Self Management Skill
Self Management Skill
Self-management
Skills
INTRODUCTION
Self-management, also referred to as ‘self-control,’
is the ability to control one’s emotions, thoughts and
behaviour effectively in different situations. This also
includes motivating oneself, and setting goals. People
with strong self-management skills are better in doing
certain things better than others.
Therefore, employers too strongly prefer
people with good self-management skills.
Basics of Self-management
To perform well at work and life in
general, you must be able to manage
and improve yourself in various skills
including discipline and timeliness,
goal-setting, problem solving, teamwork,
professionalism, etc. Once you develop
your personality and abilities in these
areas,you will be able to succeed in
personal as well as professional life.
Figure 2.1 Self-management
Following are some of the skills you must master to
succeed in life:
Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather
What is Stress?
Stress Management
Stress is a part of everyday life. There are many
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Three Steps to Manage Stress
Look out for signs of stress, such as
Step 1: Be aware
headache, sleeplessness, sadness, excessive
that you are worrying, nervousness, etc. Only when we
stressed are aware, we can manage stress.
Management Techniques
Here are a few simple stress management techniques.
Time management: Proper time management
is one of the most effective stress-relieving
techniques.
Physical exercise and fresh air: A healthy lifestyle
is essential for students. Stress is generally lower
in people who maintain a healthy routine. Doing
yoga, meditation and deep breathing exercises
help in proper blood circulation and relaxes the
body. Even taking a walk or playing in the park
will help you get a lot of fresh oxygen, which will
help you become more active.
Healthy diet: Having a healthy diet will also help
you reduce stress. Eating a balanced diet, such
as Dal, Roti, vegetables and fruits will give you
Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and
manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions
of others. It is generally said to include at least
three skills:
Emotional awareness : the ability to identify and
name one’s own emotions.
Harnessing emotions : the ability to harness
and apply emotions to tasks like thinking and
problem solving.
Managing emotions : the ability to regulate one’s
own emotions when necessary and help others to
do the same.
Knowing how to manage one’s emotions is critical
for all of us. You can manage stress, keep your brain
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NOTES active and open minded, and easily overcome failures
if you can keep your emotions in check. Emotional
intelligence can also help you have better relations with
your friends and family.
Let us take an example. Ravi and his best friend,
Shiv, have been practising for the annual school dance
competition. They are both performing solo. On the
day of the competition, Shiv won. Ravi felt extremely
sad and dejected. He shouted at Shiv unnecessarily,
cried and also did not talk to his parents for 3–4 hours.
On the contrary, if Ravi would have been emotionally
intelligent, he would have accepted defeat gracefully,
and done better in the next competition.
Being emotionally intelligent enhances your chances
of success and a balanced life.
Some steps to manage emotional intelligence are as
given below.
Understand your emotions: Observe your
behaviour and note the things you need to work
on. You can then work on the things you need
to improve.
Rationalise: Do not take decisions abruptly; be
rational in your thinking.
Practise: Do meditation and yoga to keep
yourself calm.
Practical Excercise
The teacher will facilitate these activities by showing you the
e-learning module for this lesson via [Link]
Employability_Skills.html. The module will include videos and
e-content for the above topics as well as detailed instructions for
some activities below.
After watching the video ‘Have you faced this situation?’ in
the e-learning lesson, discuss what you have learnt from
the video. Do you think Priya was worried that she will
not meet her goal? What would you do differently in her
situation?
After watching the video ‘Managing Stress at Work’ in the
e-learning lesson, discuss the various stress management
techniques that were used in the video by Gaurav to
improve his situation.
Situation 2
You have to perform your best in the next cricket or badminton
match so you get a chance to play for your school at the national
level cricket or badminton tournament. You have been anxious
(worried or stressed). Will you lose your sleep worrying about it
Activity 2
Material required
Pen or pencil
Procedure
Complete the below table by listing the situation(s) that
can cause stress and what will you do to avoid stress in
such situations.
Use the stress management techniques shared in the
lesson to complete the exercise.
Stress Management
Stress Causing Situation(s)
Techniques
Activity 3
Material required
Pen or pencil
Procedure
Write an essay to describe the place and your experience
during a holiday trip or summer camp.
Highlight how the trip helped you de-stress.
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Check Your Progress
A. Subjective questions
Knowing Yourself
Understanding who you are, what
Beliefs you like or dislike, what are your
beliefs, what are your opinions,
Background what is your background, what
you do well and what you do not
do well is important because only
Who am I? Opinions then can you actually measure
your strengths and weaknesses
(see Figure 2.4).
Likes/dislikes
Strength and Weakness
Analysis
Values
Understanding who you are
Figure 2.4 Knowing Yourself means looking outside your usual
Examples of strengths
I am good at creative writing.
Examples of weaknesses
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Think about what others like in you.
Take out time and think about what you do well.
Finding Weaknesses
Point out the areas where you struggle and the
Activity 1
Pair Activity: Aim in Life
Material required
Pen, notepad or sheets of paper
Procedure
Form pairs of students.
Each student will make a list of things that they can do
well based on the given format.
Share your notes with your partner.
One volunteer from the pair comes and reads, in front of
the class.
I am
I can (abilities)
I will (plan)
My aim is
Activity 2
Individual Activity: Interests and Abilities Worksheet
Material required
Student textbooks, pen
Procedure
Each student has to complete the given worksheet,
containing a list of statements and questions.
I am happiest when
My idea of a perfect day
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Five things I really
enjoy doing
Three things I like to do
every day
I am most passionate about
Ideas or issues I care deeply
about
If I had the talent or ability,
I would
If I could choose any job, it
would be
The three activities that
I love to do?
How often do I do them?
What stops me from doing
the activities more often?
Types of Motivation
Internal Motivation: LOVE
We do things because they make us happy, healthy
and feel good. For example, when you perform on
your annual day function and you learn something
new, such as dancing, singing, etc., you feel good.
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Qualities of Self-motivated People
There are some typical behaviours seen in self-motivated
people which are as given below.
Building Self-motivation
There are four steps for building self-motivation, which
are as given below.
Stay loyal to
Develop a plan your goals
to achieve
your goals
Set and focus
on your goals Work towards
Find out your achieving your goal,
Plan and set timelines even when you are
strengths to achieve your goals,
Plan a list of activities For example, even
that you will do to though I did not clear
you want to achieve each goal. For
achieve and the Hotel Management
Identify your likes example, after schooling, entrance exam, I will
and dislikes. focus all your you may be required to
Understand what energy to achieve appear for a competitive
your goal. For become a chef.
makes you happy. examination to join Hotel
For example, I example, I want Management Institute.
love cooking. to be a chef.
Activity 1
Staying Motivated (Group Discussion)
Material required
Pen, notepad or sheets of paper, chart paper
Procedure
Form groups of three.
Choose any one of the following situation and write down
the steps you would take to motivate yourself.
Your teacher gives you feedback on the essay you had
written. There are a lot negative remarks. What will
you do to motivate yourself to improve the essay?
Your father has given you the responsibility of
arranging for a birthday party for your little sister who
is turning 3 years old. You do not want to do this task.
How will you motivate yourself to do the work?
Activity 2
Material required
Pen or pencil
Procedure
Make a list of reasons that stop you from being motivated.
Write down ways by which you will motivate yourself to
overcome them.
Reasons for not Ways to overcome
being motivated
For example: People For example: I will learn to speak English
make fun of the way correctly by attending classes after school.
I speak English.
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doing this?
English.”
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NOTES Not measurable goal: “I want to be rich.”
Measurable goal: “I want to have 5 times more
money than what I have today in my hand at the
end of this year.”
Achievable : Breaking down big goals into smaller
parts will make the goal achievable.
Bigger Goal: “I want to become a teacher in my
school.”
Breaking it into smaller goals:
Complete higher secondary
Complete Graduation
Complete [Link].
Practical Exercise
The teacher will facilitate these activities by showing you the
e-learning module for this lesson via [Link]
Employability_Skills.html. The module will include videos and
e-content for the above topics as well as detailed instructions for
some activities given ahead.
After watching the initial video ‘Introduction’ in the
e-learning lesson, discuss the in the class: Why did Amit
feel he was not prepared for the future?
After watching the video ‘Setting SMART Goals’ in the
e-learning lesson, discuss what you have learnt from
the video.
I want to
become
a teacher
after my
post-
graduation.
I want
to travel
to many
places.
Activity 2
Long-term Goals and Short-term Goals (Peer Feedback)
Material required
Pen, notepad or sheets of paper
Procedure
Form groups of four. Work individually in your group and
complete the below table. Once completed, share with
your group and seek feedback on your goals. Share your
feedback when other members of the groups are presenting
their goals.
Short-term Goals (What are Long-term Goals (What are
your goals in the next 6 your goals in the next 5
months to 2 years?) years?)
1. 1.
2. 2.
3. 3.
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NOTES Activity 3
Material required
Pen or pencil
Procedure
Complete the table below by writing how you will make
sure that the goals you set for yourself are SMART. Use the
tips shared in the lesson for doing this.
SMART Goals How will make sure the goals
are SMART
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Time-bound
Practical Exercise
The teacher will facilitate these activities by showing you the
e-learning module for this lesson via [Link]
Employability_Skills.html. The module will include videos and
e-content for the above topics as well as detailed instructions for
some activities given below.
After watching the video ‘ Time Management’ in the e-learning
lesson, discuss — What you have learnt from the video? Which
steps of time management were followed in the video?
Activity 2
Managing your time to reach school on time
Material required
Pen
Procedure
List out the to-do plan with timing to make sure you reach
school on time.
To-do List
1.
2.
3.
4.
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