Chapter-2
Self-Management Skills
Session 1: Introduction to Self-Management
Self-management involves understanding yourself, understanding what your interests and
abilities are, having a positive attitude and grooming yourself in order to develop self-
confidence.
Self-management can also help in:
developing good habits
overcoming bad habits
reaching your goals
overcoming challenges and difficulties
Self-management skills include the following:
Self-awareness – Knowing yourself as an individual – your values, likes, dislikes,
strengths and weaknesses.
Self-control – Ability to control your behaviour, discipline, etc.
Self-confidence – Believing in yourself that you can do any task that is given to you and
not scared of taking risks.
Self-motivation – Doing tasks on your own without any external motivation.
Positive thinking – Expressing certainty or affirmation even in tough situations.
Problem solving – Understanding a problem and finding a solution using step-by-step
method.
Team work – Working together with people to accomplish shared goals.
Time management – Achieving tasks on time and according the plan.
Goal setting – Planning concrete goals to be accomplished within a set timeframe.
Personal hygiene and grooming – Keeping oneself clean, healthy and smart.
Session 2: Strength and Weakness Analysis
Knowing yourself: To find strengths and weaknesses
Strengths and weaknesses help to analyze yourself, knowing about yourself, what makes you
happy, trying to find the area of improvement, what your opinions are, etc.
Strength and weakness analysis
Strength – Strengths are what we do well and are good at. Everyone has some strengths.
Weaknesses – Weaknesses, also known as ‘areas of improvement’ are what we do not
do well and are not good at. Everyone has some weaknesses too.
Identifying strengths –
Take time off to think about what you do well
Think of anything that you are always good at
Think about what others appreciate about you
Identifying weaknesses –
Point out the areas where you struggle and what you find difficult to do
Look at the feedback you receive from others
Be open to feedback and accept your weaknesses without feeling small about it. Look at it
as an area of improvement.
Difference between interests and abilities
Interest – Interests are the things that we enjoy doing. Interests may include:
Activities you want to learn or would like to do in the future.
Activities you like to do at school and in your free time that make you happy.
Activities you are curious about or would do even if no one asked you to do it.
Ability – Ability is an acquired or natural capacity that enables an individual to perform a
particular job or task with considerable proficiency.
Session 3: Self-Confidence
What do you mean by Self-Confidence?
Self-confidence is a sense of trusting own’s abilities and self. People who are confident believe
that they can do anything given to them in any situation.
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Examples of confidence and lack of confidence
Qualities of self-confident people
Self-belief – they have a belief in themselves, and they can achieve anything.
Hard Work – They are hard-working people to achieve their goal.
Positive Attitude – They have a positive attitude towards their goal.
Commitment – They are committed to achieving the goal in their life.
Given below are some factors that decrease self-confidence.
1. When we think we cannot do a particular work.
2. When we keep thinking of our past mistakes and feel bad about it, instead of learning
from them.
3. When we expect to be successful at the first attempt itself and do not try again.
When we are surrounded by people who have a negative attitude, which is reflected in their
speech.
Building self-confidence
The three steps to building self-confidence are as follows –
Session 4: Positive Thinking
What is Positive-Thinking?
Positive-thinking people have a positive attitude towards life and its challenges. A positive-thinking
person looks at the good in things and works towards improving them rather than worrying and/or
looking for the bad in things.
Positive thinking leads to good results for you like –
Overcoming challenges,
Making you do well or making you an energetic individual,
Helping you get better at work, and
Making you and people around you happy.
How to keep your thinking positive?
There are four simple steps to make a positive attitude in life. Let us understand this with the help of
the abbreviation ‘SMILE’.
S – Start your day in a positive way
M – Manage time to relax
I – Imagine the best in any situation
L – Learn to take feedback in a positive way
E – Express gratitude
Session 5: Personal Hygiene
It is the habit or practice of keeping ourselves clean. Cleanliness helps us to maintain our health and
well-being.
Personal hygiene is important because, it helps us
stay healthy.
create a good image of ourselves.
avoid feeling ashamed in public due to our bad breadth, body odour, etc.
Three steps to personal hygiene –
Session 6: Grooming
What is Grooming?
Grooming is the process of making yourself look neat, tidy and smart. Dressing and grooming are
important because they help us –
make a good impression of ourselves
look smart
feel confident about ourselves
Guidelines for dressing and grooming
Clothes should be clean, neat, and ironed
Shoes should be clean and polished
Change socks everyday and always wear clean socks
Hair should be washed regularly to keep clean
Simple hair styles and well combed hair gives a smart look
Face looks clean if you shave regularly
Moustache should be neatly trimmed