PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT: SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Individual Work: Social Provisions Scale (Daniel Russell & Carolyn Cutrona, 1984)
Instructions: In answering the following questions, think about your current relationships with friends,
family members, co-workers, community members, and so on. Please indicate to what extent each statement
describes your current relationships with other people. Use the following scale to indicate your opinion.
STRONGLY DISAGREE (1), DISAGREE (2), AGREE (3), STRONGLY AGREE (4)
So, for example, if you feel a statement is very true of your current relationships, you would respond with a
4 (strongly agree). If you feel a statement clearly does not describe your relationships, you would respond
with a 1 (strongly disagree). Copy this scale and write your answers on an A4 size paper, encoded.
1. There are people I can depend on to help me if I really need it. _____4_____
2. I feel that I do not have close personal relationships with other people. _____2_____
3. There is no one I can turn to for guidance in times of stress. _____1_____
4. There are people who depend on me for help. _____3_____
5. There are people who enjoy the same social activities I do. _____3_____
6. Other people do not view me as competent. _____2_____
7. I feel personally responsible for the well-being of another person. _____3_____
8. I feel part of a group of people who share my attitudes and beliefs. _____4_____
9. I do not think other people respect my skills and abilities. _____2_____
10. If something went wrong, no one would come to my assistance. _____2_____
11. I have close relationships that provide me with a sense of emotional security and well-being.
____3_____
12. There is someone I could talk to about important decisions in my life. _____4_____
13. I have relationships where my competence and skill are recognized. _____3_____
14. There is no one who shares my interests and concerns. _____2_____
15. There is no one who really relies on me for their well-being. _____3_____
16. There is a trustworthy person I could turn to for advice if I were having problems. _____4_____
17. I feel a strong emotional bond with at least one other person. _____3_____
18. There is no one I can depend on for aid if I really need it. _____2_____
19. There is no one I feel comfortable talking about problems with. _____1_____
20. There are people who admire my talents and abilities. _____3_____
21. I lack a feeling of intimacy with another person. _____2_____
22. There is no one who likes to do the things I do. _____1_____
23. There are people who I can count on in an emergency. _____3_____
24. No one needs me to care for them. _____4_____
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT: SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Work with someone close to you: Seeing myself in the Eyes of Others
Try to interview someone who is close and important to you, preferably a family member or a friend who
has been with you since you were a child. Let them answer these questions. If possible, encourage them to
answer all ten questions. You can interview them verbally and write a summary of their answers for each
number. Write their answers in English on an A4 size paper, encoded.
Format:
I. Interview
Name of interviewee:
Your Relationship with the interviewee:
1. What are my three strongest/most unique characteristics?
2. What is my biggest strength as an individual?
3. What is my biggest weakness as an individual?
4. What qualities/habits/behaviors can I improve on?
5. How did I change over time? Is it for the better or for the worse?
7. How would you describe our relationship?
8. What are my best characteristics as friend/sibling/child?
7. What are my worst characteristics as a friend/sibling/child?
8. When was the last time I hurt you? How did I make it up to you?
9. If I pass before you, what would you miss about me?
10. If you could tell me something that I need to hear but you have not yet mentioned, what is it?
II. Reflection
1. What did you find out about yourself that you didn’t know/expect before?
2. Are you satisfied with your relationship with this person? Why or why not?
3. How can you improve your relationship with this person?
4. How do you want to be remembered/perceived by others?