Eliciting Values For What You
Want & Overcoming Resistance
THE SELF-CONCEPT RESEARCH GROUP
Start off by asking yourself what you want. It can be small and trivial or it can be big. It doesn't
matter. You just need to start somewhere.
I want _____________________.
(1)
What will having ___________________ do for you?
(1)
Having __________________ will give me ___________________.
(1) (2)
And what will having that ______________________ do for you?
(2)
Having ____________________ will give me _____________________.
(2) (3)
When you have ____________________ what will that do for you or what's important about that?
(3)
Then I will have ____________________________.
(4)
Repeat the questions: "What will that do for you?" or "What's important to you about that?" until
you either run out of values or you find yourself cycling back to previous values.
Create a vision with these values. The vision should be vague. You should see yourself in the
vision and you should see representations of all of your values in it. This is extremely powerful, far
more powerful than a vision board because you will take this with you wherever you go and it
doesn't matter if you're even conscious of it.
Now ask yourself if there is any resistance to having the vision you now see in front of you. Or you
can ask yourself what stops you from having this?
Wait for your unconscious to answer. It's likely your consciousness will want to answer because it
doesn't like voids, but the answer it gives is likely not the correct answer especially if the answer
is blaming something else.
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Give your unconscious time to answer. Welcome the resistance. Presuppose that it's a part of you
that has a positive intent or a positive message to deliver to you. It's not trying to ruin your goals
or your plans.
Your unconscious will answer. It might come as a feeling, perhaps a voice or even an image.
Once the answer becomes known to you, it will likely be stated in the negative like "I don't want..."
You want to get it stated in the positive. What do you want instead of what you don't want?
Once the positive intent of the resistance is stated in the positive, follow the same process of
eliciting your values from it.
When you've elicited the values, include the positive intent and all of the values into the vision
you've already created.
Check for resistance again. If there's none, revisit your vision once a day everyday for a few
minutes for 30 days. Then let it go. It will become more powerful when it slips into
unconsciousness.
If there is still resistance, keep doing this process until there is no more resistance.
Identifying your values is a very important step in creating the life that
you desire.
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from our website.
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