PERSONAL GROWTH LAB
2021
IIIT, Sri City
Online Session 2 for UG 3 & 4
Goal Setting & Roles
Facilitated by
M F Jose, M Phil, Ph.D.
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What Are Goals?
• Something that you want to achieve in the future.
• Goals can get better at more things, aim to achieve more during
your life.
• Goals are the specific things, tasks or accomplishments you
complete to achieve your desires.
Why do we need Goals?
• Goals give you direction in all areas of your life – Personal,
Career, Spiritual, Material, and Contribution
• Goals give you a purpose in life. A reason to get up early in the
morning and go to bed late at night
• Goals will put drive and passion into your life
• Not having goals is similar to sailing a ship across the Atlantic
without a map. - Reach much faster than sailing though life
aimlessly
Perceived Weaknesses of Graduates
• Unrealistic expectations
• Poor communication skills
• No practical work experience
• Lack of initiative and workplace ethics
• Minimal understanding of the World of Work
• Inappropriate attitude
• Undesirable personal qualities
• Lack of career direction and goals
My Goals
1. What is that you want to be in life? Next 5 to 10 years
2. Why are they important
Types of Goals
• Long Term
• Ultimate goal - Become a Renown Researcher and Faculty member
• Intermediate
• Milestones leading to ultimate goal - Obtain a Ph.D.
• Short Term
• Smaller steps to be completed – Clear UGC, NET- JRF
Categories of Goals
• Career Goals
• Financial Goals
• Personal Development Goals
• Spiritual Goals
• Educational Goals
• Relationship Goals
• Physical and Health Goals
Why We don’t set Goals?
• A Pessimistic Attitude
• Fear of Failure
• Lack of Ambition
• Fear of Rejection
• Procrastination
• Low Self-Esteem
• Ignorance of Importance of Goals
Unrealistic Goals
• Setting unrealistic goals can • Unrealistic Goals (D.U.M.B.
lead to feelings of failure, Goals)
lowered self-image, and • Dateless
lowered self-esteem
• Unsupportive
• Unclear
• What makes goals
unrealistic? • Beyond reach
• Untimely
• Requiring unavailable
resources
• Too generally written
Getting Started
Where are you now? • Know Yourself
• Take a current inventory. • Strengths
• You will never know how far you • Weaknesses
have to go if you don’t know where • Likes
you already are. • Dislikes
• Passions
What obstacles do you need to • What makes you complete
overcome?
• Is there something that may make
it difficult to achieve your goal?
• Be aware of the obstacle so you
can make plans to overcome it.
Goal Setting Decide your Goal
Deal with Goal Conflict
Be honest with Your Needs
Have an Action Plan
Skills
Commitment is the Key
Monitor Progress
Step 1: Decide your goal
• Ask yourself these questions:
• What exactly do you want to accomplish?
• What achievement would be worth your very best effort?
• What would you attempt if you knew it was impossible to fail?
• What would you do for if you knew this was your very last
chance?
• What role does this relate to? (4 -7 major life roles)
Step 2: Work out your conflicts
• Goal conflict occurs when the pursuit of one goal undermines
the pursuit of another valued goal
• What may be development for one, may not be development for
other. – Social or Peer pressure
• Are you willing to do things you may not want to do in order to
reach your goal?
Step 3: Be honest about what you need to do
• Carefully examine where you are right now in terms of your
goal.
• To reach you goal, you need to know how to get there.
• Do the research
• Find a mentor
• What sort of situations do you thrive or deteriorate?
Step 4: Formulate an Action Plan
• Tailor your plan to YOU!!
• Do you need to work daily, weekly, bi- weekly on your task?
• WRITE THEM DOWN!
• What actions will you take?
Step 5: You must commit yourself (Discipline & Courage)
• It is easy to say you’re going to do something actually doing it is
another story.
• This is why goals need to be reachable and motivational!
• How can you BALANCE? Learning to say no to your self!
Step 6: Continually monitor your progress
• Is your goal plan actually working or does it need adjustment?
• Write down small successes and lessons learned along the
way.
• Make a checklist that maps your progress.
• Meet with your mentor or a guide
• Continue to clarify yourself about your ultimate goal.
Why Goals Fail
1. Unrealistic, not specific enough
2. Not written down.
3. Rewards for achieving the goals were not existing.
4. Not authentic or had low commitment
5. Goals kept changing or switching goals like weather
6. Did not seek help or support.
7. Not told to key people for added accountability,
8. Did not have timelines, resources or measurements.
SMART
Goal should be specific so that we
know exactly for what we are striving. 01 02
It should have concrete facts, be able SPECIFIC MEASURABLE
to answer very specifically, when and
how you will know you attained your
goal.
Declaring positive activity that will 05
produce results. 03
TANGIBLE
A goal must be challenging to yourself ACHIEVABLE
is an important part of goal setting.
You also need to be realistic.
04
Tangible meaning concrete and not
REALISTIC
vague
Intrinsic & Extrinsic Motivation
• Refers to motivation that • Refers to external incentives
comes from within an for a person to perform a
individual. given task.
• Examples • Examples
• Self-motivation • Money
• Commitment • Grades
• Resilience • Prizes
Research at Yale University
• Researchers asked members of the class of 1953 if they have
specific, written, long-term goals.
• Only 3% did.
• 20 years later, the researchers contacted the same graduates to
see what happened to them.
• The 3% with goals had lives that were measurable better that
the 97% without goals.
• The 3% who has set specific goals had accumulated more
personal wealth then the other 97% put together.
Life Roles - Introduction
• Life role is an activity to which we regularly devote lot of time
and energy.
• Each role defines a set of behaviours that are expected
• For example
Role Expected Behaviors Purpose
Student Get a degree
Parent Support family
Employee
Brother
Sister
Friend
Citizen
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Activity
1. List the life roles you play
currently
2. Identify the % of time you
spend in each role
3. Rank them based on time
you spend in each role.
Failure is, succeeding in things that do not matter 24
Stanford Prison Experiment
• Psychological effects of perceived power
• Prof. Zimbardo divided students as prisoners and prison officers
at Stanford University and studied how they behaved on the
roles.
• Results claimed that students quickly embraced their assigned
roles.
• Student guards enforcing authoritarian measures and ultimately
subjecting some student prisoners to psychological torture.
• While many prisoners passively accepted psychological abuse.
Balancing Life Roles
• Examine your different life roles,
reprioritize and rank them in alignment
to your goals.
• Then make adjustments to have a
preferred percentage of time you would
like to invest in the chosen life role
aligned with your goals
Success is achieved when you truly focus
on roles that really matter.
Steps to Restoring
• What area of my life is the most imbalanced?
• What specific change would restore balance in this area?
• What specific action can I take to create this change in my
goals?
• What will I stop doing?
• What will I start doing?
THANK YOU
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