III.

We have described energy as life-force, and somewhat more

concretely, we can describe it as an interaction between your
emotional state and your body's degree of muscular relaxation.
We can add that on a cruder and more blatant level, it's an
interaction between your internal mental and emotional state on
the one hand, and your body's muscular relaxation and
muscular motion on the other. We're emphasizing muscular
relaxation rather than muscular motion because muscular
motion can be overwhelming from an energetic perspective--
and if you use too much muscular motion, particularly if it's too
fast, you can easily make a woman feel vaguely uncomfortable.
So to create maximum comfort and engagement, as smoothly
as possible, we're going to pay more attention to the subtleties
of muscular relaxation and internal process.

This leads us to our next point.

There's a principle to consider when you're learning how to

work with energy-- specifically, sensitivity. Basically, the
sensations involved are very faint, very subtle. They're not
going to feel like you're being slapped on the back or even
feeling the mist from a water sprinkler land on your face. These
sensations aren't like being punched or grabbing a steering
wheel-- on the contrary, they are like warmth, or even a faint
memory of a warmth felt years ago. And because these
sensations are so faint, just focus on the slight, moment to
moment shifts in your feelings and suspicions.
Then mentally multiply the intensity of a sensation by 100, in
order to understand what it might quote-unquote mean or what
its relevance might be-- and certainly, multiply its intensity by
100, in order to understand what it might mean to a woman.
After you feel some tiny tingle of a sensation or suspicion, just
assume that your feelings and suspicions are correct. They
won't always actually be correct, but the belief that they are, or
usually are, will make you more and more aware of subtle
feedback, and over time, you'll become more and more
accurate. Or, more to the point, you'll become convinced that
you are more and more accurate, and therefore more and more
confident and expansive in talking about these subtle shifts.

And as you get more and more comfortable talking about these
subtle shifts and sensations, you'll find that women find you to
be more and more interesting. So, remember, what is this
energy thing that in a little while, you're going to look back and
see you've been talking about more and more easily and
effectively with women? Energy, you're going to explain, is the
interaction between someone's internal state and someone's
muscular tension and motion; energy is the circular, reflexive,
rippling connection between mind and body. Energy, you'll
explain to the curious women around you, is the indicator, not of
what someone does, but how someone feels and experiences
and truly lives what he or she is doing.

To intensify your sensitivity, so you can make use of it with

women later, let's do another exercise, one called Pleasure
Optimization.
Exercise Three

1.

think of something that makes you feel good,

and relive your last experience of it, or your
richest fantasy of it

2. notice where you feel it in your body; then

where you feel it next; then where you feel it
after that. You want to get at least three
feeling points in your body, three points
through which the feeling travels. If you don't
get three, you have a lot of room to grow, and
this exercise should be particularly helpful for
you.
3. Go to the last point in the sequence-- the last
point you felt in your pleasure's pathway
through your body. Ask yourself, “If the feeling
went further, where would it go to next? What
color or sound or sensation or thought would
open things up, and enable my pleasure to go
further?”
4. Relive the experience, asking this new
question and teaching yourself to take your
pleasure further, at every apparent final point.
Experience how it feels to move your pleasure
further and further through your body.
5. Now do it again, and assume that every
sensation you feel is the beginning of
pleasure. Because every sensation you feel
IS the beginning of pleasure, because you are
now turning all sensations into pleasure.
Because you enjoy sharing pleasure with
beautiful women, you are someone for whom
all sensation is simply undiscovered, not yet
explored pleasure.
6. Now do this again, and let yourself sense that
 your sensation, and ultimately, your sensation
of pleasure, is something concrete, something
physical, something that extends outside your
body, pressing outwardly in all directions.
Think of it like warm water, or warm sand,
flowing, pulsing, pushing outside of your body,
to touch the physical things around you.
7. Now imagine and feel that as your sensations
of pleasure touch those things around you,
those things are sending trickles and tingles of
pleasurable energy and sensation back into
your body.
8. Now let yourself enjoy exploring the thought
that your awareness and your pleasure grow
stronger and stronger, and you feel and can
give more pleasure to women than other men,
because your awareness of pleasure is so
powerful that it reaches out to feed and be fed
from the energy of even inanimate objects
around you. Everything gives you pleasure.
Now go to someplace where there are women. Notice how they
are responding to you initially. Now do this exercise repeatedly,
silently, first inside your body and then expanding it to every
object you see... and notice how women around you seem to
react. As with the earlier exercise, don't have any particular
expectations... just go through the exercise for five or ten or
fifteen minutes, and just notice your experience. Note that as
you get better and better at this, and feel more and more
pleasure, your results will likely become more and more
apparent.

Questions to Answer RIGHT NOW:

What's the most useful thing I learned from this lesson or exercise?

What will I do differently, as a result?