PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Relationships- connections influenced by

emotional understanding and expressions

Emotional intelligence- ability to perceive, Emotional memory- recalling past emotional
understand, manage emotions experiences influencing decisions
Daniel Goleman- popularized emotional Flight, Fight, freeze response- instinctive
intelligence in 1995 reactions to overwhelming stress or danger
Peter Salovey, John mayer- co-developer of Loneliness- feeling of isolation due to poor
emotional intelligence concept emotional connections
MSCEIT (Mayer-Salovey-Caruso emotional Anxiety- state of excessive worry impacting
intelligence test)- test measuring four daily life
emotional intelligence aspect Depression- mood disorder affecting
emotional regulation and well-being
four emotional intelligence aspect:
Perceiving emotions- recognizing emotions Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) so
in oneself and others important?
Understanding emotions- comprehending
emotional knowledge and its implications Performance at work - emotional
Facilitating thought- using emotions to intelligence can help navigate the social
enhance cognitive processes complexities of the workplace, lead and
Managing emotions- controlling one’s own motivate others, and excel in a career.
and others’ emotional states Physical health - if someone is unable to
manage stress levels, it can lead to serious
health problems.
Emotional regulation- ability to manage
emotional responses effectively Mental health - uncontrolled stress can also
impact mental health, making the person
Negative emotions- emotions that can
vulnerable to anxiety and depression.
hinder personal well-being
Relationships - by understanding emotions
Self-regulatory strategies- techniques to
and how to control them, the individual is
cope with negative emotional states
better able to express how she feels and
Emotional awareness- recognizing one’s understand how others are feeling.
emotional states without overwhelm
Emotional expressions- communicating
How to Raise Your Emotional
feelings through verbal and non-verbal means
Intelligence?
Social complexities- navigating
interpersonal dynamics in various settings To improve your emotional intelligence
and your decision-making abilities, you
Stress management- techniques to reduce
need to understand and manage your
and cope with stress
emotions.
Mental health- emotional well-being
affecting psychological stability
Physical health- health impacted by Friendships in Adolescence
emotional and strss management
Friendship- close relationship based on Closeness- bond that develops when two
mutual understanding and support. people share thoughts and feeling they don’t
- Emphasizes emotional support and share with anyone else
companionship without romantic Commitment- the promise or decision to
involvement stand by the other person through the ups
Romantic love- a deeper connection that and downs of the relationship
includes attraction, intimacy, and
commitment. WHAT MAKES A GOOD RELATIONSHIP
- Involves physical attraction and Learning to give and receive- it doesn't
emotional closeness often leading to flourish based on how much one person can
exclusivity get from (or give to) the other
Peer groups- larger social groups that share Revealing feelings- A supportive relationship
common interest or identities allows people to reveal details about
- Can include cliques (five-ten themselves - their likes and dislikes dreams
individuals) and crowds (jocks, nerds, and worries, proud moments,
or brains) disappointments, fears, and weaknesses.
Listening and supporting- When two people
PHASES OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS care, they support each other, they don't
Initiation phase- begins in pre-adolescence; malign or insult their partner, even when they
focuses on attraction and physical disagree.
characteristics; shallow relationships
Affiliation phase- involves mixed-sex Tips on how to get started in dating
groups; emphasizes companionship over
intimacy; allows social interaction Focus on the other person- Ask your date
Intimate phase- focuses on emotional questions about her, find out about her likes
attachment and intimacy; often leads to and dislikes
sexual activity; develops in middle/late Find non-romantic things to do- Dating
adolescence doesn't necessarily have to be about hearts,
Committed phase- establishes exclusive flowers, and candy
relationships; typical in late adolescence; Seek out people who share your interest- it
characterized by caring and conflict is much more interesting and satisfying to
resolution date someone whom you can relate to on a
personal level.
B. Baskin- conducted a study on adolescent Don’t let rejection get you down- learn how
romantic relationships, identifying key phases to take rejection without taking it personally
of relationship development
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
THREE MAIN QUALITIES OF LOVE WHICH IS
CONSIDERED A POWERFUL HUMAN I’m not ok – You’re okay- one does not feel
EMOTION good and the other is good
Attraction- “chemistry” part of love
I’m ok – You’re not ok- one feels good and Predictability in relationships- norms
the other one does not feel the same provide order and predictability in
I’m ok -you’re ok – both parties feel good interactions
about each other Role expectations- specific behaviors
I’m not ok- you’re not ok- lead to anticipated from social roles
unsuccessful activities since both parties are Parent-adolescent disagreement- conflict
‘not good’ arising from differing values and control
issues
Social roles- parts individuals play in groups Friendship formations- process of building
Norms- unwritten rules governing behavior in bonds with peers
groups
Conformity- tendency to fulfill social norms FOUR STATUSES OF IDENTITY
and roles Identity diffusion- adolescents have not
Social influence- impact of social roleson experienced an identity crisis or made any
behavior and decisions commitments
Adolescent development- crucial period Identity foreclosure- adolescent made a
influenced by social relationship commitment but have not experienced yet a
Parental relationship- dynamic between crisis this status often occurs when parents
teens and their parents during adolescence hand down commitment to their children in
an authoritarian way
Peer relationship- importance of friends in
identity formation Identity moratorium- adolescent are in the
midst identity crisis but have not made a
Social norms- accepted standards of
clear commitment to an identity
behavior within social groups
Identity achievement- adolescent suffered
Conflict increase- rise in parent-child
an identity crisis and made a commitment
arguments during puberty
Identity formation- process of developing a
THE LOOKING GLASS SELF
sense of self
The term refers to people shaping
Risky behaviors-actions like substance
their self-perception based on their
abuse linked to poor parental ties
understanding of how others perceive
Approval seeking- desire to comform to gain them.
social acceptance
Social sphere- network of relationships THREE STEPS
impacting adolescent development
First, the assumption of how we appear to
Community influence- role of community in another person, sometimes this
shaping adolescent behavior assumption is correct, but may also be
Cultural expectations- societal norms incorrect since it is merely based on
shaping individual behavior speculations.
Behavioral expectations- norms dictate
how individuals should act Second, the assumption of how people
judge us based on our appearance.
Lastly, we imagine how the person feels Genogram- graphical representation of a
about us, based on the judgments made of person’s family relationship and/or medical
us As a result we often change our behavior history
based on how we feel people perceive us. What Makes a Family Strong and
Successful?
Family Structures and Legacies Learning- families are where values, skills
Families- can be seen as social systems and behavior are learned
which have stablished a set of rules, have Loyalty- strong families have a sense of
ascribed and assigned roles, power structure, loyalty and devotion toward family members
and strategies for solving disputes Love- it is the heart of the family
Laughter- b good family medicine
Types of family structures Leadership- family members usually adults
Nuclear family- considered as ‘traditional must assume responsibility for leading the
family’ family
Single parent- parent who cares for one or
more children without the assistance of the
other biological parent
Step families- marriage or long-term
cohabitation of two individuals, when one or
both ha at least one child from a previous
relationship living part-time or full-time in the
household
Extended family- the extended family
consists of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and
cousins.

Authoritarian- parents who are depending

on force alone to control them rather than
reasoning with themor praising them
Permissive- parents who do not consistently
enforce rules and do not have high
expectations of their children
Authoritative- parents maintain firm control
over their children through reasoning with
their children rather than depending on the
force
Rejecting/neglecting- parents who do not
provide supervision