[Link] do we differentiate in relationships on the basis of body, physical facilities, or beliefs?

What problems do we
face because differentiation?

Respect means accepting individuality and doing right evaluation (to be evaluated as I
am). Our basis for respect today is largely quite contrary to our discussion above. Instead of
respect being a basis of similarity or one of right evaluation, we have made it into something on
the basis of which we differentiate i.e. by respecting you mean you are doing something special,
because you are special or have something special or are in some special position. Thus, all of us
are running around seeking respect from one another by trying to become something special.
Today, we are differentiating in the name of respect. We either differentiate people on the
basis of their body, on the basis of their wealth and possessions or on the basis of their beliefs.
There is no notion of respect in terms of right evaluation. Thus, there is no real feeling of
relationship, only one of differentiation

On the basis of body

• Sex/gender: We ignore the fact that being male or female is an attribute of the body, and not an
attribute at the level of ‘I’. And differentiate in giving respect on the basis of gender called male
and females. In many countries, people even prefer a male child to a female child, and in some
other societies, the other way round.
• Race: If the person is of the same race as oneself, then we treat them differently. For example,
we differentiate on the basis of skin colour – white, brown, black etc. or on the basis of whether
the person is of Aryan race, Mongolian race etc. or on the basis of caste. Again here, we don’t do
the evaluation on the basis of ‘I’, but on the basis of the body
• Age: We have notions such as ‘one must respect elders’. There is no such notion as respect
youngsters. Here, we see that we are again evaluating at the level of the body – age is related to
the body, and not to ‘I’.
• Physical strength: If someone is stronger, we again treat him/her differently. This is again at the
level of the body. In fact, we think that we are respecting the other while it is fear; the fear that if
we do not treat them like this, we will be harmed.
On the basis of physical facilities
• Wealth: We differentiate people because some have wealth than others. What we term as a “rich
person” gets idolized. We don’t even bother to find out whether such people are feeling
prosperous, or if they just have wealth. This way, we are over-evaluating physical facilities first,
which are just meant to fulfil the needs of the body, and then on this basis, we are wrongly
identifying our relationship.
• Post: We try to respect on the basis of a person’s position. The post is wrongly evaluated as the
mark of a person’s excellence and differentiation sets in. The post is considered important either
on the basis that it gives more physical facilities or on the basis that certain positions are
assumed to be important. In our education, we are trained directly or indirectly to earn posts for
us to fetch respect

On the basis of beliefs

• ‘Isms’: ‘Ism’ means any belief in terms of a ‘thought-system’ that we have, or that we have
adopted. There are also many modern ‘isms’ such as capitalism, socialism, communism, etc. The
people following these sets of beliefs are called capitalists, socialists, communists, and so on.
The people that have adopted them or are following them have been exposed to them since
childhood. Believing theirs to be the right belief. However, all beliefs, as we have seen are at the
level of desires, thoughts and expectations (selections) in ‘I’. There is no definiteness at this
level, and hence, this becomes a cause for differentiation.
• Sects: People of one sect only consider those with a similar belief system to be their ‘own’ and
worthy of respect. Following a particular tradition, or what we call as religion, becomes the basis
of respect and disrespect in relationship

2. Discuss about respect on the basis of different types of evaluations.

With the feeling of trust in us, we can explore into the feeling of respect. Let us see, when do we feel respected? How
do I respect others?

The proposal is: Respect is right evaluation.

Respect means right evaluation. It is as simple as that. When we are rightly evaluated, we feel respected. When we
are not rightly evaluated, we feel disrespected.
You might find that this is quite different from what is generally considered respect, isn't it? It is true that we are
engaged in many activities to get attention, to appear to be different or special. To
be in the newsnaner or magazine to win awards. to he in a class note ot records we are climbing
up mountains, diving into the ocean depths, jumping from aeroplanes, wearing all sorts of clothes, getting special
hairdos, growing our hair, shaving or our neads, tattooing our bodies and so on.
The list is almost endless. Even on an everyday basis, we do so many things to be in the good books of parents,
teachers, friends and work colleagues. What is your state when you are involved in such activities -
- are you comfortable within or uncomfortable within? Also, what do you think
all this brings
- some temporary attention or anything more than that? Does it ensure acceptance
for you in the other? Think about it. Respect is simply the right evaluation.
Over Evaluation, Under Evaluation and Otherwise Evaluation Leading to Disrespect
However. when we look at what we are doing todav in the name of resnect. it is mostv:

Over evaluation — evaluating tor more than what It IS

Under evaluation - evaluating for less than what it is
Otherwise evaluation - evaluating for other than what it is
3. Explain the concept of trust with examples.
Trust or vishwas is the foundational value in relationship. “To be assured that each human
being inherently wants oneself and the other to be happy and prosperous” is known as trust.
Having faith in others and believing them. Trust is the expectation of people that they can rely on
our word. It is built through integrity and consistency in relationships. To keep the trust on
ourself and others, we have to pay attention on the intensions and to understand if we or the other
person is not able to do benefit, it is because we are lacking competence. Trust is the result of
right understanding of the intention of all the human beings around us. This trust helps to
improve our competence in others and in ourselves.

There are two aspects in trust:

1. Intention (wanting to – our natural acceptance)
2. Competence (being able to do)

Both intention and competence are the aspects of trust. Intention is what one aspires for
(our natural acceptance) and competence is the ability to fulfil the aspiration. In intention every
human being wants to do what is right, only the competence may be lacking which needs to be
developed through proper understanding and practice. But what we are doing today is that when
we are judging ourself we are judging on the basis of our intention, whereas, when we are
judging the other we are judging him on the basis of his competence.

We trust our own intention while we are not ready to trust the others intention. It is the
same for other as well. We find that while we look at our intention, we are sure of it, we are not
sure of the other’s intention. We are actually seeing their competence, and making a conclusion
on their intention. Hence, mistrust is born and we deny the relationship. We seldom look at our
competence and other’s intention.

It is very important to differentiate between intention and competence. If we have trust on

intention, we have a feeling of being related to the other and we start helping the other to
improve his competence, if he does not have enough.

4. List out the nine feelings of relationship. Explain them briefly.

There are certain basic and important feelings(values) in maintaining relationship. These values, we
all know, are the backbone of health and happy family relations. The feelings, emotions,
sentiments and respect all are of real importance. These values lead to elimination of friction and
establishment of total harmony in relationship on long term basis. Values that are important in
any relationship are
1. Trust: Trust or vishwas is the foundational value in relationship. “To be assured that each
human being inherently wants oneself and the other to be happy and prosperous.” If we
have trust in the other, we are able to see the other as a relative and not as an adversary.

2. Respect: Respect means individuality. The sense of individuality is prime object. This is the
first basic step towards respect (sammana). Once we realized that we are individual then only we
can see ourself different from others. In other words, respect means right evaluation, to be
evaluated as I am.
3. Affection: Affection is the feeling of being related to the other. Affection comes when I
recognize that we both want to make each other happy and both of us are similar.

4. Care: The feeling of care is the feeling to nurture and protect the body of our relative. Or
in other words a state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern is called care.

5. Guidance: The feeling of ensuring right understanding and feelings in the other (my
relative) is called guidance. We understand the need of self (‘I’) for right understanding and
feelings. We also understand that the other is similar to me in his/her faculty of natural
acceptance, desire of wanting continuous happiness and the program of living in harmony at all
the four levels.

6. Reverence: The feeling of acceptance of excellence in the other is called reverence. When
we see that the other has achieved this excellence- which means to understand and to live in
harmony at all the levels of living ensuring continuity of happiness, we have a feeling of
reverence for him/her.

7. Glory: Each one of us wants to live with continuous happiness and prosperity. Each one of us
has the similar faculty of natural acceptance, has the same goal and program and we have the
same potential to realize this. Glory is the feeling for someone who has made efforts for
excellence.

8. Gratitude: Gratitude is the feeling of acceptance for those who have made efforts for my
excellence. Gratitude is an emotion that occurs after people receive help, depending on how they
interpret the situation.

9. Love: Love is the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In other words,
love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or
friend. This feeling or value is also called the complete value since this is the feeling of
relatedness to all human beings. It starts with identifying that one is related to the other human
being (the feeling of affection) and it slowly expands to the feeling of being related to all human
beings.

The above mentioned values are the core of all relations. One has to follow all to gain on
the day to day problems. These values are intrinsic and available in every person. We need to
find out in ourselves and implement. Without implementation, one cannot think of a strong
family relation.
5. Explain about human goals and gross misunderstandings.
In fig. 9-2, the comprehensive human goal is mentioned on the top. Are
we working for all four of these goals, some of them or none of them? The
predominant prevailing notions of societal objectives are mentioned in the
bottom half of fig. 9-2. Are we also having such notions and making effort
for them? Let us try to find out what is the effort in the society today

The first goal is to ensure right understanding and right feeling (happiness)
in every human being. As we discussed in chapter 4, the prevailing notion of
happiness is quite different, therefore, the major effort is for accumulation
of physical facility (money) by any means and getting feeling from others.
These false assumptions are being propagated, knowingly or unknowingly,
even through education, through the parents, schools, teachers, media,
friends, and the overall society.

The second goal of prosperity, is similarly replaced by accumulating more

and more, as we are not able to identify our need for physical facility,
due to lack of right understanding. It is felt that if one has money, one
is prosperous. However, without having an idea of our needs, we keep on
accumulating more and more (unlimited!), and by any means. It is said that
most of the money supply is in the hands of a very few people.
With these as the driving assumptions in the society, it has led to people
living with three kinds of obsessions:
1. Obsession for consumption
2. Obsession for profit
3. Obsession for sensual pleasure
6. What are human order systems? Elaborate.

the knowledge order.

Innateness (dharana)
Human Order: When we look at the human being, we find that ‘existence’ and ‘growth’ are
fundamentally present in the body, just as in the animal body. At the level of ‘I’ however, in addition to
the ‘will to live’, a human being’s innateness is the ‘will to live with happiness’.

Natural Characteristics (Svabhava)

Human Order: Similar as to the case in animals, the human body also belongs to the plant/ bio order and
hence has the same svabhava or value/natural characteristic as the pranic order. It either nurtures or
worsens other pranic units. As in the example above, when I digest the vegetable, I absorb the plant and
it worsens, while my body is nurtured. The svabhava/ value of the self (‘I’) in human beings is
perseverance (dhirata), bravery (virata) and generosity (udarata).

1. Perseverance (dhirata): Being assured that the all encompassing solution is to understand and live in
harmony at all levels of existence.

2. Bravery (virata): I am ready to help the other to have the right understanding.

3. Generosity (udarata): I am ready to invest myself, my body and wealth to help the other have the right
understanding.

Basic Activity:
Human Order: human displays the same basic activity as that of animal body i.e. Recognising, fulfilment,
but in self (I) human have one more activity i.e. knowing,
Conformance (Anu-Sangita)

Human (knowledge) order: We humans are not according to our lineage or race, as in animals. We
humans are according to our imagination; according to our desires, thoughts and selection in ‘I’. The
desires, thoughts and selections we have in ‘I’ can come from past memories, our parents, the
environment, and the media, anywhere. In the case of humans, we can say ‘as the education, so the
human’. Together, we call these ‘sanskara’. Hence, we say that a human being conforms to his or her
sanskar or has ‘sanskaar conformance’
7. With a neat flow chart interpret process of development in an environment of relationship.
8. Why is storage required in a society? Suggest any two ways in which you can store the produce for right utilization
in the future.

### Importance of Storage in Society:

Storage is crucial for ensuring a stable supply of resources, especially food, which is vital for managing
times of scarcity and for ensuring efficient distribution. Societies need proper storage methods to avoid
wastage and to have resources available when they are needed, particularly during off-seasons or when
supply is limited.

### Two Ways to Store Produce for Future Use:

1. **Canning and Preservation**:
- This method includes techniques such as canning, drying, and pickling. These processes help preserve
produce by extending their shelf life. For example:
- **Canning**: Involves sealing food in airtight containers to prevent spoilage.
- **Drying**: Removes moisture from food to prevent microbial growth.
- **Pickling**: Uses an acidic solution, like vinegar, to preserve food.
- These methods ensure that produce remains available for consumption even in off-seasons, providing
a sustainable solution for food availability.

2. **Cold Storage (Refrigeration)**:

- Cold storage involves keeping produce at low temperatures, such as in refrigerators or specialized cold
storage facilities. By lowering the temperature, the rate of spoilage is reduced, extending the freshness
of the produce. This method is particularly useful for perishables like fruits, vegetables, and dairy
products, which degrade quickly at room temperature.
- Cold storage helps ensure that produce can be stored for longer periods, allowing for more efficient
distribution and reducing waste by slowing down decay.

### Benefits of These Methods:

- **Waste Reduction**: Both methods help in minimizing the loss of food due to spoilage, which is a
common issue in the absence of proper storage.
- **Managing Supply-Demand Imbalances**: By preserving produce, societies can maintain a stable
supply and meet demand, even when fresh produce is not readily available.
- **Sustainable Resource Utilization**: Efficient storage systems support sustainability by enabling better
management of resources, reducing the need for continuous production.

In summary, both canning and cold storage are essential techniques for ensuring that food is preserved
and available for use during times when fresh produce may be scarce, supporting food security in a
society.
9. Explain the Vision for the Universal Human Order

The sarvabhaum vyawastha (Universal Human Order) is the state of realizing the freedom of individual in context of
this universe. The respect towards mankind and nature is must to establish the universal order. Having understood
the comprehensive human goal, we are able to be in harmony not only with human beings, but also with the rest of
nature. We are able to see that we are related to every unit in the nature and ensure mutual fulfilment in that
relationship.
Working on the five dimensions of human endeavour in the light of right understanding, we are able to work for an
orderly living of the human society, whose foundational unit is the family and the final destination is the world family.
Universal Human Order (Sarvabhauma Vyavastha) - feeling of being related to every unit including human beings
and other entities of nature.
Undivided society (Akhanda samaja) - feeling of being related to every human being.
An undivided human centric society is one of the higher human goals. Akhand samaj is the state of the society where
all people of different religion and thought process live together and work towards betterment of the society.

Three activities can be performed to send the message of a holistic society:

1. Educating society through workshops, seminars and street plays: this is about organizing workshops,
seminars and street plays at various levels in society. The activity may be carried out by N.G.O.'s but must
receive the support of government organizations. These activities can be categorized into three types which
include
Knowing the self,
o Knowing the existence on basis of self,
o Knowing the definite human conduct which is contribution of self in existence.

2. Value education in educational institutions: value education should be introduced in current education
system at all levels - primary school, secondary school, senior secondary school as well as college level.

3. Helping to apply values to the real world: organizations - both government and non-government should open
up counselling centres which can help their employees or general public to apply values to real life
situations. It is about realizing the alternatives in life. Various individuals are on the way of self-exploration,
finding their natural acceptance towards holistic approach of life and realizing it at all levels starting from self
(with knowledge) to family (with meaningful relationships), then to society (education - health - production -
business - services). The idea is not to live in isolation or individualism but with expansion of SELF to higher
levels in the social system.

10. Discuss the feeling of love in current scenario.

Love is the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In other words, love is a feeling of warm personal
attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

This feeling or value is also called the complete value since this is the feeling of relatedness to all human beings. It
starts with identifying that one is related to the other human being (the feeling of affection) and it slowly expands to
the feeling of being related to all human beings. The feeling of love leads to an undivided society, it starts from a
family and slowly expands to the world family in the form of love.

The feeling of being related to every human being leads to our participation in an undivided society (Akhanda
Samaja). With the understanding of values in human relationships, we are able to recognize the connectedness with
every individual correctly, and fulfil it. When we understand the value in relationship with other units in nature too, we
are able to recognize our connectedness with them to, and fulfil it. This enables us to participate in the universal
human order (sarvabhaum vyavastha).