SECRET

Seduction TRIGGERS
The BLUEPRINT

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 Modules

1. Sexual Ignition
2. The 3 Roadblocks To Sex
3. Secrets of Sexual Tension
4. No Big Moves (Micro-Escalation)
5. Seductive Listening
6. Secret Seduction Triggers

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 Modules

7. Decoding Her Signals

8. Making Your Move
9. Rejection Destroyers
10. Get Her Home
11. Closing The Deal
12. Bonus: Mindsets of the Sexual Man

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sexual ignition
module 1

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 what women want
• Girls say they want a NICE GUY with a sense of
humor, who’s romantic (that’s only half true)
• You will never hear the FULL TRUTH which is
women also want a guy that turns her on
sexually
• He’s a “nice guy” is girl-code for he has no
sexual presence (you could sleep in the same
bed with him and feel safe that nothing would
ever happen)

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 change her mood
• We’ve all heard a girl we like say “I just don’t
THINK of you in that way” Or worse, “sorry, I
just don’t FEEL the same way”
• She really means she doesn’t FEEL any sexual
chemistry when we’re around or THINK of us as
a sexual option
• You’re not going to change her mind with LOGIC
(she has to think “liking you” was her idea)
• First change her Mood and then her Mind (and
more importantly her body) will follow
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 the “vibe” is up to you
• It’s your job to lead the interaction and escalate
the vibe form “social and friendly” to
“seductive and sexual”
• A woman is never going to create that
seductive vibe for you (it’s the man’s job)
• Depending on how YOU treat her, women will
either act innocent or sexual around you.
Women analyze your vibe (friendly or sexual)
to determine how she should act.
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 sex means nothing.
sex means everything.

• Girls will sleep sleep with a “total nobody” but

not with a FRIEND
• SEX means nothing, it can happen for stupidest
of reasons
• But SEX means everything, because having sex is
necessary in order to start a relationship
• Having common interests and friendship means
everything, but without having that “sexual
chemistry” she will never become your girlfriend
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 review:
Action plan
• If you’re having trouble getting women into bed
your problem isn’t social skills. It’s that you’re
not sexual enough (you’re too polite)
• Common dating advice is okay, but you’re really
just masking your real problem by acting cocky
or pretending to be disinterested in her
• You’re never going to truly get better with
women until you address you main problem
which is being more sexual and feeling
comfortable with sexual tension
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the 3 Roadblocks
to Sex
module 2

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 the 2 needs
• The reason you don’t project that sexual vibe
around women is because you don’t really want to
get laid
• As men we have 2 goals when it comes to women
• Need 1 (Sex) big breasts, a nice ass, a hot body
• Need 2 (Affection) a cute smile, snuggle, girlfriend
• And these 2 Needs are constantly battling each
other to be first in our minds. This messes us up
when it comes to getting the girls we really like

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roadblock #1: validation
• When you check out an attractive woman from a
distance you are horny. You tell your friend, “I’d
bang her so hard bro”
• But when you go over and talk to her all of a
sudden you start talking about puppy dogs and
rainbows, stand too far away, maintain poor eye
contact, and have no sexual vibe
• When face to face with her you just want her to
like you. You are looking for her validation and
approval (not getting her into bed)
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 pickup: bars and club
• Bars and Clubs are “social” environments –
you’re not used to feeling “aroused” there.
You’re too worried about being judged by others
so you subconsciously seek validation over sex
• Every guy thinks alcohol will loosen them up,
but it’s actually “arousal” that is your best
weapon for turning girls on
• We only want to have sex with beautiful women
but as human beings we want everyone to LIKE
us
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 porn mode
• The only time we seem to fully relax and become
aroused is when we’re alone watching porn. You
want to bring a bit of that “sexual energy” when
you talk to a woman you’re attracted to
• The more RELAXED you are, the more aroused
you will be. And the more STRESSED you
become, the less sexual you feel
• What happens at the bars is really just a micro-
version of your REAL problem, which is NOT
feeling and acting sexual around the girls you like
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 roadblock #2: affection
• At first I only thought about sleeping with her, but as I
got to know her better I started to enjoy her friendship.
I wanted her female affection more than sex
• Sex was something I thought we’d eventually get
around to, but we never did. The initial sexual
chemistry faded away so we never became a couple
• You Have It Backwards: you’re trying to enjoy all of
that girlfriend type stuff (long talks, going to lunch)
before you’ve had sex with her
• Remember, there will be plenty of time to enjoy the
affection and friendship after you’ve hooked up
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 men: lack of affection
• As guys we don’t get a lot of affection in our
lives
• We obviously aren’t very affectionate with our
guy friends whereas women talk about
everything, hug and sleep in the same bed
• We’re also raised to act tough and not talk
about our feelings so when some female
affection does come our way, we become needy
and focus on that above everything else (even
our sexual needs)
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 roadblock #3:
low motivation
• You won’t die if you don’t get laid, you can just
get your sexual needs met with porn. But you
can die without love and affection, so you need
to learn how to be a more sexual guy
• You don’t even have to get laid. You can still
enjoy her female affection and friendship. There
are times when the “friend zone” is fun
• However the “good times” won’t last long. Her
affection will eventually leave and go to the guy
she’s dating (sleeping with)
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 review:
action plan
• The next time you’re interacting with a woman you
like, pay close attention to your focus. Are you more
concerned with making her like you (validation) or
are you content just getting some female affection
• Whenever you start to stray from your main goal
(sleeping with her) get back in touch with your
sexual drive. Remember, validation and affection
only comes after she’s your girlfriend
• Remember Our Motto: Sex tonight equals validation
and affection tomorrow

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 secrets of
Sexual tension
module 3

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 Sexual Tension
• There is nothing special you need to say or do to
“attract” women
• Just by being a man (and her a woman) there’s
already some tension there and by definition
that tension is sexual (a natural chemistry)
• “Trying” too hard or “talking” too much ends
up ruining that primal connection that nature
has used to get us to mate for thousands of years

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 don’t break
the sexual tension
• When you break sexual tension it communicates to women
that you’re not comfortable with sex (a HUGE turn off)
• quickly breaking away eye contact
• you look uncomfortable when there’s a silence
• you talk too much, you talk too fast
• nervous laughter and fidgeting around
• If you’re comfortable basking in the sexual tension (and
can hold it with her) she will assume you’re experienced
with women and good in bed

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 connection is
everything
• To women having a “connection” (fate, energy,
vibe) is way more important than looks
• Yes, we want to create sexual tension, but when
done right women interpret this feeling as you
guys have a “connection” and were destined to
meet
• Women fantasize about meting a guy and
having that instant connection (it’s an emotional
reaction, not a logical decision)
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 avoid the player label
• Yes, being cocky is attractive to some women,
but it’s not romantic
• If you’re a sexual guy and you also use slick
verbal game most women will think you’re just
a player. She won’t feel like you’re serious about
dating her and she’ll reject you
• Your sub-communication should be “sexual”
but what you say to her should be “genuine and
humble”
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 the truth about
romance
• Women want the connection to be “sexual” but
on the surface they want the manifestation of
that connection to look “romantic”
• Romance is having “sexual feelings” that are
displayed as courtship. Bringing flowers,
opening doors, being a gentleman, compliments
• She wants you to be sexually attracted to her,
but she also wants to be appreciated for the
great person she is
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 why the nice guy
sleeps alone
• The NICE GUY doesn’t fail because he listens or
does her favors or compliments her
• The nice guy fails because he isn’t sexual around
her (you can still be nice and be seductive)
• The perfect middle ground is a guy who is sweet
but can also bring out sexual feelings in her
• Nice guys with a “sexual edge” are the most
attractive guys in the world
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 review:
action plan
• The next time you meet a woman you like,
instead of trying to “run game” or trying to
impress her, simply use the power of sexual
tension to get her horny
• Focus on not breaking the natural tension
that exists between men and women. This
will take some practice, but when properly
implemented, you will “do less” and “get
more” women than ever before
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 Micro-
Escalation
module 4

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 micro-escalation
• You never want to confess your feelings (I really
like you) or worry about making that one big
physical move (like lunging at her for a kiss)...
• Instead you want to use a series of “smaller
moves” that build the sexual tension and slowly
get her feeling more attracted to you
• These moves are very small and innocent. They fly
are under the radar and she may not even notice
you’re using them (thus, she can’t object to them)
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 no big moves
means no rejection
• Never have “The Talk” - I really like you and
want to be more than friends. Or try to kiss her
out of nowhere
• Confessing your feelings or trying to kiss her are
BIG moves and often lead to an official rejection
• And once a women verbalizes her rejection of
you it becomes REAL. A good example of this is
the dreaded “Let’s Just a Friend Speech”

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 the game plan:
escalate the vibe
• The vibe when you guys hang out is usually social.
You talk to her like one of your buddies. Your goal
now is to escalate that vibe to something more
seductive
• When meet a woman and there’s “instant attraction”
it’s natural to try and make you both feel comfortable.
However, these feeling of tension and “chemistry”are
really your best weapons for seducing her fast
• In the beginning you don’t want her to feel too
comfortable. You want there to be sexual tension
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 make her feel emotions
and think about you
• You want her to FEEL a bit nervous around you, but
in a good way. For example, feeling butterflies or
having her heart skip a beat. These feelings are the
same emotions she gets when she’s attracted to a guy
• You also want her to be wondering about your
intentions. Does her like me... or not?
• Now you’re making her feel strong emotions and
occupying her thoughts. When women think about
you and feel emotional around you, they fall in love
with you
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 review:
action plan

• Review the concept of micro-escalation. We

don’t escalate on women verbally (give
compliments or say we like them). And we
don’t escalate physically (touching her or
lunging for a kiss)
• Instead we will be using a series of small
non-verbal techniques that turn her on, but
she can’t object to them (or reject us)

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seductive
listening
module 5

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 getting into
“seduction mode”
• 3 Easy Steps to Seduction Mode
• Relax, slow down (be sleepy) and feel slightly aroused (get
turned on by the woman your with). Act how you would if
just woke up after a long night of wild sex
• We’re going to be using sub-communication. This is a mode
of communication women understand best
• We’re going to be using our “BODY” our “EYES” and our
“VIBE” to communicate with her (not words)
• We’re letting her know we find her SEXY, but we do it non-
verbally. It’s much easier to let a girl you just met know that
you find her sexy with your body language than telling her
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 seductive listening

• Revealing too much, too soon is a bad idea.

Women are naturally selective and will often
find any reason to screen you out for something
you said (even if she’s smiling when you say it)
• You become the Prize: When she talks and you
listen, she’ll feel like she’s working for your
attention and trying to impress you (it creates a
role reversal)

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 use silence & Pauses
• Be comfortable with silence and pauses
• Silence builds sexual tension. If you can be
comfortable being with a woman without
always having to talk it will reveal that
chemistry
• When you shut up and stop talking there’ll be a
pause in the conversation which can lead to a
kiss. If you’re always blabbering on there’ll
never be a good moment for a kiss to happen
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 the wrong way to listen
• When you listen like a friend you end up in the
friend zone (you become the buddy)
• Too much smiling, head nodding, and agreeing
with everything she says. You make that “I'm just
so damn happy to be here face”
• You feel it's your job to fill all the silences and
keep the conversations going
• As men we think we have to fix everything.
Never give her advice or judge her (just listen)
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 the right way to listen
• Use “Seductive Listening”. Listen to her like the guy
she’s sleeping with would (not a friend)
• The Seductive Screening Face: It’s 50% I want to bang
you. 50% I’m not sure about you yet.
• Without adding that 50% of challenge/screening this
LOOK doesn’t work (you just come off as a player)
• Focus more on the VIBE and the ENERGY versus the
words that are being said
• Women love a good listener, not a guy who is always
interrupting her
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 action plan

• When you go out to seduce women, do less

talking and more listening. Make sure you listen
to her the right way, which is seductively.
• Be comfortable with silence, create pauses
• Don’t give her advice, or make comments, just
look at her like you find her sexy, but you’re still
a bit unsure about her

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secret seduction
triggers
module 6

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 secret trigger #1: use
Seductive Eye contact
• The Look: Give her those “Seductive Bedroom Eyes”
• You need to be comfortable looking at a beautiful
woman in the eyes (most guys look away)
• Hold her “gaze” for a moment longer than you would
with a friend. Don’t look around avoiding eye contact
• Your eye contact should be confident, but also
relaxed. It shouldn’t look like a staring contest
• The fastest way to make a woman feel “instant
chemistry” is by using sexual eye contact

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 secret trigger #2:
handsome mirror trick

• Sit back and let her (women) check you out.

Especially let her look at your face (pretend
your face is a mirror)
• If you can hold “face contact” with women
without breaking it, out of nowhere she will
blurt out...You’re cute! or you’re HOT.
• You instantly become good looking (even if
you’re not)
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 secret trigger #2:
handsome mirror trick
• The secret of the “mirror technique” is that if you’re
comfortable with your face, it means you are
comfortable with your looks.
• Women don’t necessarily need you to be good
looking, but you absolutely have to be confident
with your looks. Own it! Confidence is extremely
sexy to women.
• Amplify the Tension: Get comfortable with her
checking you out when you are both being silent
(This builds an insane amount of sexual tension)
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 secret trigger #3:
get really close to her

• Getting close to a woman instantly creates

feelings of excitement and chemistry. If you
stand and sit too far away she will never feel
that tension around you
• Get both your body and your face close to her: If
you’re on the short side you’ll be face to face
(lots of tension) and if you’re taller she will feel
your dominance (arousing)

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 secret trigger #3:
get really close to her

• The Leg /Arm Touching Test: while sitting

down get your leg so close that it lightly touches
hers. A really good sign if she doesn’t move her
leg away. It’s on!
• You don’t need to touch her. Getting close to
her is your touching. In fact, when you get
closer you want to see if she touches you first.

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 secret trigger #4:
let her “turn you on”

• Look at her as a sexual woman (not just a friend)

• Your “mental focus” is always going to be in 1 of 3
places: affection (just happy to be there) validation
(trying to make her like you) or what it would be
like to sleep with her (for now, keep focused on sex)
• Women do some many little things to look sexy and
“turn us on”, but you have to notice them
• Her perfume, a piece of jewelry, a hint of cleavage

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 secret trigger #5: get
her thinking about sex
• You can subtly guide a woman to what you want
her to think about (sex)
• Control her mind: look at her lips while she’s
talking, it will make her think about kissing you
• Get her thinking about having sex by imagining
it yourself first (picture being in bed with her)
• Visualize success: grabbing her hand, kissing her,
taking her to the bedroom, having sex

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 secret trigger #5: get
caught being naughty
• Give her the “I’m picturing you naked” look (it
helps if you are actually picturing her nude)
• Get caught “checking her out” OR thinking
something “naughty” (don’t over use this one)
• Bonus point if she playfully hits your arm or says
“what are you thinking”
• Don’t respond, juts hold seductive eye contact
(trigger #1) give her an evil smirk

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 the power of
seduction triggers
• The best part about these TRIGGERS is there is nothing
verbal for her to reject or physical for her to resist. It’s
just VIBE (it can’t be stopped). On the surface you’re just
talking about normal everyday stuff and listening to her.
• Remember, the seduction triggers are much easier to do
when you’re listening, versus when you are talking
• It’s very hard to hold seductive eye contact, remember to
get close to her, and look at her lips while you imagine
kissing her when you’re talking all the time (so shut up,
stop trying and let nature do all the work)
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 review:
action plan
• From now on, instead of flirting with women socially
(being social and funny) you are going to flirt with
women sexually (being seductive)
• The best way to use the secret seduction triggers:
• Step 1: picture sleeping with her in your mind
• Step 2: You will begin to feel aroused by her
• Step 3: Once you get in that “sexual state” the
seduction tactics we covered will happen naturally.
You will automatically hold seductive eye contact and
drift closer to her.
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decoding her
signals
module 7

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 she’s interested now
1. When you move closer she doesn’t move back
2. If your leg, arm or hands are slightly touching she
keeps hers there
3. She holds your gaze and doesn’t look away
4. She taps your arm and touches you even though you
never touched her
5. She giggles, seems a bit nervous or talks a lot to try
and break the sexual tension
6. She says...”whaaaat” in a cute way
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 she needs more time
• She avoids all eye contact, doesn’t look at you either
• Moves back when you get a bit closer
• If your legs are touching she moves hers away
• Gives you the “you’re weird face” or says “WHAT?”
• Doesn’t elaborate when you ask her questions about
herself
• Uses silence as an excuse to check her phone and
ignore you (never restarts the conversation)

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 keep trying
until you get it right
• The Groundhogs Day Effect: because these moves are so
small and innocent she can’t officially reject you. This
means you get more time and more chances to seduce her
• Escalation is Attractive: just by being seductive and using
these techniques you are seen as more confident and
more attractive by women (you can’t lose)
• It’s not about the “triggers”working. Your first goal is to
change the frame of your interactions with women from
social to seductive. And have her start thinking of you as
a sexual guy

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 fear of being creepy
• The main reason guys act social and polite around
women (instead of being sexual) is their fear of being
called creepy
• You’re afraid your friends will make fun of you and
women will laugh if you try to be seductive
• It’s not the techniques that are wrong (seductive eye
contact and getting close), it really depends how she
feels about you at the time
• Being seductive takes practice. It’s not something you
are used to doing (you usually act social or cocky)
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 pass all her tests
• When a woman starts to feel sexually attracted she will
test you to make sure you’re the real deal. This is a GOOD
THING
• The perfect response: Say nothing, give her a playful
smirk, and then turn your head away slowly. Keep up
the sexual tension and “stay on the same team”
• The key is to be Sexual but Humble. Never break rapport
or try to be too cocky with her
• Guys with something to prove act cocky. Guys who
already know they’re good act humble. (George Clooney)

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 top 5 advantages of
non-verbal triggers
1. Using non-verbal triggers shows you have experience with
women because you understand her need to be DISCREET
2. Women respond best to sexual sub-communication. They
notice small things like body language and facial expressions.
3. You can’t be rejected using these triggers (at least not verbally
or physically). What is he going to say “Hey, I know what
your doing, you’re trying to escalate the vibe”
4. If you’re scared to make a move there’s NO easier way than
using non-verbal seduction triggers
5. Escalation is attractive. Either you get the girl or she now sees
you as more confident and attractive. You win either way.
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 review:
action plan

• As you use the “seduction triggers” pay very

close attention to her reaction. Does she hold eye
contact with you? Does she stay close? Does she
blush or seem nervous (in a good way)
• As you start to become a pro at decoding a
woman’s signals you will know exactly the right
time to make your move

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 Module 8
make your move (hand caressing)

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 make your move
• One thing to note, if you’re building that sexual
tension and getting her aroused you can’t do
that stuff or too long without eventually making
your move
• The sexual tension goes from bring exciting to
being CREEPY if you don’t make a physical
move
• For example, when a guy looks seductively at a
girl from a distance, but never approaches her
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 make her attraction
official
• Great news. You’re flirting with her sexually and it’s
going really good. Now’s the time to strike!
• She’s showing the signs of attraction, but you need to
make that attraction official. If not, all that sexual
chemistry never becomes REAL
• Mutual attraction is the key. It’s not about getting her
phone number or telling her she’s beautiful. That’s
not having a mutual moment
• Timing is everything: Make her attraction official
when she is FEELING IT
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 the magic move:
hand caressing
• High-five her and don’t pull your hand away -
she if she stays holding onto your hand or pulls
away quickly
• While she’s talking simply put out your hand
and see if she grabs it (a good time is when she’s
talking about something that’s bothering her)
• Don’t react if she pulls her hand away. It’s not a
big deal. Because it’s not a big rejection (like a
kiss), you can just try again at a later time
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 the magic move:
hand caressing
• This creates a very “magic moment” like becoming
boyfriend and girlfriend (that new couple feeling)
• I call it the “It’s ON” moment because things are
much different between you after this moment. Before
your flirting was hidden, now it’s completely out in
the open
• You’re also trying to make it easier for her to show
her attraction for you. She may be interested, but she
may not want to kiss you (for whatever reason)
• Give her a comfortable way to return her interest
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 still too scared?
use social customs
• The Seductive Handshake
• When you’re introduced to a new woman or you see her
again put out your hand to say hello and don’t pull away
first
• The Last Try “Goodbye”
• As your leaving put out your hand to say goodbye and
don’t pull your hand away first. Even if she does pull
away at least you’re on your way OUT
• Don’t wait until end of the night to use this move. You can
grab her hand early on or in the middle of a date so test her
interest (don’t wait for the kiss at her doorstep)
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 kissing vs. hands
• Going for a kiss is very stressful, her hands are easier
• You can only try to kiss a girl once or twice before you
look desperate (it’s a big rejection), whereas you can
try and grab her hand several times without it being a
big deal
• A beautiful face can intimidate you, but a woman’s
hands aren’t intimidating at all
• Kissing is much harder to do when her friends are
around or at a work event. But you can quickly grab
her hand and still do it discreetly
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 now, get the kiss

• Once you’re holding hands you feel like a

“couple” and now it’s much easier to kiss her
• There’s much less distance between you now, so
you don’t have to lunge for a kiss. It happens
naturally and makes logical sense
• It’s less likely a girl will reject a kiss when you’re
already caressing hands. Holding hands gives
you that “same team” feeling

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 review:
Action plan
• When you notice a woman displaying the signals of
being attracted, you want to make that chemistry
official by grabbing and caressing her hand
• Once you’re holding hands it’s a perfect time to go
for a quick kiss. Now is the best time because “you
are a team” and you have that “new couple
feeling”.
• There is also less distance now that you are holding
hands (you don’t have to lunge at her for a kiss)

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Module 9
Rejection destroyers

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 “avoidance” feels worse
than rejection
• You got away without being rejected, but you
still feel like ten women called you a loser
• The truth is you can’t hide from yourself. Even if
you avoid rejection, you still know you were
scared to be seductive and grab her hand. That’s
all it takes for that negative voice in your head
to start beating you up
• We can be much tougher on ourselves than any
woman could be, so you might as well go for it
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 get the “rejection buzz”
• It sounds crazy, but a small dose of rejection actually
feels pretty good. You get a confidence spike. That’s
because even when you fail at something, your inner
game gets a boost just for trying.
• Have you made a move on a girl and failed, but for
for some strange reason you still felt like a champion.
Your brain was rewarding you for “manning up” and
going for it
• Remember, rejection can hurt you, but it can also
REWARD you. Avoiding rejection just hurts you.
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 rejection isn’t the
enemy (regret is)
• I really liked this girl and I could tell she was into me
as well. There was lots of flirting and even we hung
out a few times - but I never made a move. I was
scared of REJECTION
• It’s 5 years later and I still think about her. But it’s no
longer fear of rejection, it’s REGRET. Because I did
nothing, I still think about what could have happened
• Regret is much worse than rejection. Rejection lasts a
few days. Regret is a few years. Make a move on her
tonight, you won’t regret it
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 the rejection reframe
• It’s not about these mindsets and tactics working.
It’s really about changing the FRAME, and
making women feel like we could be a “potential
lover” instead of just a buddy
• Escalation is Attractive:
Just by using these tactics
you are seen as more confident and attractive
• Don’t focus on the outcome. When you escalate
the seductive vibe and grab her hand, no matter
what happens, you win
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 conquer your real
fears
• Fear of active seductive around women is rooted in
our fear of being called creepy. Women love a
seductive guy, but if she doesn’t feel the same way she
may imply it’s creepy (that doesn’t mean you are
creepy)
• We’re scared to escalate and grab a girls hand or kiss
her because we fear misreading her signals. Thinking
a girl liked you, when she didn’t, can be embarrassing
• Fear of “being sexual” comes from our fear of being
though of or labeled as a PERVERT

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never really goes away

• You can still be scared of rejection even after it’s

obvious she likes you (after kissing her)
• This fear actually gets worse because now you
are scared of rejection and losing her
• People will work twice as hard to keep
something they already have, than they will to
gain something new

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• Take some time to think about your fear of
rejection. How do you respond to being rejected?
Does it give you a boost of confidence for trying?
• Reflect on times in your life where you regret not
going for it. Maybe it was a job or a girl you liked.
• What are your real fears? Are you scared of being
called creepy? Terrified of misreading her signals?
What is the real reason you don’t act sexual?
Write down your real fears on a piece of paper.
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get her home

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 the Sexual Fears
• Why can’t you just say “hey, let’s go back to my
place” and reveal your sexual interest
1. Fear she’ll think you’re a PERVERT or get
offended for asking her to come home with you
2. The fear she will say NO... and the fear she will
say YES. Besides being rejected you worry about
having to preform well in bed
3. You feel GUILTY for wanting her for sex. You feel
bad that you also want her body. You don’t want
her to feel used.
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• If she tests you, for example, “what are we
going to do at your house that we can’t do here?”
don’t try to be cocky or make a lame joke and
kill the moment
• Instead, be humble and keep that sexual
tension burning. Communicate your sexual
interest in a genuine way
• “I won’t lie, I want to spend time alone with
you - I enjoy being with you”
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• Realize at least part of her interest in you is
SEXUAL. You just think she likes you as a
person. Guys don’t realize that women also like
them in a SEXUAL WAY and enjoy sex
• Don’t apologize for sexual desires but NEVER
be pushy or try to change her mind with logic
• Don’t wait until end of the night to reveal your
sexual interest. The night out ends sooner than
you think (give yourself time to ask her again)
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 resistance isn’t real if
you don’t react

• Her Test: We’re not having sex tonight. You

respond - “we are both adults, we’ll do whatever
we are comfortable with”
• Remember, her resistance doesn’t become real
unless you get mad or pout when it happens
• Don’t be bitter or hold a grudge. This allows
you to be persistent (try again and again)
without coming across needy

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 resistance isn’t real if
you don’t react

• It’s not black and white (rejection or no

rejection) By revealing that you have a sexual
interest in her now, you set yourself up for
success later on (getting to YES)
• If you pout or get upset she will lose all
attraction and you won’t be able to try again.
Ever!

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 The 3 Golden Rules for
getting her home
• Rule #1: Women are like a cool club. Get the
first NO out of the way early on. Let her resist
you a little bit because sometimes token
resistance is part of the dance
• Rule #2: Never ever pout or argue when a
woman tells you NO. Keep your cool and try
again later. There’s a difference between being
persistent and being NEEDY. Compose yourself
and try again later.
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 The 3 Golden Rules for
getting her home
• Rule #3: It’s not about her saying YES, it’s
really about getting your “sexual intent” out in
the open. Either she comes back to your place
or she see you as a sexual guy who goes after
what he wants. Either way you win.
• You don’t have to have sex on the first date,
but you do have to reveal your interest is
sexual on the first date. Let her know this is
not just a “friend thing”
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• Don’t apologize or feel guilty for having a sexual
interest in her (remember her interest in you is
partly sexual as well)
• Always ask her back to your place but never argue
or try to convince her. You want to be persistent, not
look needy.
• Remember it’s not about “it working” or her “saying
yes”. She either sees you as a sexual guy who goes
for he wants or she comes home with you. Either
way you win. Get the sex part out in the open!
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closing the deal

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 fear of not
being sex worthy
• If you’re alone with a woman you like and you
don’t even attempt to make a move on her, she will
probably never see you as a sexual option again
• When we’re alone with a woman and she shoots
down our sexual advances it really HURTS (even
boyfriends fear this type of rejection)
• Every physical or verbal rejection says you’re not
“sex worthy” and makes you feel like less of a man
• It sometimes takes a little persistence, but you never
try again because you fear that sexual rejection
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 become the resister
• When you’re alone with a woman, instead of
waiting for her to resist you...resist her first
• Act like you’re fighting against the sexual
tension. Bite your lip, breathe heavy and then
pull back and go back to normal conversation.
Tease her a bit.
• Tease Her “I don’t know..we probably shouldn’t
be doing this”
• This is a sexual but playful challenge for women
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 blame her for you making
a move
• It’s her fault you’re so turned on and aroused
• Tell her she looks too damn sexy tonight, you
can’t be around her
• I better stay away or I don’t know what I’ll do,
go sit really far away from her (playful)
• Makes her feel sexy, but it’s her fault that
you’re trying to get her into bed. It’s like she is
the one seducing you (role reversal)
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 balance dominance with
romance
• The best mix for closing the deal is being
dominant (sexual) but also romantic (sensual)
• Physically you want to mix dominant eye
contact with sweet loving looks. Soft caressing
with a wild passionate kiss. Hold her close and
then whisper something sexy in her ear.
• Women love a take charge guy, but they still
want that romantic feeling. Use both tactics

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SEXUAL ROMANTIC

bedroom eyes loving glances

get closer to her listening (mysterious)

sexual vibe holding hands

sexual tension caressing

fast escalation genuine/humble

get caught checking her out never break rapport

reveal sexual intent be a gentleman

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 last minute tests
• “Don’t touch me”...if you get resistance or any
last minute tests just keep your cool and make
the girl you like feel more comfortable
• Mindset: I’m not going to apologize for being
a sexual guy, but we both have to want it.
Having sex is not a big deal either way, so I’m
cool with whatever happens
• If you can be sexual but also make her feel
comfortable she will reward you
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• When you’re alone with a woman you like your goal is
to make her feel comfortable but still keep the vibe
sexual
• Reverse the frame and take on the female role of the
resister (this should be deadpan-playful)
• stop being so sexy, it’s not going to work on me
• Blame the fact that you’re turned on and escalating on
her (this helps you be persistent without being needy)
• It’s your fault I’m so turned on - you look too good
tonight...
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mindsets of the
sexual man
bonus: advanced training

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 women love pleasure
(sex is pleasure)
• There are 2 parts to becoming a sexual man. You not
only have to be comfortable with YOUR sexuality
but you also have to comfortable with HER sexuality
• The women love PLEASURE mantra is not
something you learn once and then move on. You
have to remind yourself that “women love sex”
everyday because everything you see and hear in
society will tell you just the opposite
• Get yourself a VISUAL REMINDER (like 50 Shades
of Grey) and keep it on your nightstand
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 sexual shame. purity
and affection

• Sexual Shame: It’s very hard to come to terms

and admit the sexual stuff you want to do with
women, so you hide that part of yourself. But
remember a lot of women like kinkier type sex
just like you

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 sexual shame, purity
and affection
• The Purity-Affection Issue: some guys have a
problem accepting affection (hugs, snuggling)
from women that are sexual (dating more
than one guy)
• The Player Paradox: Some players have no
problem being SEXUAL, but because they’ve
been hurt by a girl in the past they swear off
all affection (this is not a healthy mindset
either, these guys are not role models)
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 the solution:
trick yourself
• So if you know you’ll inadvertently seek
validation, become hooked on affection before
sex and have low motivation what can you do?
• The truth is, you’re NOT a SEX guy or some
kind of playboy. And most of us aren’t.
However we need to temporarily” trick
ourselves” to be that “sex guy” when we like a
girl and override our default “wuss”
conditioning
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 sex = a life of love and
female affection

• Trick Yourself: you’re NOT a sex guy, but you

can’t get what you really want without having
sex (affection), so you need to temporarily get
yourself into that sexual mood
• Having sex with her will get you the affection
you really want. (snuggling friendship,
validation, spending time together)

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 the 3 mindsets of the
sexual man

1. I’m temporarily overriding my default

conditioning (focusing on female affection)
and being a sexual guy (focusing on my drive)
so I can start a relationship and get love and
affection from the women I like
• I don’t have to change my whole lifestyle or
become a player to do this

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sexual man

2. I’m not trying to have SEX to be cool, or rack

up numbers. I’m doing it because I want love,
affection and friendship in my life. I deserve it!
3. I understand that this girl is special and
amazing but she loves sex (pleasure) just like
any other human being. And she would enjoy
having sex with me.

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triggers
the blueprint

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