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Body Language
Act up 2 Tips to talk 3 Behave 5
A guide to building Learn to communicate Behavior a part of Body
bridges between all before you start to talk Language and A few
kinds of people. to someone about books on the topic
anything and everything
Who said you need to talk to
communicate with someone?
Chaitanya Mohan shows us how body
language plays a vital role in communication
Have you ever looked at Did you ever wonder how This is exactly what body
your best friend when you this happened? How that language is. Whenever
cannot speak to him/her when you come home you say something you
but you look at them and from a hard day and your body has its own way of
somehow they seem to family instantly questions saying it, and a human
understand? you if your day was bad or subconscious brain can
tiresome? decipher these signals and
tells you what exactly is
happening.
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Before you read on please The answer to that is quite Hand signals are something
take a minute to look at the simple. Smile. Yes no matter you need to be careful about
pictures above you. where in the world you are before expressing them freely
everyone interprets a smile. in a multi-cultural community.
Your guess is right, they are
From the classy erudite to the
people from different races, Sometimes some signals may
savage tribal, they all smile
different countries, different have a harmless or positive
when they have something
worlds. Yet they stand next to motive but might mean
good on their mind or heart.
each other in love, care and something rude or offensive
compassion. That is why remember no in the jargon of another group
matter where you are in the who might not take the action
First act of conversation world, if you can exchange a too lightly.
One would wonder how do smile with a fellow human
people from different walks of being. Irrespective or creed “I always enjoy a
language or culture, you will repartee with my
life manage to interact at friends from all
such a level so as to be so soon figure out a way to over the world.
close to one and other? communicate with them. There is always
something new to
learn every time I
Hand Signals
call or write.”
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Talking made easy for those who say
the right things but are still wrong.
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FYBMM 08
Wondering why didn’t you make the cut at Put yourself in their place, would you let someone
the interview despite knowing your stuff? who is unsure of him/her self and overcome by fear
work under you?
Why is it that you didn’t get through? Even
To avoid such mishaps in future there are a few points
though you were qualified and well suited for you need to remember when you go to an interview.
the job. What could have gone wrong?
1. Always walk in with confidence. Make them
The Speech in the Silence feel like you are the one and they do not need
anyone else.
The problem is not with what you answered. It is not
with how much you knew or were oblivious to (Of 2. Think before you answer, that will
course this counts too). The main problem was how automatically take care of the stammering and
comfortable were you? stuttering.
If you walked in to an interview shivering and 3. Answer always to the point. Do not let that
stammering with fear of not getting the job, then no word-vomit get the better of you. They are not
matter how intelligent you are no manager or HR in interested in bedtime stories.
his/her right mind would give it to you.
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4. Look them in the eye when Now before you jump to that your comfort with the other
you respond. Show them conclusions remember your work person comes in natural free flow.
that you can handle being friends maybe be really nice
Never be uptight or stiffen up in
in their presence. people, they may be the perfect
front of them. Leave your
friends and will most probably be
5. Keep eye contact even shoulders slightly loose, you need
loyal. But it is human tendency to
when being spoken to. Do to look relaxed so that at any point
talk about other’s shortcomings or
not look at your files you it appears that you are crossing a
to criticize or mock or unknowingly
already know what’s in line u can immediately make a shift
insult.
them by heart. Do not look claiming to be joking. And don’t
at their table because even They way you walk to the way you look too relaxed (on the outside,
if you get the job you are eat every motional behavior is you need to be very relaxed on the
not going to sit there for a involuntarily being monitored by inside.) otherwise you will not be
good number of years. them. taken seriously at all.
6. Never interrupt when To avoid this you must remember Of course all in all it is advised not
someone is talking. to keep a track of your habits and to behave like this as it is morally
rituals. The way you dress and the and ethically wrong. Never forget
7. When you shake hands,
way you carry yourself. You do not to consult your conscience before
make sure it’s a firm
have to be overly cautious, no one attempting such acts, because
handshake. It makes you
is perfect. sometimes some decisions cannot
look professional.
be turned back and some damages
Enter The Office can never be repaired irrespective
of the price.
A work environment can be very Have you noticed how the
complicated. Remember everyone bad guys lie or say the wrong
gossips and enjoys it. Even you! or inappropriate things as if
Although you don’t realize it or are they were nothing and still
in denial about it. So technically get away it?
everyone’s eyes are on you.
Especially if you are new. Baddies Day Out
You may be the small talk person There is no secret to how they pull
or the keeps to him/her self person it off. It is all about throwing the
who does not bother with or about right vibes before throwing the
anyone or you may be the smart, wrong words.
or funny, or the perfect person to
To perform such a task you first
talk to. But your words are not
and foremost need to be
what your colleagues are listening
comfortable with yourself. After
to.
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Behavioral Reasons
History him how to communicate with
unknown people.
We have discovered how behavior
affects the atmosphere around. On the other hand someone who
We have also discovered how has stayed in a complete shell all
behavior complicates or simplifies his life cannot do what the boy
the situation of interaction. who grew up on the streets could
do.
Now our question is how? What
makes them tick? Why do people There can be many examples, but
behave like this how is it different? the fact remains that experiences
of the past shape your body
There are two types of behavior in language for your present and
body language. Birth habits such as future.
“People behave in a particular biting your nails or shaking your leg
way, by instinct because life and instilled habits, which include Now and Tomorrow
experiences have made them swagger, hand movements while
that way.” talking etc. both of which tell you a How will your present and your
- Sigmund Freud great deal about a person. future affect your behavior and
body language?
Several reasons for both types of
Recommended books to behaviors, the person’s past is one One thing at a time. Present. Let us
take the example of a teenage girl
understand body language main reason. The Father of
Psychology Sigmund Freud quoted who has a favorite pop artist.
1. Body Language by Julius that “People behave in a particular When humans have someone to
Fast way, by instinct because life look up to, they tend to behave
experiences have made them that more like their inspirations. The
2. Understanding Body way.” And sure enough many way they act, their speech, their
Language by Geoff peoples temperament mentality tone etc. their entire body
Ribbens & Richard and outlook are affected by their language tries to match theirs.
Thompson past. When people manage to recognize
For example some one who had some faults in their behavior or are
3. Body Language : A Play
suffered from a terrible bike unhappy with something about
by Alan Ayckbourn themselves they try to make
accident decides to go on the bike
again, automatically his body amends. And slowly as time passes
4. Body Language For
language will express his fear by these new changes become a
Dummies by Elizaeth
some indication or the other. behavioral pattern causing changes
Kuhnke in the person’s body language.
5. Body Language by Susan A boy who grows up on the streets
learns to fend for himself. After
Quilliam
growing up his body language will
reflect his confidence. Growing up
with random people has taught
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10. All data is the original work of Chaitanya Mohan based on his own observations on human life.
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