Relationship Inventory
Identifying what you want from a relationship is important for determining whether or
not you are compatible with your partner. A relationship inventory involves considering
the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship and how important different aspects
of relationships are to you.
Taking a relationship inventory can be a powerful tool to evaluate your relationship, and
learn more about you and your partner‘s desires, fears, and needs. Make a copy of this
worksheet for your partner. After you’ve eached filled them out, compare results and
discuss.
PART 1: Discovering Your Strengths & Weaknesses
Place a checkmark under strength or weakness for each item.
Strength Weakness
We agree on issues related to wanting and raising
children
We can discuss disagreements and resolve our
differences
We agree on financial matters
We can share our feelings with one another
We are comfortable discussing sexual issues
We share similar religious or spiritual beliefs and
values
We have similar goals for the future
We appreciate each other’s personality and habits
We each feel heard and valued in the relationship
We share similar opinions on what constitutes
cheating or crossing boundaries in our relationship
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Relationship Inventory
PART 2: What I Want in a Relationship
Rank the following relationship desires by how important they are to you by placing a checkmark in the box.
I have a desire to... LOW IMPORTANCE HIGH IMPORTANCE
Feel connected through talking
Feel connected through quality time together
Receive verbal tenderness
Receive physical tenderness
Be touched non-sexually
Have meaningful sex
Know we’ll stay together and feel secure
Feel secure in finances
Feel accepted and valued for who I am
Feel accepted and valued for what I do
Be included in most decisions that affect my life or
marriage
Know that he or she needs me
Be supported in my spiritual life
Be supported in my desire to give money/gifts to
others
Be supported in my desire to serve others
Receive genuine praise and affirmation
Be supported in my desire to have alone time
Be supported in my desire to have alone time
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Relationship Inventory
PART 3: What I Want From My Partner
Rank the following characteristics by how important it is that your partner have them by placing a checkmark
in the box.
I have a desire for my partner to... LOW IMPORTANCE HIGH IMPORTANCE
Be faithful
Apologize when they’ve done something hurtful
Be romantic and intimate
Believe in the importance of relationship equality
Accept my advice
Strive to resolve disagreements and differences with
me
Work together to cope with stress and crises
Communicate feelings, both positive and negative
Understand my personality
Develop a plan with me for our future relationship
Be emotionally healthy
Agree to seek couples counseling if there are issues
we can’t resolve on our own
Share important goals with me
Want to maintain a deep connection with me
Understand and respect my non-negotiable boundaries
Have a similar love language
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