PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Module 1: Teen-age Relationships including the Acceptable and Unacceptable
Expressions of Attraction
After going through this module, you are expected to:
1. Understand teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions.
1.1. Define relationships; and
1.2. Enumerate acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions
What I know
A. Write the word True if the statement is correct and write the word False if thestatement is not correct.
Write your answer on a separate sheet of paper.
1. Attraction is a force that unite people.
[Link] is one of human beings' greatest emotions.
[Link] is love without engagement or intimacy.
4. People differ in what they consider attractive.
5. Relationship is a one-way traffic.
B. Write the word Yes if the statement is correct and write the word No if thestatement is not correct.
6. Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display ofsomeone's
feelings also a must, to be accepted by society;
7. Macoi has leadership and work skills but does not have goodlooks. Is it
attractive to ladies?
8. Majelyn dictates to her boyfriend how to dress upand what to
eat. Is this a controlling issue?
9. Is “Love” one of the three components of a healthy
relationship according to Sternberg?
10. Is cheating one of the unacceptable issues in any relationship?
LESSON 1: UNDERSTANDING PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
It is said that every kind of relationship is a two-way traffic which means that all parties should learn how
to give and take. There are different forms of relationships and each of us has a clear description for each of these
forms. We certainly have our own ways of creating and improving these relationships.
Personal relationship is practically the kind of relationship that we have with our families, friends, and
partners in life. This definition also applies to our relationship with those people who are significant to us.
WHAT’S IN?
ACTIVITY: Picture Analysis
Do you remember someone who has caused you to lose self-control? In building personal relationships you might
encounter difficulties or conflicts that might lead you to anger or frustration. Describe the pictures below and write
your reaction/observation on the spaces provided.
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Process Questions:
1. What do the pictures want to convey?
2. What did you feel after you wrote your reaction/observation to theimages?
3. Have you experienced this kind of scenario before? If so, how did youdeal
with it? If not yet, how will you react to this kind of situation?
Affection is one of human beings' greatest emotions. There is a lot of passion,
but more are conveyed in an intimate partnership with a compatible partner. Romantic
attachments are one of the most important aspects of life for these people, and a source of
tremendous fulfilment. However, the will to create a human link seems innate, which
develops our ability to build a healthy and loving relationship. Some suggest that early
childhood begins to develop the capacity to create a healthyrelationship with a nanny who
regularly satisfies the child's food, treatment, comfort, protection, stimulation, and social
interaction needs. Such partnerships are not destinies but are hypothesized to establish
deeply embedded relationship patterns with others. The end of a relationship is however also
a source of significant mental trauma.
What is personal relationship?
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- is a form of relationship closely linked to a personand which
can only be important to that person.
Kinds of Personal Relationship
o PRIVACY and INTIMACY- are two attributes describing personal relationships and
level of commitment to another person/s
o IMPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- commitment to an organization like a businessentity,
a principle or purpose.
o ATTRACTION- it is a force that unites people and can grow into an attachmentwhich
eventually leads to commitment.
Here are some of the attractions you need to remember:
1. Physical attraction is based on instinct.
Most people would claim that they are attracted to someone after a fewseconds of
their first encounter. April Masini, who also gives ABC Entertainment News relation advice,
wrote books like Date Out of Your League, suggests that females are naturally attracted to
men who exude affection and passion and seem to live a fascinating life. Heterosexuals tend
to be attracted to men with traditionally masculine features including muscle body, square
jaw, straight nose, and narrow eyes, physically or emotionally. These physical properties
often include higher testosterone levels, common among "alpha males." Alpha males
display a particular personality trait, including directness, determination, and power.
2. Physical attraction does not necessarily lead to a good relationship
The first physical attraction is a very poor indicator, according to Dr. Margaret Paul,
an expert in relationship who has a Ph.D. in psychology, about how well a relationship
performs that can lead to a feeling about abandonment.
3. Platonic attraction is important.
Having a common family history may also be helpful. Aaron Ben-Ze'ev, a professor
of philosophy and author of The Subtlety of Emotion, suggests that your relationship may
benefit from physical proximity, living close to your interest in love. Believe it or not, it seems
that simply living in the same city or neighborhood makes people experience more platonic
attractions with each other.
4. The unattainable is attractive.
According to Helen Fisher, Ph.D., Professor at the Rutgers Department of
Anthropology and Chief Scientific Advisor to the Chemistry online dating service, it will still
be attractive to someone we consider "out-of-the-league" because they are ideal. As a way to
force ourselves to strengthen both our body appearance and our social status, we could be
producing these frustrating crushes. At the same time, loving yourself and being patient is
the most important thing, because it is impossible to genuinely love someone else without
loving yourself first
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Understanding the Acceptable and Unacceptable Means of Expressing Attractions Toward The
Opposite Sex
You have understood well the essential traits of a good relationship. This time,allow yourself to open your
mind to see the difference between acceptable and unacceptable means of expressing attractions towards the
opposite sex. In this way,you will also have a chance to unlearn the bad practices that you have in showing how
attracted you are to someone.
Filipino society has set standards for terribly unacceptable way to demonstrate someone's attractions
against those who are practically acceptable. Perhaps you are asking why it is important to understand and
realize these things.
Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display of someone's feelingis also a must to be accepted
by society. It is a major disappointment that anyone who fails to follow this standard will be classified as poorly
educated by society or the community, or how one’s parents failed at parenting.
Because of the Filipinos’ culture of decency, the Republic of the Philippines seriously believed that the issues of
people's means of expressing attractions to theopposite sex or gender can be legally addressed. The Republic
Act (RA) 11313, otherwise known as the Safe Space Act, intentionally prohibits indecent and unlawful acts of
expression. This RA broadens the scope of the RA 7877 or the Anti-Harassment Act of 1995. This law recognizes
that sexual harassment occurs in the workplace, education, and training environments, and penalizes persons
who have authority, influence, and moral status in those institutions who commit prohibited acts of sexual
harassment. While the Safe Space Act addresses these gaps in our legal framework by recognizing that sexual
harassment can be committed between peers. A good example of this are: a subordinate to a superior, a student
to a teacher,or a trainee to a trainer.
What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions?
There are many factors that lead to the growth and maintenance of healthy and acceptable relationships,
including:
1. Mutual respect. Will he or she get to know how smart and why you are? Will your partner listen to you
when you say you are not happy doing something and then instantly back off? Respect in a partnership
means that each partner trusts and respects the weaknesses of each other and will never question them.
2. Trust. You talk to a classmate, and your partner wanders about. Is he goingto lose his cool, or is he going
to keep walking, because he knows you are never going to cheat on him? Often it's normal to get a little
jealous; jealousy is a common feeling. But how a person reacts when he feels jealous is whatmatters.
Though you trust each other, there is no guarantee that you will havea healthy relationship.
3. Honesty. This one goes hand-in - hand with confidence, because when one of you is not honest, it is
difficult to trust another. Have you ever caught your partner in a total lie? Like when she told you that she
/ he was occupied with homework, but it turned out that she / he was talking to friends? You're goingto
have a lot of difficulty believing the next time she / he says she / he has to work and the trust will be on
dangerous foundations.
4. Support. It is not only in difficult times that you should be supported by your partner. Usually, when the
whole world is falling apart, we thought that thisis the only time we need support from others. Even in
your best, you still needsupport and when time gets tough, your significant other should still be [Link]
instance, your partner should be there when you find out that your parents are breaking apart and he/she
should also rejoice with you when youget a great score.
5. Fairness/Equality. You need to have a give and a take in your relationship. Do you take turns deciding
what kind of food to eat? Are you going out with your friends as a partner as much as you stay out with
your friends? If it is not a fair balance, you will know. When a relationship transforms into a powerstruggle,
with one party trying to get his or her way all the time, changes get really fast.
6. Separate identities. In a stable relationship, everybody has to make compromises. But that does not
mean you should have the feeling that you are losing yourself. You both had your own lives when you
started out (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that should not change. You should not pretend
to like something that you do not like, or give up seeing your mates, or give up something that you love.
And you should also feel free to build new abilities or interests, make new friends, and move forward.
7. Good Communication. Are you going to speak to each other and share the feelings that matter to you?
Don't keep your emotions locked up because you are afraid your partner does not even need to hear
about it. And if you need some time to think about something before you are ready to talk about it, you
will be provided some space by the right person to do that.
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10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship
Every relationship has its ups and downs, and we all have to compromise a little to make them work. But if your
partner consistently doesthe following, it might be time to think twice.
1. Cheating
If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of the question. Many people
will say infidelity is a deal-breaker. However, others will decide to stay with their partners after an affair, and,
under the right circumstances, it is possible to heal the relationship. If you do decide to maintain the relationship,
your partner says they will never cheat again, and they do, it’s likely that they will continue to break your trust.
2. Putting you down
No one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. Whether blatant or subtle, if your partner criticizes
your looks, your hair, your laugh,your intelligence, or anything, they’re not worth your time.
3. Not supporting your dreams
In a relationship, you should be each other’s cheerleaders. When youfeel discouraged, they should tell you all
the things you’re doing right. If youfeel like running out of options, they should ask what he can do to help you
reach your goals.
4. Controlling
You should have a life outside of your relationship, away from your partner. It is not their place to tell you
who you can see, when you can see them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling behavior can be a warning
sign of physical abuse and should be taken seriously.
5. Lack of communication
You will never be able to grow together if you don’t discuss your wants and needs. You both need to feel
comfortable openly expressing your feelings, good and bad, otherwise you might begin to resent each other.
6. Unnecessary sacrifices
Compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re giving up everything, while your significant
other is sacrificing nothing, something’s not right. Have you heard someone say they got rid of their petbecause
their fiancé didn’t like cats? Or quit their job, left their family, and moved to other places for someone who
wouldn’t do the same for them? These should serve as your red flags or warning signs that there is something
wrong in how your significant other treats you.
7. Unreliability
When your cellphone is not working, you need advice, or you’ve just had a bad day and need a hug, do they come
to your aid? If they’re not there for you when you need them the most, think twice: why are you with them?
8. Forgetting the memorable day
There’s a stereotype that men always forget anniversaries and birthdays. Whether that’s true or not, it’s not
okay. It’s normal for something to slip our minds, but your man (or woman) should remember those little things
that are important to you.
9. Self-destruction
Sometimes we fall for people who are in rough situations. Though it can be difficult, it’s important to be there for
your loved ones during these times and encourage them to seek help if necessary. However, if they are engaging in
destructive behavior that is negatively affecting you, and they refuse to seek help, you might want to consider leaving.
There is only so much you can do, and it is not your fault that they are not willing to help themselves.
10. Not caring about friends and family
When you want to build a life with someone, you have to accept every part of them, including the people they
care about. Your partner not makingan effort to get to know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your
relationship.
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APPLICATION:
Activity: Situational Analysis
Identify whether the following pictures are acceptable or unacceptable expressions of attraction. Acceptable
expression of attractions are beneficial for both parties, and unacceptable expressions of attraction displease each
individual in a relationship or even the people in the society. Write your answers on answer sheets.
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1._____________________________________ 2.____________________________________________
3.____________________________________________ 4.____________________________________________
Process Questions:
1. How did you categorize the acceptable and
unacceptable teen-age relationships?
2. If you are in that situation how would you react?
3. Why do we need to understand the acceptable and
unacceptable teen-age relationships?
MODULE 2:
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP – ATTRACTION, LOVE & COMMITMENT
After going through this module, you are expected to:
1. Express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
1.1 Identify the different components of attractions, types of love, andhow it develops
into commitment;
1.2 Determine the importance of expressing attraction, love and
commitment; and
1.3 Share your experiences on how you show affections toward anotherperson or
people.
PRE-TEST:
Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet ofpaper.
1. What component of attraction refer to when people tend to be influenced bywhat they see?
A. physical appearance B. proximity C. reciprocity D. similarity
2. It is considered as the first form of love
A. husband and wife B. mother and child
C. relationship with friends D. teacher and students
3. It pertains to physical and functional distance
A. physical appearance B. proximity C. reciprocity D. similarity
4. Which component of love consists affective variables like emotional supportand caring?
A. Romantic love B. commitment C. intimacy D. passion
5. A type of love which comprises the 3 components of love
A. Liking B. Fatous C. empty love D. consummate love
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Making time for one another is vital to keep the relationship healthy and the process of give and take are
great ways to sustain a relationship (Miller, 2008).
Indeed, any relationship needs to be dealt with mindful and careful consideration of things, whatever kind of
relationship it might be. Keeping a good relationship with people will help you grow in some ways.
In this lesson, we will try to know how people express feelings and emotions towardothers. By having careful
reflections on the ways, we do to express out attraction, love, and commitment.
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DEEPENING:
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someonedeeply gives you courage. —Lao Tzu
Having and building relationship with others is natural, yet sometimes, itcould be challenging and confusing.
Attraction
The Merriam-Webster dictionary, collegiately defined attraction as: the action or power of evoking
interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something; and a quality or feature that evokes interest, liking, or
desire.
Having this definition, it could be said that attraction is a positive connection between two or more
people that share something in common, like interests, likes/dislikes, or desires. Some qualities may catch
your attention, and which could spark a certain kind of relationship.
When you have a positive attitude or evaluation regarding a particular person in relation to different
components, that is interpersonal attraction. For many, interpersonal attraction relates only between two people
having an intimate and romantic relationship. However, it is not only limited to such since it may also transpire
between friends, colleagues, family members, and others.
There are a lot of key components of attraction that may be the reason for someone liking others. Some
of those are:
Physical Attractiveness
Attractive people draw out a more positive first impression. Initially, people tend to be
influenced by what they see. Even the younger ones prefer to look at facesthose adults consider
attractive rather than at opposite ones (Langlois, [Link]. 1991). Our perception of beauty, though,
differs from one another since it can be influenced by culture, educational background, social status,
etc. Everyone has his/her idea of what or who is attractive based on physical appearance.
Similarity
When you are asked by your teacher to select a partner for an activity, who doyou usually choose?
Why? The common answer might be a friend who used to be with you, perhaps, because there is a
connection between the two of you that you donot have with others. We can say that you are “on
the same wavelength” that is why you find it easy to get along with him/her because you share the
same interests and opinions.
Proximity
One of the important aspects of any relationship is distance. Proximity pertains to physical
distance with other people and it is related to functional distance (how often people interact or
communicate with each other). The more you encounter or interact with the person, the more you
allow yourself to get to know him/her better which leads to a better relationship like friendship or
intimate relationship. Most likely, the people always near you just like your classmate or neighbor
has a big tendency to become your friend.
Reciprocity
We tend to get along with people or with someone whom we have the same feelings
toward. It is called reciprocity. It is when feelings with someone are being reciprocated or returned
in the same way as you do. According to Brannan and Mohr,authors of one of the modules of in the
book of Together: The Science of Social Psychology, “Another way to think of it is that relationships
are built on a give and take; if one side is not reciprocating, then the relationship is doomed”. These
may happen in any relationship, with friends, classmates, family members, or romantic partners.
The attraction is something that may happen in different ways, with different people, and in
different circumstances, and may lead to a much deeper connection or relation with others.
Love
It appears that the word Love has many meanings. Some definitions in the
Meriam-Webster dictionary are:
1. (a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers;
(c) affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
2. An assurance of affection
Any discussion about love piques the curiosity and interest of young adults your age. It may
differ depending on one’s experience and knowledge of love, [Link], it may affect the
emotional and psychological being of a person, thus influencing his/her emotion toward another.
This emotional bond depends on the presence or absence of support from others.
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According to Sue Carter and Stephen Porges, “love is one of the important
components of a complex neurochemical system that allows the body to adapt to highly
emotional situations”. Some elements are responsible for the deep and strongbonds of a
person with others that resulted to love.
One of the accountable chemicals for the connection of two individuals like
between mother and child inside her womb and even after giving birth is Oxytocin
(Keverne, 2006). It is a peptide also known as the love hormone, a female reproduction
hormone, which helps to deepen the connection between mother and child through
breastfeeding. It is transmitted to the brain tissue of the child that allows and creates a
strong bond between them. This is the reason why it is considered as the first form of
love. Together with Oxytocin, Endorphin, Serotonin, and Dopamine are so-called “feel
good” chemicals that promote strong connections/bonds between people since it
releases during happy moments.
Another element that promotes love is Vasopressin. It is also a peptide that conveys
the behavior of an individual’s social engagement (Kenkel et al, 2012). One of its roles is
to produce a behavior of developing stable, loving, and long-term relationship with others.
The studies of Cohen 2007; Fisher et. al, 2009 explained that the serotonin
production of newly-in-love individuals increases up to 40% just like with the brain of a
drug addict. And, when a person experiences heartbreak, the brain processes just like an
addict quitting a heroin habit.
In the book of Principles of Social Psychology – 1st International Edition by Dr.
Charles Strangor, he explained Robert Sternberg’s proposed Triangular Model ofLove. It
says that there are seven (7) different types of Love, and each type consists of the
combinations of variables (Cognitive, Physiological and Affective variables) that are
specified in Three (3) different components/factors: Intimacy, Passion, and
Commitment. (see figure 1)
Intimacy is consisting of affective variables such as closeness, caring, and
emotional support; Passion consists of physiological and affective variables like physical
attraction, emotional responses that promote physiological changes, and sexual arousal;
and Commitment is a cognitive process and decision to dedicate love to another
individual with the willingness to keep the relationship lasts (Brannan, D.& Mohr, C. D.,
2020).
Since love has its different types, we could say that it
may happen any time, to any individual, at a different level with
people around us like friends, classmates, neighbors, family
members, etc. The quality of a relationship is how both partners
relate to each other. There are different ways in showing love with
our loved ones or partners and are emphasized in Three (3)
attachment styles we display when we interact with our parents, our
friends, and our romantic partners (Eastwick & Finkel, 2008).
Secure Attachment Style – a healthy style wherein the
children used to receive care and easily communicate with the
parents since they feel that they are always available to listen and
keep them safe. Anxious/ambivalent Attachment Style - when
children are lacking or seeking more affection from parents
because they are too dependent on them. Avoidant Attachment
Style – it is when children are distant to the parent/s, sometimes
due to unpleasant experiences. These attachment styles have a big
effect or impact on how an individual perceived and expresses
behavior with or towards others.
Commitment
You already have an idea of what attraction is, how it happens, and how it grows, also the types
of love and how each type related and comprised with. Now, let us have the commitment and how this
thing may happen and how it will last.
It is a long-term relationship between individuals. A more complex relationship that resulted to
increasingly turn to each other not only for social support but also for help in coordinating activities,
remembering dates and appointments, and accomplishing tasks (Wegner, Erber, & Raymond, 1991).
Many people say that for you to be able to have a successful relationship, you should know your
similarities and differences; understand your partner’s needs and desires; and invest time and effort
to work things out and last for a lifetime.
Dr. Rajiv Jhangiani and Dr. Hammond Tarry reiterated the Slotter et al., 2011 that
“commitment refers to the feelings and action that keep partners working together to maintain the
relationship”. Any relationship will last through the cooperation of both parties, without this, the
relationship will not last and ends with breaking up.
Commitment is a choice, a long and not an easy process that needs to be participated by you
and your partner.
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Below are some collected ideas on how to exercise expressing affections and developed into a commitment for
any kinds of relationship. These may serve as tips on how to keep healthy relationships with others.
Stay happy. Happiness gives you the feeling of satisfaction for both abstract andconcrete things.
Be empathic. Empathizing with another is acting with greater cooperation and overall selflessness—
the desire to help, even at a potential cost to the self.
Keep open communication. It provides an opportunity to size up the trustworthiness of a person by
verbally committing to cooperate with another.
Always trust. Working with others toward a common goal requires a level of faith that others will repay
our hard work and generosity. Supporting their interests is also showing your trust.
Show respect. People are likely to give respect to others by being polite, honest, and by showing
kindness all the time.
Be a helping hand. In times of trouble (e.g., mentally/ emotionally), makehim/her feel that
he/she always has you on his/her side.
APPLICATION:
Activity 1.1 Past and Present
For you to be able to strengthen your understanding on our topic, let us havethe activity which will
provide you an opportunity to identify how teenagers from the past expressed their affections compared to your
generation and its importance.
A. Talk to a 50-year-old individual on how teenagers express their attraction,love, and
commitment toward others during their times.
B. Ask your parent/guardian or an older one for what they have experienced from the
past and what are their observations in today’s generation on their ways of showing and
expressing their attraction, love, and commitment with others.
C. After doing A & B, compare it with your own opinion and share it bypresenting your
work with your classmates and/or teacher/facilitator.
D. You are opted to use any materials that you think may help you show you creativity in
presenting your list. You can use but are not limited to any sheet of paper. Please also be
reminded that the maximum number of pages for your work is 2-3 pages.
E. Your work will be graded based on the clarity of idea and the way youpresented in class
or with your teacher.
Personal Development
Module 3: Becoming Responsible in Personal Relationships
The lesson in this module is about Becoming Adolescent in a Relationship. After going through this module, you are expected to:
1. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship;
2. state the importance of becoming responsible in a relationship
I Know
Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of paper.
1. Below are the three kinds of personal relationships EXCEPT one.
a. gang b. family
c. friends d. partnerships
2. What item shows the importance of relationships?
a. It provides food and shelter. b. It assists one in his/her job.
c. It gives one sense of belongingness. d. It increases one's enthusiasm towards work.
3. What is meant by having quality time with your loved ones?
a. having cheerful moments with your friends
b. having serious arguments with your parents
c. eating dinner with the complete family members
d. spending a day with the family members in the mall
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4. What is meant by being responsible in a relationship?
a. taking turns to do household chores
b. taking your duty religiously and seriously
c. taking advantage of the kindness of the other party
d. taking your responsibility to keep the relationship healthy
5. What is meant by a sense of security in a relationship?
a. being able to own a property
b. being able to secure all important things
c. being able to know you have someone to rely on
d. being able to feel that you have to someone to protect you
Personal Development: Personal Relationships – Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
Everyone has the chance to be responsible being involve in any form of relationship. It is one of the inevitable things in the
world. People seek love, concern, compassion, sympathy of other people essential for them to overcome challenges in life and to have
sense of belongingness.
People also find it awesome when they show the same feelings they receive from others. Having someone to share your life
success and/or agonies in life may add joy or give relief to one’s life like friends do. However, it may also bring people to a difficult
situation. Thus, learning the art of committing oneself to other people is as essential as learning to know oneself.
This lesson aims to make you create a more joyful and fruitful relationship with others. You are expected to understand the
essential ways of becoming responsible in a relationship. Thus, you are also expected to have a successful relationship with others
through a better way of communication and interaction with someone dear to you.
What’s New
Let us try to test your wisdom on how well you manage to become responsible in handling your relationship with the people
around you. Kindly read each of the situations and give your thoughts.
Situation 1: Conflict with the Parents
You had an agreement with your parents that you would finish senior high school without engaging in a relationship.
However, you fell in love with this guy/girl that made you more inspired to study hard and make a lot of achievements. How will you
handle this kind of situation?
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Situation 2: Conflict with your best friend (Choose the situation applicable to you/your gender)
You were courted by a varsity player who is so popular in your school. You are also aware that he is your best friend’s long-
time crush. How would you keep the friendship without sacrificing your own happiness?
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You are courting a student who is not so popular in your school. You know well that your friends will mock her for she is not
their type. Though you found her so important and very special to you. How would you make your friends accept her as your special
someone?
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What is It
Importance of Relationship
In module 17, you have clearly understood the three different kinds of relationships Family, Friends and Partnerships. This
time you will focus on making yourself a better person in any and every relationship you have.
Try to go over with your answers with the situations given in What’s New. You might have noticed how you tried to consider
other people in dealing with the scenarios before coming up with a decision. If that’s how you did the activity, you should be proud
of yourself for you clearly manifest the trait of a person valuing the importance of relationships.
Valuing the feelings of our family, friends, and partner or significant other can only be evident if we open our eyes to realize
the importance of that relationship. Now, the question lies with ‘How do we see the importance of relationships?’
The significance of any relationship can never be realized if we cannot see the beauty that it brings in our lives. The moment
we realize how relationships actually shape us as a person is the moment that we realize the importance of relationships in our
interactions and behavior.
Some of the importance of relationships are:
1. Lead us to make healthy relationships. All kinds of relationships can give you the opportunities to establish a stronger
relationship with your shared experiences and feelings with your loved ones.
2. Help us see our potential. People who love you will always see the wonderful things in you. Through this loving and
supportive atmosphere, you little by little grow as a person, seeing your worth with your capabilities and unique gift and
talent.
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3. Boost our confidence. It makes you feel you’re the luckiest person in the world whenever someone trusts you sufficiently enough.
It makes your spirit enthusiastic and gives you the delightful feeling of self-assurance.
4. Give you a sense of direction. The idea and feeling of sense of belongingness is such a great source of direction. If you care to give
yourself the reward of having a good life and reputation, you will absolutely do more for the people you dearly love.
5. Clear our life goals and aspirations. Relationships will help you focus on one goal and concentrate in achieving it because as the
sun sets you know you have someone whom you can pleasingly offer and share the blissful feeling of a victorious life with.
6. Build a beautiful person within you. Having all the positive attitudes towards life and oneself can really create a good aura.
Portraying good personalities can even make you appear and feel young and lovely.
Now that you are aware of the good things you get out from being in a relationship, this time get yourself hooked with our
discussion on how you can push yourself to be responsible in your own relationships with your loved ones.
Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
When you are in a relationship, you share your experiences and feelings to help your relationship to grow. However, there
are cases that these experiences may tend to break the relationship if you fail to triumphantly surpass the tests in your relationships.
A sense of responsibility in taking care of your own relationship can only be established when you realize the boundaries and
limitations of your role and influence in various relationships.
In this complicated world where you may tend to be disarrayed from a healthy relationship, you can only buckle yourself up
with the essential keys on becoming responsible in any form of our relationships before muddling into serious problems like
unwholesome arguments and/or ugly separation. Read and study carefully the six major elements of becoming a responsible person
in a relationship.
6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
These six elements of becoming responsible in any form of relationship will make you gain and maintain a stronger
relationship with your family, friends, and special someone.
1. Mutual Respect
Lack of respect absolutely brings people to an unpleasant environment and pushes people from respecting one another and
themselves, too. Establishing mutual respect is easier when one is guided by the virtue of the Golden Rule once uttered by Jesus of
Nazareth explicitly stated inMatthew 7:12 which has direct English Translation “Do unto others what you would want others to do
unto you.” This may be simply interpreted by the famous line “Respect begets respect”.This line means a person shall not trespass in
his rights or put someone down when he/she is wrong. We certainly know how well we should respect people but whenever we are
in a relationship. We tend to forget that constant nagging, scolding and blaming are equal to humiliating someone and equates to
disrespecting him/[Link] is essential to consider this So in order for us to gain respect from our loved ones or vice versa, we should
instead use encouraging words and learn the art of acceptance to someone’s unique personality or traits and lastly practice the
principle of forgive and forget.
2. Value Quality Time
Having time for fun will absolutely help you create more memories worth treasuring. Quality time with your loved ones may
mean learning to love them more. Contradictory to what we usually think it is not the quantity of time you spend with your loved
ones that matters but the quality you spend with them. For example, having a minute of a heart-warming talk or making fond
memories with your kids that is more valuable than having a whole day of arguing with them. For instance, in a family, each member
should learn to take serious matters in a separate occasion and spend precious moments with one another creating good memories
together. These memories will serve as their investment for the future. The time that they spend together will surely have a positive
impact on their relationship as a family.
For a group of people to have some quality time, each of them must have a very optimistic aura and jolly personality. Jolly
personality is always and obviously appreciated by most of the people. Optimistic point of view is really captivating and can drive
someone to be a better person, too. Being a better individual means having a good perspective and that is able to make sound
decisions.
Though others may consider different means of spending quality time with others as sitting quietly together while watching
the sunset or reading their favorite novel together over a cup of coffee, as well.
3. Trust and Honesty
Every person deserves to be trusted by someone dear to them particularly by family, friends, and significant other. It is
through genuine trust that person feels a sense of belongingness and a feeling of being loved. The person who consistently receives
someone’s trust will definitely grow trusting him/herself based on how others trust him/her. Indeed, positive encouragement may
create a positive outlook in life. Trust is the heart of all relationships, and because of its presence, other things follow like confidence,
loyalty, and most of all honesty. However, for one to completely trust and be trusted, you must realize that the first step towards it is
honesty. Trust is earned as they say, but we should also remember that it is not easy to be honest when you know that no one trusts you.
So, in order to keep someone’s honesty, we should be ready to trust him/her first, as no one would love to be in a relationship without
trust and honesty. Keep in mind that trust will not be visible without honesty, as honesty shall not come without trust.
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4. Well-Communicated Love
Love we felt may certainly start any form of relationship. However, it is not the thing that can keep it. Love is just a feeling.
What really keeps any relationship is the love that is well-communicated. Open communication is one of the most essential elements
for any kind of relationship to keep it going. How can we say that our love is well-communicated? A tap on a shoulder, a kiss on a
cheek, a very encouraging smile, a simple hug, may just be some of the most genuine and sincerest ways of expressing your love
towards one another. Means of showing well-communicated love may seem to be very simple for everyone, but in reality, it requires
lot of effort. It is not easy to consistently cheer someone up when you yourself are having a hard time. Though, that thing per se can
make your actions look so genuine and worthy of being cherished.
5. Reliability and Security
Each one of us dearly loves to have somebody whom we can depend on and who will guarantee to protect us from any harm
or trouble at any circumstance. This virtue teaches everyone the value of recognizing someone’s imperfections that he/she is ready
to extend him/herself to the person. This act of kindness will definitely foster a sense of connection, security, and relief. A hand that
is ready to help would definitely make someone feel he/she is well-taken care of by someone. This feeling would also develop a sense
of responsibility since he/she would be aware of his/her attitude and behavior for he/she is being looked upon. As this affection
consistently and mutually exists in both parties, a stronger relationship might start to develop.
6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence
Who among us would like to be in a company of people who do not have the heart to listen and give us a chance to explain
our sides first? Most people would find this situation totally unfair. You may have noticed that there are people who certainly give up
in a relationship for having a difficult kind of feeling, because of being judged for whatever their past mistakes. In order to avoid this,
listening is the key factor that makes communication prosper. Sincere listening is also a kind of expressing how genuine you
communicate your love and affection to someone special to you. Listening with a high value of integrity indicates your presence
which is non-judgmental and not discriminatory. If we desire to have a stronger relationship with anyone, we should have the
characteristic of a good listener. Being a good listener helps one to become a good adviser for he/she could easily discern pieces of
advice that could alleviate someone’s feelings. After sharing your thoughts and experience to someone close to you, you will definitely
feel unburdened as if a heavy stone was lifted from your chest. The weight of your anxiety, worries, and doubts could diminish just
simply by having someone to listen to you without judgment and prejudice. This kind of experience will precisely increase your
tendency to reciprocate the love, trust, honesty, and sense of encouragement, reliability, and security toward another.
No matter what words we use to express the key factors that will make a healthy relationship, do not forget that it always takes two
to tango. For a relationship to grow and become successful, parties involved should take their own sets of responsibility. Remember
that being and choosing to be part of any relationship by any circumstance requires commitment. Committing oneself means offering
the best version of yourself while still learning to accept and wait till the other party will be able to do the same.
What’s More
Activity 1.1 Understanding Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationships Sentence Completion
Complete the sentence to define the words from your own understanding.
1. Mutual respect pertains to _______________________________________________
2. Well-communicated love is ______________________________________________
3. Being responsible in a relationship means________________________________
4. Quality time for me is having ____________________________________________
5. Sense of Reliability for me is having ______________________________________
What I Have Learned
Now that you have completed reading the module and answering all the activities you are now to sum up all the things you’ve
learned through the following activities.
Activity 1: Fill the blanks. Try to complete each statement by giving the exact feelings you have that will suit to complete the
idea in each line.
a. Being responsible in a relationship makes me __________________________.
b. A person will become responsible if he/she is __________________________.
c. Valuing our relationship with our loved ones will make us ______________.
Assessment
Multiple Choice. Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of paper.
1. What is likely to happen when two people shared mutual love? Their relationship will_______________.
a. grow in numbers alone b. be pleasing
c. for everybody grow and become stronger d. be broken and get separated
2. What personality does a good and real friend must have to make the relationship stronger?
a. envious b. assertive c. assertive gregarious d. compassionate
3. What should a family avoid to maintain the trust in each member?
a. affection b. dishonesty c. disagreement d. encouragement
4. What item will BEST make a good romantic relationship or partnership to last?
a. infidelity b. generosity c. insecurities d. communication
5. What item does NOT show a proper way of communicating one’s love and affection to someone?
a. warm embrace b. frequent nagging
c. a tap on a shoulder d. a kiss on the cheek
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