Damian Gordon
Hearing Smell
Taste Seeing
Touch
6 Ways of Using Non-verbal
Communication Skills
Effectively
1. Eye contact
2. Facial expressions
3. Gestures
4. Posture and body
orientation
5. Proximity
6. Paralinguistic
The eyes are most expressive and direct part of our body.
Different types of eye contact:
Action Result
Direct eye contact Confidence
Looking downwards Listening carefully, guilt/shame
Single eyebrow raised Doubt, scepticism
Both eyebrows raised Admiring, encouragement
Bent eyebrows Sudden focus, intesity
Tears Emotional - joy or pain
…and many more
Smile constitutes the largest part of facial expression
Smiling is a powerful cue that transmits:
◦ Happiness
◦ Friendliness
◦ Warmth
◦ Liking
◦ Affiliation
Head nods, a form of gestures, communicate
positive reinforcement to students and indicate that
you are listening.
A lively and animated communication style captures
peoples' attention, makes the material more
interesting, facilitates understanding and provides a
bit of entertainment.
If you fail to gesture while speaking, you may be
perceived as boring, stiff and unanimated.
You communicate numerous messages by the way you walk,
talk, stand and sit.
Standing erect, but not rigid, and leaning slightly forward
communicates to your audience that you are approachable,
receptive and friendly.
Speaking with your back turned or looking at the floor or
ceiling should be avoided; it communicates disinterest to
your audience
Cultural norms dictate a comfortable
distance for interaction with audience
You should look for signals of discomfort
caused by invading your audience„s space
Some of these are:
◦ rocking
◦ leg swinging
◦ tapping
◦ gaze aversion
◦ sitting back
◦ clasping hands behind head
Vocal elements, such as:
◦ Tone
◦ Pitch
◦ Rhythm
◦ Timbre
◦ Loudness
◦ Inflection
...is a dynamic process
...expresses our thoughts and feelings
HOW you say things is as important as WHAT
you say
How it is received depends on the receivers
state of mind
Greek philosopher-teacher
Aristotle (384-322 B.C.).
Aristotle‟s definition of
rhetoric is one of the earliest
definitions of communication
“Rhetoric” is “the faculty of
observing in any given case
the available means of
persuasion” (Rhetoric 1335b).
Aristotle attempted to work
out a theory of communication
and language.
Logos
◦ the matter under discussion
Pathos
◦ the reader's stake in that
matter
Ethos
◦ the claims of the author
Wilburn Schramm proposed this model in 1955
Considered to be the best of all the theories since it is evolved and comprehensive
For public speaking
◦ A good structure for public speaking:
◦ BEGINING
◦ MIDDLE
◦ END
BEGINING
◦ Start with a sentence telling your
audience what the main point of
your talk is. “Today I going to be
speaking about ...”
BEGINING
Good morning, ladies OK, let‟s get started
and gentlemen As you know, I‟m…
For those of you who What I‟d like to do
don‟t know me already,
my name‟s… today is talk to you
This morning I‟d like to about / show you…
discuss / report on / Feel free to ask any
present….. questions you like as
If you have any we go along
questions, I‟ll happily And don‟t worry,
answer them as we go there‟ll be plenty of
Perhaps we can leave time left over for
any questions you have questions at the end
until the end
MIDDLE
◦ Speak slowly
◦ If you speak fast it seems like
what you have to say isn‟t
important.
MIDDLE
◦ Speak definitely
◦ Speak in a way that shows you
believe in what you say, and you
feel passionate about it.
MIDDLE
◦ Speak concisely
◦ Try to avoid waffling, or
repeating the same phrases over
and over again. Get to the point.
MIDDLE
◦ Use silence
◦ Don‟t be afraid just to be quiet
for a few seconds if you can‟t
think of anything to say, it helps
focus people.
END
◦ Let the audience know you are
finishing, “Well, I have covered
my main points and I just want
to conclude by …”
◦ Smile.
◦ Pause.
◦ Thank the audience for their
attention and invite questions.
Damian Gordon
Tell the person to;
Draw an upside isosceles triangle
Tell the person to;
Draw a line bisecting the angle on the
bottom, this line reaches one third of the way
up to the centre of the triangle
Tell the person to;
Sitting on the top of the line add a circle half
the width of the triangle at this point.
Tell the person to;
In the circle add three black circles in an
inverted triangle shape (each circle about 1/5
of the size of the main circle).
Tell the person to;
Add two squares approximately the same size
as the circle in the middle, each overlaid on
the top two corners of the triangle
Tell the person to;
Add two semi-circles (or arches) to the top of
the centre circle, each above the black points
inside the circle
Tell the person to;
Now cover with white fur
Divide into groups of 4
2 will act as watchers
2 will act as artists (who can‟t ask questions)
Divide into groups of 4
2 will act as watchers
2 will act as artists (who can‟t ask questions)
How to write an e-mail
Writing e-mails is a skill
It takes practice
With email, you can't assume anything about
a sender's location, time, frame of mind,
profession, interests, or future value to you.
This means, among other things, that you
need to be very, very careful about giving
your receivers some context.
Subject Lines
Need help with timetable
Re: Need help with timetable
Fwd: Need help with timetable
URGENT: Need help with timetable
REQ: Need help with timetable
FYI: Need help with timetable
Mr./Ms. [Full name],
[Body of e-mail].
Regards,
Your name
Student Number
DT211/1
Quoting an e-mail
> I am e-mailing you to request if you
> you have finished it
yes
Change pronouns
> I am e-mailing you to request if you
> you have finished [the assignment]
yes
Short Paragraphs
◦ Frequently email messages will be read in a
document window with scrollbars. While scrollbars
are nice, it makes it harder to visually track long
paragraphs. Consider breaking up your paragraphs
to only a few sentences apiece.
Line Length
◦ Some mail clients do not automatically wrap (adjust
what words go on what line). This means that if
there is a mismatch between your client's and your
correspondent's in how they wrap lines, your
correspondent may end up with a message that
looks messy.
Line Length
◦ You should try to keep your lines under sixty
characters long. This is to leave a little room for the
indentation or quote marks your correspondents
may want if they need to quote pieces of your
message in their replies.
Smileys
◦ A facial gestures can be represented with what is
called a "smiley": a textual drawing of a facial
expression. The most common are;
:-)
;-)
:-(
Language
◦ The biggest status cue is your competence with the
language.
Language
◦ If you have lots of misspellings, your subjects do
not agree with your verbs, or you use the wrong
word, people may assume that you are uneducated.
From that, they may infer that you are not very
clever. It doesn't matter that the correlation
between language ability and intelligence is weak
(especially among non-native speakers); lots of
people will make that inference anyway.
Language
◦ Furthermore, some people are literally insulted by
getting email with errors, especially typographical
errors. They feel that it is disrespectful to send
email with blatant errors. (Note that you can use
this to your advantage. If you want to flaunt your
superior status, you can insert some typos
deliberately.)
Acronyms
◦ BTW - By The Way
◦ FYI - For Your Information
◦ IMHO - In My Humble/Honest Opinion
◦ RTFM - Read The Manual ("Manual" here refers to any
documentation)
◦ LOL - [I] Laughed Out Loud [at what you wrote]
◦ RSN - Real Soon Now
◦ ROTFL - [I am] Rolling On The Floor Laughing [at what you wrote]
These are less common, but show up occasionally:
◦ TTFN - Ta-Ta For Now
◦ TIA - Thanks In Advance (also sometimes written advTHANKSance)
You have over 630 muscles in your body.
It takes the interaction of 72 different muscles to
produce human speech.
The strongest muscle in your body is your
tongue.
◦ use it effectively
Eye muscles are the busiest muscles in the body.
◦ Scientists estimate they move more than 100,000
times a day.
You have over 30 muscles in your face to help
you smile or frown.
◦ 17 muscles to smile
◦ 43 muscles frown
◦ So... smile everytime you see someone – it‟s easier!