Connecting with

Your Parts
IFS questions to connect,
befriend, & heal your Parts.

Valentina Manini
Meet, understand, and embrace
the diverse Parts within you,
while re-connecting to your
authentic Self.
IFS therapy gently guides you to the root cause of
anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship
challenges. Its nurturing and compassionate
nature guides you towards profound shifts,
healing, and empowerment in your personal
healing journey.

Valentina Manini
 Questions to
Foster Connection with the Self

Establishing Presence and Trust

1. Can you feel my presence as I feel you?

2. Is there anything you need from me right now?

3. How can I best support you in this moment?

4. Can I hold space for you as you share your feelings?

5. Would you like to share anything with me?

Deepening the Connection

6. What can I do to help you feel more comfortable and safe?

7. How can I honor your presence in my system?

8. Can you show me how you experience the world?

9 . W h a t d o y o u n e e d f r o m m e t o f e e l h e a r d a n d u n d e rs t o o d ?

10. Is there a way I can truly witness your concerns?

Nurturing Compassion and Understanding

11. How do you feel about me being there with you?

12. What positive intentions do you have for me?

13. Do you know who I am?

14. How much trust do you feel towards me?

15. Is there anything else you’d like to share with me today?

Valentina Manini
 Questions to
Get to Know Your Protective Parts

1 . W h a t i s y o u r r o l e i n m y s y s te m ?

2. How long have you been doing this role?

3. What are you protecting me from?

4. How do you try to protect me?

5 . W h a t w o u l d h a p p e n i f y o u d i d n ’ t d o y o u r jo b ?

6. What do you most want for me?

7. How do you feel towards other parts of me?

8 . W h e n d i d y o u s t a r t d o i n g t h i s jo b ? W o u l d y o u l i k e t o s ho e

me?

9. What do you need from me in order to feel more at ease?

10. Are you tired or burdened by your role?

11. How old do you think I am?

12. Is there anything you want me to know about you that I

haven’t asked yet?

13. Do you know who I am? Do you trust me?

14. What would it look like for you to relax or step back?

15. How can I work with you in a way that honors your role

while allowing more balance in my system?

16. What was going on when you started protecting me?

1 7 . I f y o u d i d n ’ t h a v e t o w o r k t h i s h a r d , w h a t e l s e w o u l d f ee l

natural and right for you to do?

Valentina Manini
 Questions to
Connect and Be with Firefighter Parts

Connecting with the Firefighter Part

1. Is it okay if I get to know you a little bit better?

2 . H o w d o y o u f e e l a b o u t m e b e i n g h e r e w i t h y o u r i g h t n ow ?

3. What do you need to feel safe enough to talk to me?

4. Can you show me how you prefer to communicate?

5 . I s t h e r e a w a y I c a n m a k e th i s s p a c e m o r e c o m f o r t a b l e f o r y o u ?

6 . W h a t d o y o u w a n t m e t o s e e a n d f e e l a b o u t w h y y o u ’ r e h e re ?

7. What are you protecting me from when you take over?

8 . H o w d o y o u f e e l w h e n I t r y to r e a c h o u t t o y o u ?

Exploring the Firefighter Part's Role

9 . W h a t h a p p e n s i n m y s y s t e m o r i n m y l i f e w h e n y o u ta k e c o n t ro l ?

1 0 . D o y o u f e e l m i s u n d e r s t o o d o r ju d g e d b y o t h e r p a r t s o f m e ?

11. How do you decide when to step in and take action?

1 2 . A r e t h e r e t i m e s w h e n y o u w i s h y o u d i d n ’ t h a v e t o w o rk s o h a rd ?

Building Trust and Collaboration

13. If I could help you feel more supported, what would that look like?

14. Is there a way you would trust me to hold space?

15. What do you most need from me right now?

Valentina Manini
 Questions to
Connect and Be with Exiles

Creating Safety and Connection with the Exile

1. Is it okay if I sit with you for a while?

2. How are you feeling right now?

3 . W h a t d o y o u n e e d f r o m m e t o f e e l s a f e e n o u g h t o s h a re m o re ?

4. Can I just be with you, without trying to fix or change anything?

5. Is there something you’ve been wanting to tell me for a long time?

6. Do you feel like you’ve been alone for a long time?

7. How do you feel towards me being here with you now?

Understanding the Exile’s Experience

8. What are you most afraid of if I get close to you?

9. Would you like to show me what is going on in your life?

10. What do you believe about yourself or others because of it?

11. How do you feel when the protective parts take over and keep

you hidden?

12. What do you need the most from me right now?

Offering Compassion and Healing

1 3 . I s i t o k a y i f I c a r e f o r y o u r i g h t n o w , ju s t a s y o u a r e ?

14. How can I help?

1 5 . W h a t w o u l d i t f e e l l i k e t o b e m o r e c o n n e c t e d t o m e?

Valentina Manini
Hey You!
I'm glad we
found each other.
My name is Valentina.
I craft expanding and revealing
journeys into the subconscious to
heal what is hidden away, so that you
can live this one life on earth with ease, as the person you truly
are, and a heart-filling sense of purpose and wholeness.

I work mostly with Internal Family Systems (IFS) - an

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Warmly,
Valentina
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