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Church Etiquette and Parish Complaints

The pastor received complaints from parishioners about disruptive children making noise during the 8:30 am Sunday mass. A parishioner, Marc Corsini, wrote a letter to the pastor apologizing for the noise and reminding parents to take crying children to the cry room so others can hear the homily. The pastor agrees that while babies are welcome, they should not disturb others and an appropriate dress code should be followed out of respect for God.

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Church Etiquette and Parish Complaints

The pastor received complaints from parishioners about disruptive children making noise during the 8:30 am Sunday mass. A parishioner, Marc Corsini, wrote a letter to the pastor apologizing for the noise and reminding parents to take crying children to the cry room so others can hear the homily. The pastor agrees that while babies are welcome, they should not disturb others and an appropriate dress code should be followed out of respect for God.

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From the Pastor’s Desk concern for others, since scanty clothes it

can be a distraction.
My Dear People:
Please know that I hate to be critical but I am
People write me nice things but sometimes I only passing on justifiable complaints from
get to be the complaint department here at our own parishioners.
OLS. This past week Marc Corsini warned
me after the 8:30 Mass that he was going to With prayers and blessings,
write me a letter of complaint and he was Fr. Muller
willing to take ownership of the complaint.
He said I could print the letter in the bulletin.
If you think he is the lone ranger, I should tell Dear Fr. Muller:
you that before I could take off the vestments
after the 8:30 Mass, another stalwart On behalf of the parishioners at last
member of the parish complained about loud Sunday’s 8:30 a.m. Mass. I want to
crying of babies during Mass. This apologize for all the noise in the Church. Our
gentleman bent my ear for a long time while ten-year-old son even commented he could
Marc Corsini stated a simple fact and told me not hear your message Sunday because of
he wanted to state his complaint in the all of the noise from the disruptive children at
bulletin. Please read the letter from Marc Mass.
Corsini.
Now I want to be clear here. We love having
Fr. Booth and I love babies. We baptize children at Mass--especially the babies. One
them, have a first Wednesday devotion for of my prayers is that we have a full church
toddlers, and heaven knows we support the each week with families who have lots of
CCLC (full time day care) and MDO young children. They are the future of our
(mother’s day out). These babies are the parish. We know and appreciate that babies
leaders of the church of tomorrow; but they make noise from time to time.
do not have a right to disturb the leaders of I am referring to the disruptive toddlers and
the church of today by crying so that people young children who continue to make noise
cannot attend Mass. When Marc writes that during Mass. If a child is having difficulty
his ten-year-old could not hear the sermon staying quiet, the adult/parents must either
and Mass because of the screaming baby, it take the child to the “cry room,” the vestibule
is time for parents to use the nursery, the cry or outside for some new scenery until he or
room or the vestibule. We have to remember she calms down.
that there are other people in this world
besides ourselves. We want Mass to be enjoyable for all. And
your message is too important to us each
Someone else asked that I use this medium week to miss it due to disruptive children.
to remind people about an unwritten, but
unmistakable dress code in the church. I All in all, our parishioners are sensitive to this
have to agree again. It was just last Sunday issue. I’d just like to remind everyone that
when a young lady was wearing shorts, Mass is for all ages and reverence is
coming up to receive Jesus in Communion required by us all.
and greeted me after Mass. When she Thank you Monsignor for all you do. We are
greeted me, I reached out to her with a half- blessed to have you as our senior pastor and
way hug and whispered in her ear, asking to have so many wonderful committed
her not to wear shorts in God’s house. To Catholics to our parish.
dress in a compromising way in Church
shows little respect for God and a lack of Marc Corsini (Father of 3 young children)
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Monday, July 6th Spec. Int. of Jack & Connie Howard (9963).
Tarri Fawal Ladies’ Evening of Reconciliation will be
Tuesday, July 7th Susan O’Donnell held at St. Peter the Apostle Church in the St.
Angie Rumore
Wednesday, July 8th Donors to OLS School Peter’s Chapel for Mass on Thursday, July
Foundation 16, at 6:00 p.m. followed by Holy Hour of
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Thursday, July 9th Spec. Int. of Terry & Charlotte Enjoy a prayerful personal encounter with
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Friday, July 10th Special Intention healing Sacrament of Confession, there will
Spec. Int. of Sue Burnham be a short led meditation with a personal
Saturday, July 11th John Pistone reflection questionnaire during the Holy Hour.
Patrick Robinson We will end the hour with Benediction at 7:45
Sunday, July 12th People of the
Parish p.m. A ladies’ fellowship time will follow with
Claude Dirgo dessert and beverages until 8:30 p.m.
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Anointing 2009
Fr. Muller and Fr. Booth have completed the
visits to our home bound and nursing home
parishioners. If we have missed anyone,
The High School please call the church office at 871-8121.
Youth Group is going to Six Flags on _______________________________________
Monday, August 3rd. The cost is $50.00
The new schedule for extraordinary
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ministers of Holy Communion, lectors and
altar servers is available via internet for those
Beginning Experience Ministry (formerly
who have provided their email address.
New Beginnings) is a support group for the
Those who do not have email have been
divorced, widowed and separated of this
sent a copy in the mail. If you serve in any of
community. BE is a levels program with 4
these ministries and do not have a copy of
levels running simultaneously each 10
the new schedule please contact the church
weeks. The next 10-week session begins on
office.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009, at 6:00 p.m. We
meet in the Family Life Center at OLS. The
cost is $25.00 for the 10 weeks. Financial
Italian American Heritage Society Meeting
assistance is available. Childcare is provided
will be held on Sunday, July 12, at 4:00 p.m.
at no cost. Beginning Experience is
at Heart of Dixie Harley Davidson, Pelham,
interdenominational and all are welcome.
“clubhouse behind dealership.” For more
For more information call Helen Bowers at
information please call 663-4823.
802-6216 or visit our website at
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Chapel of our Savior


The Chapel needs Permanent Committed
Adorers for:
Monday at 11:00 p.m. ( to share hour)
Friday at 11:00 a.m. (vacant)
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The document illustrates the integration of various ministries and services to meet diverse community needs by detailing activities that cater to different aspects of parish life. Programs include spiritual events like the Ladies’ Evening of Reconciliation, social support through the Beginning Experience Ministry, and recreational activities such as trips for the High School Youth Group. Additionally, community involvement is encouraged through scheduled roles for ministry participants. Together, these offerings show a comprehensive approach to addressing spiritual, social, and developmental needs within the parish, fostering a holistic environment encouraging involvement from all age groups .

The church's methods of addressing family inclusion alongside the desire for a reverent Mass atmosphere show a balanced approach by acknowledging children's importance to the church's future while also upholding reverence during services. Suggestions like utilizing cry rooms for disruptive children and implementing dress codes demonstrate an attempt to maintain an inclusive yet respectful environment. These methods seem effective in theory, as they integrate sensitivity to both young families' needs and the broader congregation's expectations . However, the success of these measures is contingent on parishioners' cooperation and understanding .

Children's involvement in church services is viewed as essential for the future of the parish. They are seen as the future leaders, and their presence is welcomed and supported, as they represent the continuity and growth of the church community . This perspective underscores the necessity of integrating young families into religious practices while balancing the need for a conducive worship environment for all parishioners .

The church schedule includes activities such as the Ladies’ Evening of Reconciliation, which provides a combination of Mass, Holy Hour of Adoration, and the Sacrament of Confession. This program allows parishioners to engage in a structured spiritual environment for personal reflection and community worship. The inclusion of a personal reflection questionnaire and meditation fosters individual spiritual growth, while the communal elements encourage shared devotion .

The Beginning Experience Ministry provides support to divorced, widowed, and separated individuals through a structured program with multiple levels that span ten weeks. The program is designed to offer help and community support, with financial assistance and childcare available to ensure accessibility. This ministry aims to offer consolation and a sense of community to those going through life transitions .

The issues addressed in the letters to Father Muller pertained to noise during Mass caused by disruptive children and inappropriate attire by parishioners. The complaints highlighted the difficulty in hearing the sermon due to crying babies and the distraction caused by scantily dressed individuals. To resolve these issues, it was suggested that parents take noisy children to the cry room or outside until they calm down, and reminders of an unwritten dress code were discussed to ensure respect for the sacred environment .

Special events like the Worldwide Marriage Encounter Weekend serve as opportunities for couples to enhance their relationships and deepen their spiritual connection within the church community. These events provide dedicated time for couples to reflect on their marriages, interact with other couples, and engage in activities aimed at fostering intimacy and understanding. By promoting strong family foundations, such events contribute to the overall health and cohesion of the parish .

To manage the need for committed participation in church activities, the church has implemented scheduling strategies, such as providing updated electronic or mailed schedules for Holy Communion ministers, lectors, and altar servers. The church is also actively seeking committed adorers for specific hours at the Chapel of our Savior to ensure continuous worship and facilitate community involvement . This structured approach aims to encourage regular participation by clearly communicating responsibilities and opportunities .

The church's initiative to organize a concert to raise funds for poor children in Ukraine and Honduras demonstrates a keen awareness and commitment to social responsibility. By utilizing music, a universal language, the church mobilizes its community, particularly youth, to contribute positively to global humanitarian efforts. This approach reflects the church's values of compassion and outreach, encouraging active participation in alleviating poverty and supporting global communities in need . Such efforts serve to underscore the church's role in advocating for social justice and charitable activities beyond its immediate locality .

Involving diverse community events such as the Italian American Heritage Society Meeting in church activities offers multiple social and cultural benefits. It promotes cultural awareness and appreciation among parishioners, leading to a more inclusive community environment. These activities can foster cross-cultural relationships and understanding, contributing to a richer communal life. Culturally focused events also provide congregants with a sense of belonging and identity within the broader church framework . This integration of cultural events with spiritual practices enriches the communal experience, promoting unity and diversity .

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