Parenting
Parenting
Presenter Moderator
Ms Ishita Srivastava Gursabeen Kaur
Mphil 2nd Year Assistant Professor
Introduction
Diana Baumrind proposed that parenting styles can be understood along two key dimensions:
Demandingness
Responsiveness
(Control)
(Warmth)
the degree to which
the degree of emotional
parents set rules,
support, affection, and
expectations, and enforce
acceptance shown to the
discipline.
child.
Ellen Galinsky
proposed that
Image Making Stage Nurturing Stage Authority Stage
Before Birth - Birth - 18 Months 18 Months - 5 years
parenting develops in
Pregnancy
qualitatively different
by psychological tasks,
Interpretive Stage Interdependent Stage Departure Stage
parental goals, and 6 years - 12 years Adolescence Late Adolescence/
Young Adulthood
changing parent–child
Diener, M. L., & Lang, D. (2020b, May 18). 1980s: Galinsky. Parenting and
relationships. Family Diversity Issues.
[Link]
Helicopter Parenting
This style often comes from love and concern, but it can unintentionally
Bradley-Geist JC, Olson-Buchanan JB. Helicopter parents: An examination of the correlates of over-parenting of college students. Education+Training- 2014;56:314–28.
Positive Parenting
Individual Psychology
(Adlerian Theory) Self-Determination Theory
Core belief: Attachment Theory – John Bowlby Edward Deci and Richard Ryan
Children misbehave Secure attachment promotes:
when they feel
Children thrive when three
Emotional regulation
disconnected or psychological needs are met:
Confidence
insignificant
Trust Autonomy
Positive parenting strengthens Competence Arslan, G. Positive Parenting, Prosocial Behavior, Meaning in
Life, and Subjective Well-being in Adolescents: a Parallel and
secure attachment Relatedness Serial Mediation Analysis. Child Ind Res 17, 1547–1561 (2024).
[Link]
Digital-Age Parenting Models
Core Concepts:
Psychological Challenges:
Dopamine-driven apps
Cyberbullying
Parenting for the digital age: The truth behind media’s effect on children and what
to do about it: Ratner, Bill: 9781939629050: [Link]: Books. (n.d.-b).
[Link]
Reasons for
Parenting
Problems
Technology & Screen Exposure
This is one of the biggest modern challenges.
Information Overload
Parents struggle with:
Today’s parents are exposed to:
Mobile addiction
Social media advice
Gaming
Parenting blogs
Social media influence
Influencers
Online safety
Contradictory expert opinions
Reduced attention span
This leads to:
Children today grow up in a digital world
Confusion
parents never experienced themselves.
Overthinking
This creates:
Anxiety about making mistakes
Control battles
Guilt
Confusion about limits
Christian, B. J. (2023). Translational Research – Universal Parenting Challenges and coping with change. Journal of Pediatric Nursing, 69, 123–126. [Link]
Breakdown of Joint Family Support
Traditionally (especially in India):
Working Parents & Time Guilt
Grandparents guided parenting
Modern families often have:
Shared responsibility
Dual-income households
Cultural knowledge transfer
Long work hours
Now:
Limited quality time
Nuclear families
Parents feel:
Parents raising children alone
Guilty for not being available
Less emotional and practical support
Compensate with over-permissiveness
Result:
Use screens as a “babysitter”
Increased parental stress
This creates inconsistency in discipline.
Lack of guidance
Isolation in decision-making
Christian, B. J. (2023). Translational Research – Universal Parenting Challenges and coping with change. Journal of Pediatric Nursing, 69, 123–126. [Link]
Common
Mistakes
in
Parenting
Overuse of Screens in Children
Depression
Screen time and sleep among school-aged children and adolescents: a systematic literature
review. Hale L, Guan S. [Link] Sleep Med Rev. 2015;21:50–58.
doi: 10.1016/[Link].2014.07.007.
Role of In-Laws in Parenting
Common Areas of
Positive Role
Conflict
Emotional and practical support Discipline methods
(strict vs permissive)
Sharing childcare
Feeding practices
Challenging Role
responsibilities Screen use
Over-involvement in decision- Sleep routines
Transmission of cultural values
Education and academic
making
Support during parental illness pressure
Undermining parental authority Gender role
or work stress
expectations
Conflicting parenting beliefs
Comparison with other
Gendered expectations (especially children
for mothers) Xu, X., Xiao, B., Zhu, L., & Li, Y. (2022). The influence of parent-grandparent co-
parenting on children’s problem behaviors and its potential mechanisms. Early
Education and Development, 34(4), 791–805.
[Link]
Impact
Xu, X., Xiao, B., Zhu, L., & Li, Y. (2022). The influence of parent-grandparent co-
parenting on children’s problem behaviors and its potential mechanisms.
Early Education and Development, 34(4), 791–805.
[Link]
Excessive Academic Pressure
Teaching positive
reinforcement
comparison patterns
Liu, H., Kvintova, J., & Vachova, L. (2025). Parents’ social comparisons and adolescent self-esteem: The mediating effect of upward social
comparison and the moderating influence of optimism. Frontiers in Psychology, 16. [Link]
Emotional Invalidation
Emotional Invalidation
“Stop crying,” “It’s nothing,” “Be strong”
Minimizing emotional experiences
Psychological impact
Emotional suppression Intervention
Poor emotion regulation
Emotion-coaching training for
Difficulty expressing feelings later in life
parents
Attachment-based interventions
empathy
Adams-Clark, A. A., Lee, A. H., Everett, Y., Zarosinski, A., Martin, C. G., & Zalewski, M. (2022). Direct and indirect associations among mothers’ invalidating childhood environment,
emotion regulation difficulties, and parental apology. Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, 9(1). [Link]
Overprotection and Dependency
Psychological impact
Low confidence Intervention
Anxiety
Gradual autonomy-building
Poor problem-solving skills
plans
appropriate independence
Arslan, İ. B., Lucassen, N., Keijsers, L., & Stevens, G. W. (2023). When too much help is of no help: Mothers’ and fathers’ perceived overprotective behavior and (mal)adaptive functioning in
adolescents. Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 52(5), 1010–1023. [Link]
Gender Bias in Parenting
Family counseling
autonomy
Sindhura, B. K. S., & J, G. K. (2025). Parenting and gender socialization in children: A scoping review. Asian Research Journal o
Arts & Social Sciences, 23(4), 199–217. [Link]
Authoritarian and Harsh Discipline
Zhang, L., Wang, R., & Chen, L. (2024). The impact of harsh parental discipline and emotional
warmth on adolescent problem behaviors. Psychology Research and Behavior Management,
Volume 17, 2309–2319. [Link]
Single Parents
What is Single Parenting?
Single parenting refers to a family system where one parent takes primary
responsibility for raising a child. This may occur due to divorce, separation, death
of a partner, adoption by a single individual, or a conscious choice to parent
alone.
Divorce or
Widowhood
Separation
Jackson, A. P., Preston, K. S., & Franke, T. M. (2010). Single parenting and child behavior problems in kindergarten. Race and Social Problems, 2(1), 50–58. [Link]
Role Overload Emotional Strain
A single parent often has to manage multiple roles Single parents may experience:
simultaneously: Loneliness
Financial provider Guilt about not providing a “complete family”
Emotional caregiver Anxiety about the child’s future
Decision maker Social pressure or judgment
Disciplinarian When emotional stress is high, it can affect parenting
This can lead to chronic stress, fatigue, and burnout. patience and responsiveness.
Jackson, A. P., Preston, K. S., & Franke, T. M. (2010). Single parenting and child behavior problems in kindergarten. Race and Social Problems, 2(1), 50–58. [Link]
Clinical Intervention
Stress
management and Parenting Helping parents
emotional Skills Training manage guilt and
support for the burnout
parent
Supporting
Strengthening
children in
Social Support
processing loss or
Networks
absence of a
parent
Jackson, A. P., Preston, K. S., & Franke, T. M. (2010). Single parenting and child behavior problems in kindergarten. Race and Social Problems, 2(1), 50–58. [Link]
Adoption
What is Adoption?
Adoption is a legal, social, and psychological process through which a child who is not born to a couple
or individual becomes their permanent and lawful child. Once adopted, the child gains the same rights as
a biological child, including family name, inheritance, care, and emotional belonging.
Psychologically, adoption is not just a legal act, it is the formation of a new parent-child relationship. It
involves adjustment for both the child and the parents, development of attachment, and integration
into a new family identity.
In India, adoption is governed by different laws depending on religion and legal framework, and it is
recognized as a permanent responsibility, not temporary care.
Pace, C. S., Di Folco, S., Guerriero, V., Santona, A., & Terrone, G. (2015). Adoptive parenting and Attachment: Association of the internal working models between adoptive mothers and their late-
adopted children during adolescence. Frontiers in Psychology, 6. [Link]
Pre-Adoption Interventions (Before the Child Early Placement Interventions (First
Comes Home)
This stage is preventive and preparatory. The Months/Years After Adoption)
aim is to make sure parents are psychologically This is a sensitive bonding period where
ready and realistic about adoption.
attachment is forming.
Motivation for adoption (infertility, loss,
desire to parent, social reasons) Attachment-Based Interventions
Emotional readiness The primary goal is to help the child feel
Marital stability
safe and connected.
Expectations about bonding
Attitudes toward non-biological parenting Psychologists may guide parents in:
This helps identify risks such as:
Increasing physical and emotional
Unresolved grief from infertility
Unrealistic expectations of instant closeness
attachment Responding sensitively to distress
Fear of rejection by the child
Maintaining routines
Psychoeducation
Attachment development Using consistent caregiving
Trauma-informed parenting For children who have experienced
Adjustment difficulties
Developmental needs of adopted children neglect or institutional care, attachment
Importance of openness about adoption formation may be slow. Intervention
supports trust-building.
Pace, C. S., Di Folco, S., Guerriero, V., Santona, A., & Terrone, G. (2015). Adoptive parenting and Attachment: Association of the internal working models between adoptive mothers and their late-adopted children during adolescence. Frontiers in Psychology, 6.
[Link]
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Used for:
Anxiety
Fear of abandonment
Low self-esteem Play Therapy (For Younger Children)
Negative beliefs like: Children often cannot verbalize
“I was left because I am not complex feelings.
lovable” Through play, psychologists help them
“People will leave me again” express:
Confusion
Anger
Loss
Trauma-Focused Therapy Fear
For children with early trauma This supports emotional processing
histories, therapy may focus on: and attachment.
Emotional regulation
Processing painful memories
Reducing hypervigilance
Building trust in caregivers
Pace, C. S., Di Folco, S., Guerriero, V., Santona, A., & Terrone, G. (2015). Adoptive parenting and Attachment: Association of the internal working models between adoptive mothers and their late-adopted children during adolescence. Frontiers in Psychology, 6. [Link]
Narrative Therapy Counseling for Parental Stress
Adolescence is a critical stage in adoption Parents may struggle with:
psychology. Slow bonding
Teenagers often begin to think deeply about: Behavioral challenges
Who they are Social questions from others
Where they came from Feelings of inadequacy
Why they were given up Therapy helps them:
They may experience: Build confidence
Curiosity about biological parents Understand trauma responses
Confusion about belonging Improve parenting strategies
Anger or sadness
Identity struggles
Helps adolescents: Infertility Grief Counseling
Make sense of their life story If adoption followed infertility,
Integrate adoption into identity unresolved grief may affect bonding.
Reduce feelings of rejection Parents may unconsciously compare:
They learn to see adoption as part of their The imagined biological child
story, not their entire identity. The adopted child
Addressing grief helps parents
emotionally accept and connect fully.
Pace, C. S., Di Folco, S., Guerriero, V., Santona, A., & Terrone, G. (2015). Adoptive parenting and Attachment: Association of the internal working models between adoptive mothers and their late-adopted children during adolescence. Frontiers in Psychology, 6. [Link]
Divorce /
Separation
Divorce
Divorce is the legal termination of a marriage by a court or legal authority. After divorce:
The marital relationship officially ends.
Both individuals are free to remarry.
Legal matters like child custody, financial support, and property division are formally settled.
Parenting usually continues through custody or co-parenting arrangements.
Mutual Consent Divorce Contested Divorce
Both husband and wife agree to end the When one partner wants a divorce but the
marriage peacefully. other does not agree, or when there are
disputes.
Both partners jointly file for divorce.
Common legal grounds include:
Agreement on child custody,
Cruelty (emotional or physical)
maintenance, and property division is Adultery
made beforehand. Desertion
Generally faster and less emotionally Domestic violence
Mental illness
stressful.
Conversion of religion
Requires a minimum period of separation
Communicable diseases (in older legal
(usually 1 year under most laws). frameworks)
Amato, P. R., & Booth, A. (2001). The legacy of parents’ marital discord: Consequences for children’s marital quality. J. Pers. Soc. Psychol., 81, 627–38.
Separation
Separation means the couple stops living together as partners, but they are still legally married.
This is a legal arrangement This is when couples decide on This is when one partner
granted by the court. their own to live apart without leaves the other without
Key features: legal involvement. consent and without intention
Husband and wife live apart Key features: to return.
but remain legally married. No court process. Key features:
They are not allowed to Often used to take space Considered a ground for
remarry. and reconsider the divorce if it continues for a
It gives time to reflect or relationship. legally specified period
attempt reconciliation. May result in reconciliation (usually 2 years).
Can later lead to divorce if or divorce. No mutual agreement
issues are not resolved. involved.
Amato, P. R., & Booth, A. (2001). The legacy of parents’ marital discord: Consequences for children’s marital quality. J. Pers. Soc. Psychol., 81, 627–38.
Indian Cultual Context
Children do not react to divorce in the same way. Their response depends heavily on their
developmental stage, cognitive maturity, and emotional dependence on parents.
Amato, P. R., & Cheadle, J. (2005). The long reach of divorce: Divorce and child well- being across three generations. J. Marr. Fam., 67(1), 191–206.
How Different Age Groups Respond to Divorce
Amato, P. R., & Cheadle, J. (2005). The long reach of divorce: Divorce and child well- being across three generations. J. Marr. Fam., 67(1), 191–206.
Co-Parenting
Models
What is Co-Parenting?
Co-parenting refers to how two adults coordinate in raising a child after separation or divorce. It is different
from the romantic relationship. Even if the marital relationship ends, the parenting relationship continues.
From a family systems perspective, co-parenting is a subsystem within the family that directly shapes:
Research consistently shows that the quality of co-parenting predicts child adjustment more strongly than
the divorce itself.
Feinberg, M. E. (2002). Coparenting and the transition to parenthood: A framework for prevention. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 5(3), 173–195. [Link]
Cooperative (Collaborative) Co-Parenting Parallel Parenting
Child feels free to love both parents Limited emotional interaction between parents
Feinberg, M. E. (2002). Coparenting and the transition to parenthood: A framework for prevention. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 5(3), 173–195. [Link]
High-Conflict Co-Parenting Disengaged (Detached) Co-Parenting
Feinberg, M. E. (2002). Coparenting and the transition to parenthood: A framework for prevention. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 5(3), 173–195. [Link]
Clinical Interventions
Communication Psychoeducation
Skills Training Helping parents
Using neutral understand how
language, structured conflict harms the
discussion formats. child neurologically
and emotionally.
Feinberg, M. E. (2002). Coparenting and the transition to parenthood: A framework for prevention. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 5(3), 173–195. [Link]
References
Diener, M. L., & Lang, D. (2020b, May 18). 1980s: Galinsky. Parenting and Family Diversity Issues.
[Link]
Feinberg, M. E. (2002). Coparenting and the transition to parenthood: A framework for prevention. Clinical Child and Family
Psychology Review, 5(3), 173–195. [Link]
Zhang, L., Wang, R., & Chen, L. (2024). The impact of harsh parental discipline and emotional warmth on adolescent problem
behaviors. Psychology Research and Behavior Management, Volume 17, 2309–2319. [Link]
Amato, P. R., & Cheadle, J. (2005). The long reach of divorce: Divorce and child well- being across three generations. J.
Marr. Fam., 67(1), 191–206.
Pace, C. S., Di Folco, S., Guerriero, V., Santona, A., & Terrone, G. (2015). Adoptive parenting and Attachment: Association of the
internal working models between adoptive mothers and their late-adopted children during adolescence. Frontiers in
Psychology, 6. [Link]
Jackson, A. P., Preston, K. S., & Franke, T. M. (2010). Single parenting and child behavior problems in kindergarten. Race and
Social Problems, 2(1), 50–58. [Link]
Bradley-Geist JC, Olson-Buchanan JB. Helicopter parents: An examination of the correlates of over-parenting of college students.
Education+Training- 2014;56:314–28.
Parenting for the digital age: The truth behind media’s effect on children and what to do about it: Ratner, Bill: 9781939629050:
[Link]: Books. (n.d.-b). [Link]
Screen time and sleep among school-aged children and adolescents: a systematic literature review. Hale L, Guan
S. [Link] Sleep Med Rev. 2015;21:50–58. doi: 10.1016/[Link].2014.07.007.
Xu, X., Xiao, B., Zhu, L., & Li, Y. (2022). The influence of parent-grandparent co-parenting on children’s problem behaviors
and its potential mechanisms. Early Education and Development, 34(4), 791–805.
[Link]
Arslan, G. Positive Parenting, Prosocial Behavior, Meaning in Life, and Subjective Well-being in Adolescents: a Parallel and Serial
Mediation Analysis. Child Ind Res 17, 1547–1561 (2024). [Link]
Christian, B. J. (2023). Translational Research – Universal Parenting Challenges and coping with change. Journal of Pediatric Nursing,
69, 123–126. [Link]
Screen time and sleep among school-aged children and adolescents: a systematic literature review. Hale L, Guan S.
[Link] Sleep Med Rev. 2015;21:50–58. doi: 10.1016/[Link].2014.07.007.
Deng, Y., Cherian, J., Khan, N. U., Kumari, K., Sial, M. S., Comite, U., Gavurova, B., & Popp, J. (2022). Family and academic stress and
their impact on students’ depression level and academic performance. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 13.
[Link]
Zhang, L., Wang, R., & Chen, L. (2024). The impact of harsh parental discipline and emotional warmth on adolescent problem
behaviors. Psychology Research and Behavior Management, Volume 17, 2309–2319. [Link]
Sindhura, B. K. S., & J, G. K. (2025). Parenting and gender socialization in children: A scoping review. Asian Research Journal of Arts
& Social Sciences, 23(4), 199–217. [Link]
Arslan, İ. B., Lucassen, N., Keijsers, L., & Stevens, G. W. (2023). When too much help is of no help: Mothers’ and fathers’ perceived
overprotective behavior and (mal)adaptive functioning in adolescents. Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 52(5), 1010–1023.
[Link]
Liu, H., Kvintova, J., & Vachova, L. (2025). Parents’ social comparisons and adolescent self-esteem: The mediating
effect of upward social comparison and the moderating influence of optimism. Frontiers in Psychology, 16.
[Link]
Adams-Clark, A. A., Lee, A. H., Everett, Y., Zarosinski, A., Martin, C. G., & Zalewski, M. (2022). Direct and indirect associations
among mothers’ invalidating childhood environment, emotion regulation difficulties, and parental apology. Borderline
Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, 9(1). [Link]
Thank You!