Use this column to write how you will change the behavior - or
SELF-WILL GOD'S WILL have your sponsor check off the defects as you are going thru
Defects and Shortcomings Assets (opposite of defects) your 5th step
Abusive Caring
Acceptance (lack of) Living in today, acceptance
ACOA/AL-Anon
(parents behavior is still affecting you today) Acceptance, Forgiveness, Re-parenting of ourselves
ACOA/AL-Anon - Father
(when a person's behavior is reflecting back on
Dad) Acceptance, Forgiveness, Re-parenting of ourselves
ACOA/AL-Anon - Mother
(when a person's behavior is reflecting back on
Mom) Acceptance, Forgiveness, Re-parenting of ourselves
Afraid Courage/Faith & Trust in God
Anal Easy Going
Anger Calm, Pause, Pray
Angry Happy
Arrogant Humble
Being Inconsiderate Being considerate
Acceptance, Minding My Own Business, Letting "God's will
Being judgmental be done"
Cocky Mild
Communication (Lack of) To verbally express feelings and concerns
Conceited Unassuming
Acceptance, Minding My Own Business, Letting "God's will
Controlling/Control be done", Retiring/Humble
Criticism Kindness, Praise
Denial Agreeable, Acceptance
Dishonesty Honesty, Truth
Divorce Married/Committed
Doubt Trust, Faith
Egotistical/Egoism Modest
Enabling Tough Love
Envy Grateful
Evasiveness Honesty, Truth
Expectations Not projecting, Living in today, Acceptance
SELF-WILL GOD'S WILL
Fake Real/True
False Pride Modest
Fear Courage/Faith & Trust in God
Forgiveness (lack of) Forgiveness/forgiving, Love, Concern for others
Gluttony Moderation, Sharing
Gossiping Close-mouthed, Praise, Trustworthy
Greed, Greedy Giving, Sharing, Being Content
Guilt/Guilty Acceptance, Growth, Self-forgiveness
Harmful Acts Good Deeds
Hateful, Hate Forgiveness/forgiving, Love, Concern for others
Hurtful Kind
Immoral Moral/Spiritual
Impatience, Impatient Patience, Patient
Inconsiderate Considerate
Infidelity Monogamous
Insecure Secure/Fulfilled
Intolerance, Intolerant Tolerance, Tolerant
Irresponsible Responsible
Jealousy, Jealous Secure/Trusting, Faith
Judgmental Fair-Minded, Understanding
Justification Agreeable, Acceptance
Lustful Being Content
Lustful Thoughts Respectful thoughts
Lying Honesty, Truth
Manipulative Complaint/Accepting
Martyr Courageous, Responsible
Miserly Giving, Generous, Trust in God
Needy Giving
Non-committal Definite/committal
Not Dealing With Reality Honesty, Truth
Obstinate Fair-Minded
Opinionated Fair-Minded
Paranoid Trusting
SELF-WILL GOD'S WILL
People Pleasing Real/True, Take care of myself
Perfectionist/perfectionism Letting yourself make mistakes, allow yourself to be human
Pompous Modest
Prejudice Open Minded
Pride Humility, Seeking God's Will
Procrastination Take Action, Being timely
Rationalization Acceptance/Reality
Resentment, Resentful Forgiveness/forgiving, Love, Concern for others
Sarcastic Complimentary
Self-Centeredness, Self-centered Selfless/Thoughtful & Others-, God- & Love-Centeredness
Self-condemnation Self-forgiveness, Self-Embracing/approval
Self-Esteem (low) Self-Acceptance
Self-Harming (over- eating, smoking) Self-Esteem - Self Love
Self-importance, Self-Important Modesty, Considerate for others
Selfish Unselfish, giving, sharing
Selfishness Interest in others/Altruism
Self-justification Humility, Seeking God's Will, Accepting
Self-Pity Lenient/Positive
Self-Righteous Gracious
Self-Righteous Anger Self-Acceptance, Acceptance
Self-seeking Interest in others, Altruism, Charity, Helpful for others
Sloth Hard working/Industries, Take Action
Stubborn Open Minded
Suspicious, Suspicion Trusting, Faith
Taking It Personally Acceptance, Forgiveness
Thieving Honest/Giving
Unkind Loving/Kind
Unloving Loving/Kind
Vain Unassuming
Vengeful Loving
Victim Courageous, Responsible
Violent Cuddly/Loving
