Module 7:
Personal Relationships
Prepared
by:
CHRISTIAN ERIC B.
BULOHABO
Instructor
Each one of us have people closest to us. Whether they are family, friends,
teachers, mentors, or partners. They have influenced us in ways even we are not
aware of.
Activity: “Healthy, Unhealthy, or
Depends?”
Objective
To evaluate relationship behaviors using critical thinking and clear reasoning.
When your name is called, you must:
[Link] the situation as:
⚬ Healthy
⚬ Unhealthy
⚬ Depends
[Link] your answer in at least 2–3 clear sentences.
If you say “Depends,” you must explain:
• What makes it healthy?
• What makes it unhealthy?
You cannot answer with just one word. You must justify your reasoning.
1. Scenario:
Your partner asks for your phone password. They say, “If you have
nothing to hide, you shouldn’t have a problem.”
1. Scenario:
Your best friend gets upset every time you hang out with other
friends and says, “I guess I’m not important to you anymore.”
1. Scenario:
Your partner wants to spend all their free time with you and feels hurt
when you choose family or schoolwork.
1. Scenario:
Your friend tells you that your behavior is hurting others, even though
it might upset you.
1. Scenario:
Your friends joke about your insecurities. When you say it hurts, they
respond, “You’re too sensitive.”
“Who influenced your idea of love?”
Personal Relationship
• It is a kind of relationship formed by friends, family, and people who
are romantically involved together.
it is a relation a strong affection for
between people a relationships another arising out of
formed by between people, kinship or personalities.
Love can be shared
emotional especially those
between people even
connection between friends,
though they are not
lovers, and family romantically involved
members. together.
the act of binding yourself to a course of
action.
a relationship formed out of romantic
love. There is a strong emotional
connection, love, intimacy, passion, and
commitment.
The Process of Attraction
A. Similarities - Which is true: “opposites attract” or birds of the same
feather flock together”? People who are similar in many ways foster
attraction with each other. This also leads to positive feelings towards
the same person because he/she thinks that he/she will be evaluated
positively.
The Process of Attraction
B. Proximity - This the best predictor of liking and loving. When people
are geographically near each other, they anticipate interaction, and this
led to the likelihood of repeated exposure.
The Process of Attraction
C. Mere Exposure - or the repeated exposure to an object or person will
more likely lead to positive feelings. You are more likely to be friends
with her/his seatmate than the person in the other classroom.
The Process of Attraction
D. Physical Attraction - Often, at the initial stage of getting-to-know-
each-other, being physically attracted to the person significantly
influences the course of the relationships.
Essential Elements in a Romantic Relationship
Adolescent stage is the stage of romantic exploration. You are beginning
to form relationships out of romantic love. This is of course normal part
of your development. It can help you develop your interpersonal skill
and establish a sense of identity. However, romantic relationship can
also cause harm to you if you are not careful. The following are the
things you must keep in forging a healthy relationship
It takes a lot of work as you manage your differences even if you think you
are so alike in many ways. It is not all fun and laughter. It includes serious
works such as balancing your time, planning your life, and making
priorities for the future. Howe well can you handle disagreements,
frustrations, and conflicts? Maturity is the ability to face what comes to
you and handle it in a way that lets both of you grow.
Relationships require attention and work. Do you have enough time to
give? Are you ready to face its demands? How long and far would you go
for the relationship?
most relationships fell out because of miscommunication. We are
not capable of reading other people’s minds, their feelings and
thoughts. Being able to express your feelings, ideas, wants, and
desires are crucial for achieving an understanding of each other.
For two unique individuals in a relationship, accepting differences and
understanding each other’s flaws are important. To change your partner to
be the person you want him or her to be is not fair thing to do. You will
have to learn to let the person be that person he/she is. Respect his/her
individuality.
HEALTHY EXPRESSION OF LOVE
A. Respect each other - You should not do things that would hurt or
downplay the other’s feelings, values, and dignity. Most importantly, you
must respect each other’s boundaries.
B. Exercise give and take in the relationship - it cannot always be your way, or
the other cannot have his/her way all the time. You need to know how to
compromise. It will be hard to keep a relationship when a power struggle exists.
C. Give each other space to grow - one importance of relationships is it offers
you opportunity to grow. It is counterproductive to put so many limitations upon
each other, like choosing the friends he/she will go out with, or what activities
he/she is allowed to do.
There are also “warning signs” when a relationship is no longer
healthy
• Too many limitations that affect your growth
• Abuse in any form. It includes physical abuse (example is hurting,
hitting, etc.) and emotional abuse (berating, belittling,
embarrassing, or any form of verbal abuse that could lower one’s
self-esteem)
• Conditional love. Example: “I love you if you…” “I will do this if
you will…” Love should not have conditions.
• Forcing the other into doing sexual activities without his/her
consent.