MODULE 9
PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS
What do we mean by
personal relationships?
What do we mean by personal
relationships?
Personal relationships refer to
close connections between
people, formed by emotional
bonds and interactions.
3 Kinds of Personal Relationships
1. Family
The Bureau of the Census defines family as
“two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together
as one household.”
3 Kinds of Personal Relationships
2. Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie
between two people that is often built upon
mutual experiences, shared interests,
proximity, and emotional bonding.
3 Kinds of Personal Relationships
3. Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are
close relationships formed between two
people that are built upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic love.
A Research Study on Relationships
A study of 1110 adolescents examined their relationships with their
mother, father, best same-sex friend, sibling, and teacher across nine
aspects: admiration, affection, companionship, conflict, instrumental
aid, intimacy, nurturance, reliable alliance, and satisfaction.
Early adolescents (ages 11-13) rated their relationships more positively
than middle (14-16) and late adolescents (17-19) on most attributes.
Middle adolescents also rated relationships higher than late
adolescents.
Why personal relationships
are important?
Why personal relationships are
important?
Healthy relationships are a vital
component of health and well-
being. There is compelling
evidence that strong relationships
contribute to a long, healthy, and
happy life.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
Live longer
A review of 148 studies
found that people with
strong social relationships
are 50% less likely to die
prematurely.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
Deal with stress
The support offered by a
caring friend can provide a
buffer against the effects of
stress.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
Be healthier
According to research by
psychologist Sheldon Cohen,
college students who reported
having strong relationships were
half as likely to catch a common
cold when exposed to the virus.
Research shows that healthy relationships can help you:
Feel richer
A survey by the National Bureau
of Economic Research of 5,000
people found that doubling your
group of friends has the same
effect on your well-being as a
50% increase in income.
On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number
of health consequences, such as:
Depression
Loneliness has long been commonly
associated with depression.
On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number
of health consequences, such as:
Decreased immune function
Lack of social connections can
increase your chance of becoming
sick.
On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number
of health consequences, such as:
Higher blood pressure
Lonliness could predict higher
blood pressure even years later,
indicating that the effects of
isolation have long-lasting
consequences.
25 Most Common Relationship Problems
1. Affairs/Infidelity/Cheating
2. Sexual Issues
3. Significant differences in
Core Values and Beliefs
4. Life Stages
5. Traumatic and/or Life-
Changing Events
25 Most Common Relationship Problems
6. Responses to Prolonged Period
of Stress
7. Bored in or with your
Relationship
8. Dealing with a Jealous Partner
9. ‘Blended’ Family Issues
10. Domestic Violence
25 Most Common Relationship Problems
11. Should not have got married in
the first place.
12. Lack of Responsibility
13. Unrealistic Expectations
14. Addictions
15. Excessive Reliance on Social
Media
25 Most Common Relationship Problems
16. Lack of Support
17. Manipulation
18. Lack of Communication
19. Poor division of and/or one-
sided lack of responsibility for
chores and tasks.
20. Perceived lack of concern, care
and consideration/attentiveness
25 Most Common Relationship Problems
21. Personal Disappointments
22. Long-term depression or mental
health issues.
23. Differences in opinion on how to
deal with the children.
24. Long-term Stress
25. Unsupportive partner during
pregnancy.
Nurture your Relationships
Connect with your
family
Connecting with family by
little grievances go, spending
time together, and expressing
love and compassion to one
another.
Nurture your Relationships
Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most
accessible positive emotions,
and its effects can
strengthen friendships and
intimate relationships.
Nurture your Relationships
Learn to forgive
Choosing to forgive can bring
about a variety of benefits,
both physical and emotional.
Nurture your Relationships
Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness
to be open to yourself and
others, even in painful times,
with a gentle, nonjudgmental
attitude.
Nurture your Relationships
Accept others
It is also important to be
accepting of the other person
in the relationship.
Nurture your Relationships
Create rituals together
Create a standing ritual that
you can share and that
doesn’t create more stress-
talking on the Telephone.
Nurture your Relationships
Spend the right amount
of time together
Knowing when to give your
time to others and when to take
some time for yourself can be
crucial in maintaining balance,
healthy relationships, as well as
emotional well-being.
Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating
Long-lasting Authentic Relationships
1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF
FIRST
2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE
MUST NURTURE THE
RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO
THRIVE
3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
4. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE
OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW
5. COMMUNICATION IS
ESSENTIAL
Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating
Long-lasting Authentic Relationships
6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE
REQUIRED
7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE
CHALLENGED BY CHANCE
8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE
RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO
THRIVE
9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO
LONGEVITY
10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE
MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
Keeping Healthy Relationships
In a healthy relationship, both
partners:
Are treated with kindness and
respect
Are honest with each other
Like to spend time together
Keeping Healthy Relationships
Take an interest in things that are
important to each other
Respect one another’s emotional,
physical and sexual limits
Can speak honestly about their
feelings
Keeping Healthy Relationships
Love should never hurt
About 10% of high school students
say they have suffered violence
from someone they date.
This includes physical abuse
where someone caused physical
pain or injury to another person.
Keeping Healthy Relationships
Love should never hurt
Sexual abuse is also type of violence,
and involves any kind of unwanted
sexual advance.
Emotional abuse is anything that
harms your self-esteem or causes
shame.
Keeping Healthy Relationships
Love should never hurt
REMEMBER:
You deserve healthy,
happy relationships. Abuse
of any type is never okay.
Thank You