE
5.​ Other People: ➔​ Failure can be defined as the state or condition of not
-​ Quite often the people that are closest to us fear us achieving a desirable or intended objective; it can be
achieving our goals. For them this means that you may considered the opposite of success.
change and that will also mean change for them. ➔​ Failure is just a state of mind.
-​ example family, friends, colleagues ➔​ You are a failure only if you think that you failed.

6.​ Own Motivation: CAUSES OF FAILURE:

-​ Although you may see out with the best intentions,
after a while the novelty may wear off or there are other 1.​ Lack of Persistence:
distractions. This may be down to a number of factors. -​ More people fail not because they lack knowledge or
-​ If it requires modification because circumstances have talent but because they just quit.
changed, then change it. If it no longer serves you, -​ It’s important to remember two words: persistence and
then don’t waste your energy following up on resistance.
something just because you started it. -​ Persist in what must be done and resist what ought not
to be done.

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2.​ Lack of Conviction: -​ People with low self-confidence are constantly trying to
-​ People who lack conviction take the middle of the road. find themselves rather than creating the person they
But what happens in the middle of the road? You get want to be.
run over.
-​ People without conviction go along to get along 7.​ Fatalistic Attitude:
because they lack confidence and courage. -​ A fatalistic attitude prevents people from accepting
responsibility for their position in life.
3.​ Rationalization: -​ They attribute success and failure to luck.
-​ Winners might analyze, but they never rationalize. -​ They resign themselves to their fate, regardless of their
-​ Losers rationalize and have a book full of excuses to efforts, that whatever has to happen will happen
tell you why they couldn’t succeed. anyway.
-​ Change your perspective. Don’t think of every
unsuccessful attempt as a failure.

4.​ Dismissal of Past Mistakes:

-​ Some people live and learn, and some only live.
-​ Failure is a teacher if we have the right attitude.
-​ Wise people learn from their mistakes—experience is
the name they give to slipups.

5.​ Lack of Discipline:

-​ Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile
has never done it without discipline.
-​ Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice and avoiding
distractions and temptations.
-​ It means staying focused.

6.​ Poor Self-Esteem:

-​ Poor self-esteem is a lack of self-respect and
self-worth.