MODULE 4: TEXTING MID GAME – TOOLS AND

STRATEGIES FOR TEXTING WOMEN

Discover the Texting Techniques for Winning Her Over
Role-Playing is Important

Believe it or not, the effects you can achieve when texting some fun “role-playing” with women
can be pretty amazing. You see, each time you craft an imagined role-playing scene with a
woman she is essentially creating a memory with you. And the more memories she has with you,
the more comfortable she’ll feel around you.

Creating her “memories”

There’s some fine-tuning of the details when you try to role-play with women. The more clearly
she can imagine experiencing your role-playing the more potent and “real” the memory becomes.
You should create roles in which the two of you are doing things together or where she is the one
chasing you or looking up to you. These are important “memories” for her to have with you.

Here are some role-playing ideas for you:

 Husband and Wife (or ex’s)

 Travel Buddies (talk about all the adventures you are going on together)
 Stalker and Victim (she is the one stalking you)
 Teacher and Student
 Rockstar and Groupie

In Action
Building her comfort level

As you employ your various role-playing scenes with her, you are also displaying an exciting,
adventurous or maybe even a romantic side to yourself. These can be quick little exchanges or
they can be made into a long-running theme, which is the way to make the most of them.

That way when you connect with her again you already have a little play-acting story between
the two of you that you can use with her any time. It’s important to mention that this will create a
lot of comfort in her mind.
In Action

She can express herself. Just as important, role playing allows her to open up more than she
normally would. Here’s the thing, because she’s playing a role and pretending, it gives her an
outlet to express how she’s really feeling.

The role-playing creates a safe way for her to express herself in a joking, pretend way. And
because it’s a role and not really her, she’s not worried about being judged. She can lay off her
feelings to the character she’s pretending to be.

Use Misinformation to Get Fun Results! Whatever you do, DO NOT put her on a pedestal!! You
are both equals, and in fact things will work out much better if you jokingly come across as the
one being chased. How can you appear to be chased if you’re the one texting her?
Through a little bit of “misinformation” you can change any interaction into one where she’s the
one that’s hitting on you! Remember, it’s all in fun and joking, but you can make it seem like
she’s the one who’s hot for you, and not the other way around.

Example 1

Example 2
Example 3
Is she fun?
If the woman is fun she should joke right along with you. By using this technique you’re
changing the game on her. And because you’re making it appear that she’s chasing you she’ll
start role-playing, which will cause her to feel that she really is chasing you. That’s a good thing!

Use Emoticons and Abbreviations. Most face-to-face communication uses non-verbal signals
like facial expressions, body language and tone of voice, it’s important to use emoticons,
acronyms and abbreviations that help describe your feelings (lol, hahaha) to help build the
atmosphere you’re trying to create. As you’ll see, we frequently end a statement with phrases
like: Hahaha…lol, Or LMAO!

Note: Another fun way to distinguish yourself from others now that everyone’s using emoticons
is to spell them out so that becomes (smiley face). Feel free to use a wide range of these as
they will let the woman know when you’re in a good mood, sympathizing or just being playful
and funny. They can also soften an otherwise brash remark.

Example

This seems to be a bit cold and a strange thing to say in a conversation. Make sure your messages
are being read as you are intending.

Here’s how it comes across with emoticons:

Don’t be cruel

Women will interpret your texts to some degree based on the mood they’re in. Make sure she
doesn’t misunderstand your text as rude or mean when you were trying to be playful and fun. Be
sure to use these emoticons and abbreviations a lot. Your texts will be much more effective.

Note: Girls use these emoticons and abbreviations all the time, so be sure you’re tuned in to how
they use them so you can respond back in kind.

Get Fluent in the Vocabulary of Texting

The texting phenomenon has created a completely new vocabulary. Texts are simply brief little
messages, so many rules of grammar, punctuation and spelling no longer hold.

For example, instead of texting: You are funny, say U r funny. For Tomorrow say tmrow or tomo.
For I will see you later!, say I’ll c u later!

Get some room to write

Abbreviations make texting much easier and give you more space for writing. A lot of phones are
limited to just 160 characters of text, which can quickly run out. So by condensing your words
you can squeeze more into each text. Using this informal method of communicating will also
lighten the mood and make your texts more personable.

Note: If you’re stymied by terms like “LMAO” or “ywia” try using this text translator at Lingo 2
Word.

Use Lighthearted Teasing

Good-natured teasing is another good technique to use from time to time. Keeping it light and
goofy will lower her defenses by showing her that you don’t put her on a pedestal. A normal guy
who’s interested in her would never do this. It also forces her to have to explain herself, which
verifies in her mind that you are someone she finds worthy.

Go easy to start

Take care when using these at the beginning, as it’s easy to overdo them and come across as
being mean or rude. Of course you should never intentionally insult a woman. They get enough
of that from guys who’ve been hurt when she doesn’t respond to them or when she’s testing
them. You are not one of those angry guys. You’re one of the good guys, so be amusing and
lighthearted. Remember, you’re flirting not hurting, and you’ll be fine.

Examples
In Action
Keep it light

After she’s responded, no matter what she says, stay in a fun mood. Be tuned in to whether or not
you’re offending her. Occasionally you can hurt her feelings. If you do this, don’t over-
apologize. Just offhandedly apologize by saying you were just kidding, and redirect the
conversation into less serious areas.

Don’t Use Short Replies

From time to time you might be tempted to send the quick, one word or one letter response (“k”
for example). Try to resist this impulse and let her be the last one to text. If you absolutely must
send something, or if she’s someone you’ve been involved with for a while, send her a bit longer
response.

Being brief can hurt

When you come back with a very brief response (like “k”) it can give the impression that you
don’t care. This absolutely drives women crazy and can actually upset them. It’s easily fixed by
saying something lighthearted (like “okey-dokey”).

Balance Your Texts with Hers

Ever texted someone and got a tiny one-word response? Does it sometimes feel like you’re
struggling to keep the conversation moving forward? Obviously this is a frustrating experience.
It could be that you’re giving too much too soon and it’s throwing cold water on her attraction to
you.

Don’t overdo it

By noting how much a girl is writing in her texts, or how much she’s talking on the phone, you
can figure the appropriate amount of information to share. You certainly don’t want to be the on
giving all sorts of information about yourself if she’s not sharing anything, or she’s just giving
you short one-letter or one-word comebacks to your texts.

Be the chasee, not the chaser

Here’s the thing, the person who’s texting the most or talking on the phone the most is the person
who is devoting the most to the relationship. This has a big effect on how each of you interprets
what’s happening. The one texting the most is viewed as the one doing the chasing.

Example
This is a perfect example of someone (in this case Britney) investing much more in the
conversation than Dave (our resident Dude). It’s easy to see that she’s the one doing the chasing.

It’s very important to pay attention to how much conversation is taking place by the woman so
you can equal or mirror it. Whatever you do, don’t be the one investing all the conversation with
someone who’s not responding back in kind. She’ll sense she’s being chased and will be turned
off.

Note: This is much more critical at the start of an interaction, when you’re still getting to know
each other. After the relationship has progressed it’s not as important.

Create a Subconscious Bond

In addition to balancing the length of your text with hers, make sure you mirror her style as well.
Be aware of what types of emoticons, abbreviations and language she uses. Even something as
silly as Hahaha vs. Hehehe. Copying her style will let her create a sense of comfort with you.

Be simpatico

The fact that you’re expressing yourself in the same way she does will make it easier for her to
form a subconscious bond with you. It’s a fact; people like to hang out with people who are
similar to themselves. She may not realize why, but she’ll be more comfortable and feel more in
tune with you when you balance your texting style with hers. This will help her to feel,
subconsciously, that you understand her.

Being a Nerd is Cool

It’s true, making fun of yourself can actually make you more attractive to women. When you
show your silly side it shows that you’re not trying to be “Mr. Slick”. Women know that only
someone who is content with who they are would be “cool” enough to show their nerdy side.
This is very appealing to women.

You’re just a regular guy

Showing your dorky side indicates that you’re just a normal guy, which makes you much more
attractive. Here’s a little known secret – everyone has a goofy side. Women can now relax with
you, knowing you’re not trying to be someone you’re not or hide something. This is an
incredibly attractive quality. The best way to demonstrate your dorky side is just go for it!

Examples
Let her show her inner nerd

Remember that nearly every girl deep down thinks she’s basically a nerd. When you are secure
enough to show your inner nerd you create an atmosphere in which she can relax and be nerdy
too.

This is a very big thing! She’s only a nerd around her closest friends. She’ll actually start to feel
like she’s being her real self and will love you as a consequence. The increased comfort level
you’ve just established will make her feel like she’s known you all her life.

Note: When she refers to you as a “nerd”, “dork” or any variation it’s really a very positive thing
because it shows she’s relating to you.

Using Nicknames is a Powerful Tool

A main goal in any new interaction with a girl is to create trust, comfort and a real connection.
Nicknames are a powerful way to accomplish this and distinguish yourself from the crowd. It
will also help keep the attraction strong, and make her smile. So don’t forget to use them
regularly.

Examples
When you use nicknames you are establishing a lighthearted feel to the interaction.

Here are just some of the effects you can create when using nicknames:

It puts a smile on her face

Making a girl smile is huge. When she’s smiling she’s letting her guard down and making it
much easier to build a rapport with her. Nothing is better than a funny nickname conveyed at the
perfect moment.

It quickly creates intimacy

Using nicknames will quickly build an air of intimacy. Let’s face it, they’re usually used only in
well-established relationships when the two people are very comfortable with each other. Most
often it has some tie-back to a shared experience. So when you use them right away you start to
create feelings of comfort and trust. The idea is to build in her feelings like “you are so
enjoyable” and “I feel like I’ve known you forever”.

It shows you are a leader

Whenever you use nicknames you’re showing that you are at ease having relationships with
gorgeous women. The person who assigns nicknames to others is usually the one calling the
shots and the one who is most comfortable and relaxed in the situation. It automatically generates
a dominant, teasing and lighthearted atmosphere.

It creates an inside joke

One powerful effect of using nicknames is they create a joint bond. The two of you share an
inside joke. This is a very strong bonding technique that builds familiarity, trust and comfort.

Proper Use of Nicknames

Let’s face it, nicknames are fun to use in any interaction with a woman, especially when texting.
The best time to use a nickname is at the start or finish of your text. For example: hey
crackerpants! Just what kinda trouble are you getting into today!? Or hello my little midget
ninja!

These are certainly not the typical texts she’s getting from guys, so she’ll respond in a much
more lighthearted way and associate you with a fun time. When you’re texting back and forth in
a lighthearted way it creates a great opportunity to use a nickname. In fact, the only time you
should not use them is when you’re sharing meaningful, serious thoughts and feelings.

Choosing a Good Nickname

The type of nickname you use all depends on what stage you’re in with your texting. Here are
some nicknames to give you some ideas:

 Fun: Otter pop, Rubber Ducky, Strawberry Shortcake, Girl Scout, Rainbow Trout,
Rainbow Brite, Baby toe, Smurfette, Strawberry poptart, Cookie Monster
 Cute: Princess Sparkles, Snugglers Mcgee, Butterfly, Luv Muffin, Lady Bug, Jelly bean,
Hunny Bunny, Sugar buns, Bumble Bee, honey biscuit, Little miss pretty face
 Teasing: Nerdball, Dork Fish, Sassy Pants, Pecker wood, Butterbean, Firecracker, Crazy
face, Cracker pants, Midget ninja, Woman Face
 Sexual: Cock Weasel, Cum Smuggler, Sex Kitten, Sex puppet, Wiener warmer, Penis
pocket, Penis puppet, Sultry temptress
 Silly: Piece of fruit + body part: Peach Cheeks, Plum Bum, Banana Fingers,
Strawberry/Cherry Lips.

Tip: Try to rhyme the nickname with the end of your texts. Example: “peace out girl scout” or
“see ya soon baby baboon”.
Gentleman’s Corner
If you are a guy who is in his forties, fifties, or sixties, and is dating more sophisticated, mature
women, then as you go through this program you will need to make a few edits to our example
texts. The formula should stay the same: the rules apply, but the language will be different.

An older guy should play his trump cards of status and wisdom. He should use correct English,
and although he can still be playful, the tone should be more sophisticated.

As you read the texts in this program, pay attention to the vocabulary and, where appropriate,
make modifications.

Hence:

Hey there my little trouble maker. We are cruising down to (event) with a kick ass group of
people if you want to join the fun! Can u keep up though is the question! what do ya say?

Becomes:

Good morning Miss Moneypenny This evening, three of us will be having drinks at
Annabel’s. I’d be delighted if you could join us. If you agree, I will pick you up at 9.

Here we use the nickname Moneypenny, from James Bond. An age-appropriate funny nickname,
perhaps for an administrative assistant.

If you are an older, distinguished guy, no doubt you are quite smart and quick on your feet.
During an interaction with her, you can think of age-appropriate nicknames.

It’s okay to use the “fun” and “cute” nicknames just about any time. Use the “teasing” nicknames
when she’s acting sassy or throwing up resistance. Be very careful with the “sexual” nicknames.
Some women like them and others are very put off by them. Save the sexual nicknames for your
more advanced relationships and for women with whom you’ve created some sort of sexual
interaction.

The one rule is that it be fun, playful and designed for your unique communication with the
particular woman. There are some women who enjoy sexual banter and nicknames and others
who are offended by them. The key is to use some discretion based on how she’s been
responding to your texts in general, and how sexual the content of your texts has been.

Be mindful of when a woman begins to call you nicknames in return. This is a wonderful
indication that she is enjoying your texting and the nicknames you’re giving her.

Example
Tip: Girls enjoy feeling like they are physically smaller than you as it fits gender roles of you
being the protector. Words like “my little” or “baby” in front of your nicknames will help build
those feelings. For example: “little Rubber Ducky” or “baby squirrel”

The “Guess Her Answer” Technique

A fun option when you ask her a question is to guess what her answer might be. Make sure your
guess is a little outrageous and fun. This demonstrates in a subtle way that you think she’s a tad
strange (but in a fun way) while showing off your sense of humor and creativity. For example:
What are you up to this weekend? Becomes: What r u up to this weekend? Let me guess…taking
a knitting class so you can make me a scarf! You are sooo sweet

Note: This is also a good example of a re-engaging text. Her response was: Friday, Jan 2 at
3:13:53 PM Andrea: Haha how did you guess?? Guess it’s not going to be a surprise! I’m home
tonight but should be back in the city tomorrow

This technique can also be used in normal conversation

For example, when a woman says “Guess what?”, be sure to go ahead and actually guess. You
can say something goofy like “You just realized you are madly in love with me but our love must
be a secret because our families forbid us to be together? Oh wait that is Romeo and Juliet… my
bad. What?” or “You just found out you are a fembot sentp back from the future programmed to
save the world by giving me the world’s best kiss? Well you are going to have to work for it. I’m
not that easy!”

Note: You can also turn the interaction towards the sexual by adding a sexy ending like “…by
giving me the best blowjob of all time?” or you can go somewhere in the middle like “…by
giving me the best massage ever experienced by mankind?”
Methods of Turning Things Sexual
A lot of guys are surprised when they find out how sexual girls actually are. Some girls either
like playing sweet and innocent, or they just haven’t had someone bring their sexual side out
before. While not being as raw and dirty as guys (in general), they definitely enjoy the feeling of
exchanging sexy messages.

By including a sexual theme to your texting, you are setting the scene for a sexualized date. Once
she has engaged in sexual discussion with you, there is no risk of being friend-zoned.

Getting her to send sexy photos.

There are quite a few low risk ways to get a girl to send you some sexy pictures. Rather than just
asking, “Send me a sexy picture”, you can be a little smarter about it. Generally getting into the
habit of sending pictures is going to be a nice connection-building strategy.

If you see anything funny or cute or interesting, get in the habit of snapping a picture of it. You
can build up a stock of these, and then use them to send to girls as if you are doing that right
now. You could be just sitting in your house playing games, but look like you are always doing
something cool and exciting.

When you send her pictures, she should start sending pictures back to you. If not, you can ask
her to send you a picture of what she is doing. Or something like: “I’m working, send me a
picture of yourself to distract me ” or, “You are much sexier in real life than in your Facebook
pics, send me a picture that shows your real sexiness ” or “I’m bored, send me a fun picture”.

You can also send a funny “sexy” picture of yourself, like of your ass with baggy jeans on, or if
you do have a good body, a picture of you shirtless. Then when she replies with “mmm nice”,
say “your turn ”. If she ever says “Noooo, i’m embarrassed”, just reply, “Okay just don’t show
your face, and we can pretend it’s some other random beautiful girl ”

When you do get a sexy pic from her, you can say, “Ooh too sexy, I’m gonna need a cold
shower!”. When you show the girl that she is getting a reaction and push her away, you are more
likely to get an even more sexy one next time.
The Sexy Message Test

If you want to test the water for taking things sexual, a good way is to use this technique. Send
her the normal message in the sequence, and immediately follow it with a sexy one. Put this one
in brackets, something about how you are thinking about her sexy ass, for example. Then you
can see which message she responds to. If she replies to the sexy one, you’ve just upped the ante
and can continue down a sexy route in future messages. If she replies only to the normal one,
then you know it’s a little soon and you can play it safer from there.

Example
Getting Her to Ask for It

If she asks you to take it sexual, then she can’t blame you when you do. So the key is to make the
first message either ambiguous or slightly sexual. Then if she responds and asks you to take it
further, you step things up.

“Guess what I’m thinking right now? Hint: it’s about you and it’s kind of dirty”.

Blatantly Sexual Texts

Being very sexual, especially if out of the blue, can work, but the thing to think about is whether
you just want sex or whether you’d consider this girl for a girlfriend. There is some risk involved
with taking things sexual, so it’s best done in situations where you have an abundance of women
and can afford to lose one or two, and not in situations where you really like a girl and would be
devastated to blow things with her.

Having said that, if you want to mix things up and see how the girls respond, you can try some of
these examples that range from tame to super sexual:

Example 1

Example 2
Example 3

Example 4

If she is flirting with you and sending you sexy messages, you can write:

Cool It Down before the Actual Date

If things are too hot, there is a chance that she might meet you and just be ready for sex.
However in most cases, it’s safer to back off in the final few text messages, so that the sexy
frame has been accepted, but that it’s not the last thing she thinks about before meeting you.

That way, in her mind, there is some plausible deniability that she might just be meeting you for
a regular date. Girls generally need this to not feel like sluts. If you are in the middle of a sexy
exchange just tell her, “Ooh, I need a cold shower, let’s change the subject”.
Texting Mid-Game Recap
1. Role play to your benefit. Each time you create a role-playing scenario, the woman is
essentially building a memory with you. And feeling more comfortable around you.
2. Emoticons are essential to accurately get your message across because she can’t see your
body language or hear the tone of your voice. Use them often.
3. Show her you don’t put her on a pedestal by being lighthearted with her. This shows that
you’re different from all the other guys chasing after her. Tease her, but make sure she
knows you’re kidding.
4. Don’t use short replies. Brief, one word or one letter responses can be perceived as rude.
Better to not respond at all or text something longer or joking like okey dokey.
5. Don’t be the one texting long responses to her one or two word texts. She needs to invest
some time and energy into the texting so she can feel worthy of your validation when you
give it. Let her chase you a little.
6. Duplicating her writing style will build a subconscious bond with her because we’re
drawn to people who are like us. She will begin to feel like you understand her.
7. Nicknames are a goofy but powerful technique for attracting women. Giving her a cute
little nickname like jellybean will make her smile and build attraction.