Worksheet
Understanding your behavior
Behavior is a form of communication. It tells others when we feel stressed or have an unmet need.
This worksheet can help you better understand your behavior, identify your unique stressors, and find more
helpful ways to respond and ask for help.
Describe a situation where you felt upset or frustrated recently. What happened?
How did you react in that moment? (e.g., yelling, socially withdrawing, acting impulsively or in a risky way)
What emotions were you feeling at the time? (e.g., anger, confusion, hurt)
What do you think triggered your reaction? (e.g., stress, fighting with my friends, feeling misunderstood
by my parents)
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Understanding your behavior
Exploring what’s underneath the behavior
What happened before the situation (e.g., were you hungry, tired, or stressed?)
What were you trying to communicate with your behavior?
For example:
• I wanted attention or support.
• I felt overwhelmed or frustrated.
• I needed space to think about the situation or process my feelings.
Are there outside factors that influenced your behavior?
(e.g., academic pressure, conflict with friends or family)
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Understanding your behavior
Helpful coping strategies
If you could go back, how might you respond differently?
Which strategies will you try next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed?
For example:
• Take a deep breath or count to 10 before responding.
• Express my feelings calmly using “I feel” statements.
• Ask for space to process my emotions.
Which strategies will you try next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed?
• Listening to music
• Going for a walk or exercising
• Talking to someone I trust
• Writing down my thoughts in a journal
• Talking to my family
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Understanding your behavior
Considering the bigger picture
Think about how your behavior may be affected by other factors in your life.
Are there any ongoing stressors (e.g., school, friendships, family)?
What support do you need from others to manage these stressors?
Who am I going to ask for help to get additional support?
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