St.
Mary’s College of Baliuag
Baliuag, Bulacan
SY 2021-2022
ISO 9001:2015 Certified
Certificate No. 01 100 1534708 PAASCU Level III Accredited
Subject: Health Grade Level: 8 Quarter: 1st
Module Number #: 2 Topic: Dating, Courtship, Engagement, and Marriage
I. INTRODUCTION:
Have you imagined yourself going through a process of dating, courtship, and
marriage? Do you know how your parents met and formed your family? Were you able to
ask them their love story?
We all know that family is an essential part of our everyday life. They are the
significant factors of who we are and what we become. We first learned our values in life,
such as humility, justice, honesty, etc.
In this module, you will learn the stages of dating, courtship down to marriage to form
a family. This module is designed for you to identify the
importance of planning marriage in having a successful family
life in the future.
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II. THIS MODULE WAS MADE FOR YOU TO:
• Explains the definition and importance of courtship and dating in choosing a lifelong partner.
• Analyzes behaviors that promote healthy relationship in marriage and family life.
• Describes the factors that contribute to a successful marriage
• Discusses various maternal health concerns (pre-during-post pregnancy).
• Explains the importance of maternal nutrition during pregnancy.
II. DISCUSSION:
A. Presentation of the Lesson:
Attraction is admiration for someone that may include the desire to get to know that
person better. Attraction usually takes place in the form of infatuation or crush. Infatuation
is admiration for someone while not recognizing that person’s flaws. Crushes typically last
for only a short time, few weeks or maybe a few months. These feelings are completely
normal and are part of becoming a young adult.
Most people begin to form romantic relationships based on love. Love is a deep
affection for someone and is based on a true desire for the other person’s best interests. In
a healthy relationship, the other person shares and responds with the same kind of love.
Learning to develop, nurture and even deal with these relationships’ loss are important ways
to prepare for adult relationships.
Courtship
What Is Courtship?
Courtship is the period in a couple's
relationship which precedes their
engagement and marriage. During
courtship, a couple gets to know each
other and decide if there will be an
engagement or such agreement. A
courtship may be an informal and private
matter between two people or a public
affair or a formal arrangement with family
approval.
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Here are different traditional practices of courtship in the Philippines
Ilocos and Tagalog regions
In Ilocos, serenading as tapat means "to be in front of woman's house" likely the
same to harana and the balagtasan of Tagalogs. Where the suitor begins singing a
romantic song, then the courted lady responds by singing too. While in Luzon, rooster
courtship, a form of courting in Luzon, is done differently. The rooster is assigned to be the
"negotiator", wherein, the male chicken is left to stay in the home of the courted lady to crow
every morning for the admired lady's family.
Bulacan
In the province of Bulacan in Central Luzon, the Bulaqueños have a kind of courtship
known as the naninilong, which means serenading from the basement. At midnight, the
suitor goes beneath the nipa hut. Bamboo poles elevate this house, then prickles the
admired woman by using a pointed object to catch the sleeping lady’s attention, after they
converse in whispers.
Kalinga
The Ifugaos practice a courtship called ca-i-sing or ebgan to Kalingas and pangisto
to Tingguians, wherein, a man and a woman are separated into "houses". The house for
males is called Ato, while the place for females is known as the olog or agamang. The
man visits the woman’s house to sing romantic songs, and the woman replies to these songs
also through singing. The courtship ritual is guarded by the elders who inform both parties’
parents about the progress of the courtship process.
Batangas
In Batangas, a traditional eve of the wedding procession is done. The purpose is to
bring the cooking ingredients for the celebration to the bride’s home, where refreshments
await.
Pangasinan
In Pangasinan, folks utilize the taga-amo, which means "tamer", a form of love
potions or charms which can rub to the skin of the admired. It can also be in the form of
drinkable potions. The suitor may even resort to the use of palabas, meaning show or
drama, wherein the woman succumbs to revealing her love to her suitor, who, on the other
hand, pretends to commit suicide if the lady does not confess her true feelings.
Apayao
The Apayos has a practice that allows a man and a woman to sleep together during
the night. This is known as mahal-alay. This form of courting assists in assessing the
woman’s feelings for her lover.
Palawan
In Palawan, they perform courtship using love riddles or pasaguli. The purpose of
the love riddles is to assess the parents’ sentiments of both suitors and admirers. After this,
pabalic / pabalik settle the price in the form of dowry received by the women from the
courting man.
Visayas
When courting, Cebuanos also resort to serenading, called balak. They also write
love letters that are sent through a trusted friend or relative of the woman. Presents are
given to the woman, and even to her relatives. They also use love potions to win the affection
of the woman. The man from Leyte performs the pangagad or paninilbihan instead of
paying a form of dowry during courtship. The suitor accomplishes household and farm
chores for the family of the woman. The service usually lasts for approximately a year before
the man and woman can get married. It is referred to as subok - a trial or test period for the
serving suitor. In Bicol, it is called pamianan.
Mindanao
Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or magpasumbahi, is practiced by the Tausugs of
Mindanao. A suitor would threaten to stab his heart while in front of the courted woman’s
father. If the father of a woman refuses to give her daughter’s hand to the suitor, the suitor
is smitten by a knife. The Bagobos, on the other hand, sends a knife or spear as a gift to the
home of the courted woman for inspection. Accepting the weapon is equivalent to accepting
the man’s romantic intention and advances.
Pre-arranged marriages and betrothals are common to Muslims. Parents of men and
women arrange this formal engagement. This also involves discussions regarding the price
and form of dowry. The Tausog people proclaim that a wedding, a celebration, or
announcement known as the pangalay, will occur by playing percussive musical
instruments such as the gabbang, the kulintang, and the agong. Imam and readings from
the Quran officiate the wedding is part of the ceremony, as well as the placement of the
groom's fingerprint over the bride's forehead.
Why is it important for couples to undergo a courtship?
It gives one a chance and time to get to know better the character and background
of one’s future lifetime partner. Here are some reasons why it is important couples
need to undergo a courtship.
1. It develops security.
2. It develops understanding and acceptance.
3. Courting gives time to understand one another.
4. It will enable couples to know if they are ready to be committed.
5. It allows couples to decide whether they want to be committed.
6. It reveals one’s interests, likes, and dislikes limitations, and other aspirations in
life.
Dating
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What is dating?
• Is a social activity which involves two or more people generally assessing
each other’s suitability for a potential relationship. Dating can also be
enjoyed as part of an already active relationship. The word dating comes
from the arranging of time and date of the meeting.
• Is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people, as a
partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.
• It refers to the act of meeting and to engage in some mutually social activity,
as a couple
Types of Dating:
a. Standard date–involves two people
b. Double date–two couples go on a date at the same time and place
c. Group date – where any number of couples can enjoy a date
Importance of Dating
✓ It forms affection and respect.
✓ It strengthens the relationship.
✓ It gives quality time to each other.
✓ It leads one to observe the other person’s character.
✓ Provides an opportunity for one to know his/her strengths and weaknesses in
dealing with the opposite sex.
✓ Dating in a relationship is important because it allows you to get to
know the person you are in a relationship with while having a good time. Dating
helps to reveal any potential problems you may have if pursuing a more
serious relationship with a person, and it sets the foundation for marriage.
Marriage
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What is marriage?
Marriage is the most enjoyable human relationship. It is the most significant event
that may happen to your life as a man and woman. It takes only two people, a man, and a
woman to unite and make a successful relationship as a married couple.
Marriage is a lifelong partnership of a man and a woman who understand, respect, care,
and love each other. It is a bond between man and woman under the sacrament of marriage.
Marriage is not a mere contract but an inviolable social institution. Its nature, consequences
and practices are governed by law and not subject to stipulation except that the marriage
settlements may to a certain extent fix the property relations during the marriage. (Civil Code
of the Philippines)
Marriage is a cherished institution under which man and woman believe in one faith, and
children are conceived, raised, and nourished to become useful and productive citizens of
the country and the world. It is essential to the continuity of humanity.
Filipinos view marriage as a sacrament and a lifelong commitment. Husband and wife work
together for the successful and harmonious relationship at home and among family
members. Trust, respect, kindness, and love are essential factors to attain this goal.
Factors Necessary to Consider in Choosing a Lifetime Partner to Work
Out for Successful Married Life:
1. Maturity
a. Can make good decisions
b. Responsible in handling relationships
2. Fidelity
a. Can make the relationship lasting
b. Sincere and true to his / her promises
c. Considers relationships sacred
3. Commitment
a. Can make peaceful and lasting relationship
b. Dedicated in fulfilling his / her responsibilities
4. Love
a. Strengthens relationship
b. Understands one is partner
c. Enduring
5. Economic Readiness
a. Aims for better future of the family
b. Financially stable
c. Good provider for the needs of the family
6. Physical Maturity
a. Proud of having good partner
b. Have healthy body
7. Character
a. Responsible and honest
b. Hard-working and industrious
c. Respectful and compassionate
d. God-fearing
Did You Know! (FYI! )
EXECUTIVE ORDER NO. 209
THE FAMILY CODE OF THE PHILIPPINES July 6, 1987
Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman
entered in accordance with law for the establishment of conjugal and family life. It is the
foundation of the family and an inviolable social institution. The Family Code of the
Philippines sets eighteen (18) as the age of majority of the Filipinos. However, for marriages
between the ages of 18-21, the written consent of the parent is required. Without the written
consent, the marriage is voidable.
A person who is between the ages 21-25 is obliged to ask their parents or guardian
for advice and must make a sworn statement that advice was sought and given. If there is
no parental advice or if the advice is unfavorable, the marriage license is issued only after
three months after the publication of the application for the license.
The marriage of persons who are below 18 years of age is void (not lawful, not legal)
and therefore, no true marriage took place.
A. Verse it out.
Choose one verse and give yourself time to reflect and explain your answer in
three to five sentences.
a. Mark10:6-9-"But at the beginning of creation, God made them male and
female. For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united
to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So, they are no longer two, but
one. Therefore, what God has joined, let man not separate."
b. 1 Corinthians 7:3 - “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,
and likewise the wife to her husband.”
c. Qur’an [24:32] - “You shall encourage those of you who are single to get
married. They may marry the righteous among your male and female
servants if they are poor. GOD will enrich them from His grace. GOD is
Bounteous, Knower.”
d. Qur'an [30: 12] - “He has planted affection and mercy between you”.
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✓ Choosing a lifetime partner involves some processes: courtship, dating, and
engagement are practiced and exercised. Dating leads to the development of
intimacy between couples or within a group. Dating steadily, dating in groups are all
healthful ways of developing a healthy relationship. A couple or groups can date,
going together to different places, such as the movies, parties, dances, fiestas, and
other celebrations.
✓ Dating gives you quality time to talk to people. Best of all, couple or group dating is
fun.
✓ There are different traditional courtships in the Philippines like, practices of singing
romantic love songs, reciting poems, writing letters, and gift-giving.
✓ The union of man and woman is given dignity by the sacrament of matrimony.
✓ Marriage is a promise, a covenant to keep the partnership for life not only for the sake
of staying together but more for the growth and good of each other and for
responsible rearing of children.
✓ Married couple should protect the sanctity of their marriage and must be faithful to
their vows. They should be strongly united and focused not only to each other but
also practice responsible parenthood.
[Link]:
Torres, I., (2019). Filipino Dating: Evolution of Courtship in the Philippines.
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Chan Robles. (2020). Philippine Laws, Statutes and Codes. Retrieved from
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Prepared by: Checked by:
Mr. Cristopher Nociete Ms. Edilyn Bucar
MAPEH Teacher IBEd MAPEH Area Coordinator
Reviewed by: Approved by:
Ms. Jennifer SAntos Mr. Perfecto Austria
IBEd Academic Coordinator IBEd Principal