12 STEP WORKBOOK
STEP FOUR – CLEANING HOUSE – HONESTY
Made A Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory Of
Ourselves 16
READ IN PREPARATION:
“Alcoholics Anonymous – “Next we launched… (cont. to)…truth
about yourself.” – Pages 63-71
And, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions – Step Four
Pages 43-55
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DEEP SOUL CLEANSING
I’m Resentful Affects my: (3)
at or Fear: (1) The Cause (2) (Check below)
Self-Esteem
Security
Ambitions
Personal
Relations
Sex Relations
Pride/Shame
Fear
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
I’m Resentful Affects my: (3)
at or Fear: (1) The Cause (2) (Check below)
Self-Esteem
Security
Ambitions
Personal
Relations
Sex Relations
Pride/Shame
Fear
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
I’m Resentful Affects my: (3)
at or Fear: (1) The Cause (2) (Check below)
Self-Esteem
Security
Ambitions
Personal
Relations
Sex Relations
Pride/Shame
Fear
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
18 COLUMN WORK
12 STEP WORKBOOK
Ask yourself: ** (AA 67.3) Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked
* (AA 62.2) for our own mistakes… We admitted our wrongs honestly…** Column (4)
Where had (I) been selfish,
self-centred or self-seeking?**
Where had (I) been
dishonest?**
Where had (I) been
frightened?**
Where had (I) been
(responsible) to blame?**
What decisions did I make based
on self that later placed me in a
position to be hurt?*
When in the past can I remember
making this decision?* (Early memory.)
Where was I wrong?**
What was my part?
Ask yourself: ** (AA 67.3) Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked
* (AA 62.2) for our own mistakes… We admitted our wrongs honestly…** Column (4)
Where had (I) been selfish,
self-centred or self-seeking?**
Where had (I) been
dishonest?**
Where had (I) been
frightened?**
Where had (I) been
(responsible) to blame?**
What decisions did I make based
on self that later placed me in a
position to be hurt?*
When in the past can I remember
making this decision?* (Early memory.)
Where was I wrong?**
What was my part?
Ask yourself: ** (AA 67.3) Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked
* (AA 62.2) for our own mistakes… We admitted our wrongs honestly…** Column (4)
Where had (I) been selfish,
self-centred or self-seeking?**
Where had (I) been
dishonest?**
Where had (I) been
frightened?**
Where had (I) been
(responsible) to blame?**
What decisions did I make based
on self that later placed me in a
position to be hurt?*
When in the past can I remember
making this decision?* (Early memory.)
Where was I wrong?**
What was my part?
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Step 4 –SEX INVENTORY
SEX – Looking at both the past and present, what sex situations have caused me anxiety,
bitterness, frustration, or depression? We reviewed our (sex) conduct over the years past.
Who: __________ My conduct: ______________________
_____________________________________________________
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(The following questions culled from “Big Book” of Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12 & 1244.)
Where was I selfish or self-seeking?
Where was I dishonest?
Where was I inconsiderate?
Whom had I hurt and how badly?
Did I unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness? Explain.
Where was I responsible? What could I have done instead?
Did I spoil my marriage (relationship) and/or injure my children?
How?
Did I jeopardise my standing in the community? How?
Did I burn with a guilt that nothing could extinguish? Or did I insist
that I was the pursued and not the pursuer, and thus absolve myself?
Explain.
How’ve I reacted to frustration in sexual matters? When denied did I
become vengeful or depressed? Did I take it out on others? How?
If there was rejection or coldness at home, did I use this as a reason
for promiscuity? Explain.
What decisions did I make based on this experience that has affected
my relationships?
What is the earliest time I can remember making this decision?
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
Make as many copies of this form that you need to complete your inventory.
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Step 4 –HARM TO OTHERS (of any kind)
HARMS TO OTHERS – This is where you put those acts of stealing, or violence,
any harm done to others that was not covered in your resentments etc.
Who: __________ My conduct: ____________________
_______________________________________________
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(The following questions are culled from both the “Big Book” Alcoholics Anonymous and the
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. 50)
Where was I selfish or self-seeking?
Where was I dishonest?
Where was I inconsiderate?
Where was I to blame (responsible)?
What could I have done instead?
What people were hurt and how badly?
Did I spoil my marriage (relationship) and/or injure my children?
Did I jeopardise my standing in the community? How?
What decisions did I make based on this experience that has
affected my relationships?
What is the earliest time I can remember making this decision?
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
Make as many copies of this form that you need to complete your inventory.
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Step 4 – ABOUT MONEY and/or WORK
Employer or Business Deal: _____________________________
My Conduct: __________________________________________
_____________________________________________________
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(The following questions are culled from the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. )
Did fear and inferiority about my fitness for my job destroy my
confidence and fill me with conflict? Explain.
Did I try to cover up those feelings of inadequacy by bluffing,
cheating, lying, or evading responsibility? Examples.
Did I gripe that others failed to recognise my truly exceptional
abilities? Examples.
Did I overvalue myself and play the “big shot”? How?
Did I have such unprincipled ambition that I double-crossed and/or
undercut my associates? Explain.
Was I irresponsible, wasteful and extravagant? How?
Did I recklessly borrow money, caring little whether it was repaid or
not? (Mine or the companies) Explain.
Was I a pinchpenny, refusing to support my family properly? How?
Did I try to cut corners financially? Where?
What about the “quick money” deals, the stock market, and the
races? How about gambling? (In or out of business) Examples.
Did I juggle credit accounts (“robbing Peter to pay Paul”)? How?
Did I manipulate the food budget or other spending allowances?
Examples.
What Character defects contributed to my financial instability?(Enter below)
List Major “Character Defects” in preparation for STEPS 6 & 7
AMENDS STEP 8
Now
Later
Never
Make as many copies of this form that you need to complete your inventory.
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